AIBU

[MissingWinter]

I went to visit my friend round at hers on Thursday, we were sat together at her laptop, she went onto a particular site and started looking at some shoes and other clothing, once she had finished I took over and went to the men's section. Me DP and DS are due to go on holiday and I have been wanting to buy DP a few nice pairs of swim shorts. I see a nice pair which I liked and I was pretty sure that he would like (they were delivered today and he likes them)

As I clicked on them I said "Oh these are nice aren't they?" she just rolled her eyes, then she had a sudden outburst and said "You really make me sick why would you spend so fking much on a pair of swim shorts for him and no they're not nice I feel as if you are taking the p out of me, you want to spend that amount on s** but I don't see you giving money to people that need it"

I stayed silent because at that point I had to back track to make sure that is what she really said, and that I wasn't hearing things, before I could answer back she that she needs to go out and that I need to leave, but we were suppose to be spending the whole day together, and I had to travel pretty far to her house.

She always makes snide comments and I just ignore her, as I don't like confrontation, I haven't heard from her since and I have been wanting to call her today to apologise as she said that it felt as if I was taking the p* out of her.

Now I am thinking why should I call her and apologise? and why shouldn't I be able to spend what I like on him? Do you think I'm the one being unreasonable here?

There is no class so pitiably wretched as that whiches possesses money and nothing else

Andrew Carnegie

I don't think I could be friends with someone who would spend £450 on a pair of shirts, it's obscene

I don't care if you give to charity, or don't. I don't care if you spend this much money on shorts all the time. 'Noblesse oblige' as the French say. If you can buy 450 quid shorts, I'd expect you to contribute.

I actually expect everyone to do their part. But it's a lot easier to contribute when you have ridiculous amounts of spare cash.

@MinceSpies you said so much better than me!

Even if the shorts cost £300 or something

Lol. It's "or something".

£450 for a pair of shorts. I hope they're diamond fucking encrusted.

The shock of reading the price has caused me split my infinitives. 😭😭😭

Are you going to Maui ?

Flaunting money is extremely vulgar. Spending £450 for a Chavy looking pair of shorts when your friend came from , as you say, a different walk of life, well, it would have tipped me over the edge too.

I'm about to google fuck out of this website.

I need a good laugh. 🙄

Are these the shorts?

But OP was looking to buy a few nice pairs of shorts!

So we're probably talking around £1,350 for three pairs

What's your job OP?

I couldn't be friends with someone who not only thought it was reasonable to spend £450 on some shorts, but also doesn't see how thats a large amount of money. In a world where people are unable to feed their children, where people starve to death and where the people making that clothing are probably paid pence? Nah. sorry. couldn't do it. So, she probably was kinda rude throwing you out, but it sounds like this has been the straw that broke the camels back for her.

Those shorts are hideous.

Just looked at the 60% off plus section of the website. Not going to lie I am a bit in love with the d&g pineapple print bag. But no way would I spend over £900 on it.

If I had the cash for a £900 bag it'd have to be black. Or brown. Every day useage.

Exactly what pastures said. It seems the op WBU until it was mentioned she has money and now all of a sudden she is BU and the conversation has turned to how she should spend HER money. No. If you earn money you spend it as you please.
YWNBU unless you were shoving your money in her face. Either way she dealt with it badly she must know you have money so you buying overpriced shorts shouldn't be a surprise to her.

yes I was raised not to speak about me

Well, there's a Freudian slip if ever there was one. 😂

If she always makes snide comments, do you really want to remain friends. Friends aren't constantly snide to each other.

I was with you till you said the shorts were £450! Sorry I'm with her, I think it's stupid to spend that sort of money on a pair of shorts and yes if you have that sort of money to blow then I think you should spend your money on other things.

She's not a friend. It doesn't matter if the shorts are £450 or £4.50, it's your money to spend however you like.

It sounds like your friend is jealous.

As the saying goes - A fool and his money are soon parted.
A quick google shows that swim shorts can indeed be bought for this ludicrous price. The world has gone mad!. How on earth do they justify such a high price tag?
If you were my friend OP I would have made my views clear too - you have more money than sense and may as well get the word MUG tatooed on your head because you surely must be one.
Sorry to be so unkind on a Sunday morning

The fact is, if you post on a global forum like MN about an item of swimwear that costs more than most people's food bill, don't be surprised if people can't identify with you.

It's called not being totally clueless about other people's lives, struggles and priorities. Basically, its best to keep your mouth shut for fear, by opening it, of causing offence. And being the bigger person - even if the friend was looking at the website, it could have been wishful thinking, but it seemed the OP was actually considering buying the shorts.

Why are so many posters aghast at spending £450 on an item of clothing? I feel like I'm on a different planet sometimes.

I think your friend´s response this morning means that she would like you to leave her alone for now, OP. Just leave it for now. Don´t keep contacting her.

I've have tried to call her, but she let the phone ring through to voicemail, so I texted her "I'm sorry if I have upset you, can we speak please, I really don't want to loose your as a friend" and she instantly texted back "You already have, I don't want to know you anymore, don't call me"

VeryButchyRestingFace
yes I was raised not to speak about me

Well, there's a Freudian slip if ever there was one. 😂

yes I was raised not to speak about money

It is not nice how you are mocking me for making a very basic error, it is bound to happen whilst I am writing paragraphs trying to answer people's questions.

I don't think it's necessary for me to continue commenting as I've got the answer to the question that I originally asked. I just hope that my friend doesn't remain subborn and she eventually comes round.

Why are so many posters aghast at spending £450 on an item of clothing?

jeez