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To ask what/when was your last good deed?

179 replies

MyheartbelongstoG · 21/07/2017 15:04

Walking home from work earlier this week in the glorious sunshine, I came to a lady paying for her parking. She rolled her eyes as I got closer and then fanned her face. I said "oh, I know, its a scorcher. She said " oh you don't, I have a fractured spine " she said this as she was trying to get into her car but she winced as she was doing it so I asked her if she needed any help with anything, even to walk with her to where she was headed once parked and to close her sunroof. Felt lovely for the rest of the day.

So when was your last good deed?

Or even if you where the recipient would love to hear about it.

OP posts:
overitalready · 23/07/2017 20:27

Only yesterday an elderly lady was trying to help her even older friend to sit up straight in her wheel chair.

I stopped and helped to lift her back up straight - she thanked me as her bum was starting to go numb 😀

Then outside Wilkos there was a homeless man who I gave £5. He proceeded to shout at the top of his voice that I was the nicest person he had ever met 😳😳 I'm not

Timefortea99 · 23/07/2017 20:29

Lovely thread. Makes me want to be better, do better.

A couple of days ago in the supermarket carpark an elderly gent was packing in shopping away and he looked so weary. I was taking my trolley back and I told him I would take his too. He was really grateful. That's a bit of a feeble one but I am lethal with a trolley, a really bad driver, and pushing two was a bit of a risk! Must do better.

SirGawain · 23/07/2017 22:02

It's very laudible to try to help the homeless but gifts in kind, (coffee or Sandwich etc.), are better, as many, (not all), homeless people have addictions and other problems which may mean that they make poor spending choices

SirGawain · 23/07/2017 22:06

WinifredAtwellsOtherPiano Unfortunatley I have had to give up donating permanently do to a minor health condition. Not a danger to the recipient but could be to me. I am quite sad that i won't reach my hundred.

overitalready · 23/07/2017 22:16

sir Poor spending choices? Confused
These people are homeless who am i to judge what they spend it on? Ive choosen to give my money to them & with it they can spend it on whatever helps them get through the day / night.
I dont need to be told what to give to anyone.

neverhadanymarblestolose · 23/07/2017 22:45

I was a gestational surrogate for a friend and gave birth to her little boy two months ago. It was amazing to see their dream of being parents come true.

It was not so amazing that their pregnancy gave me stretch marks, given that I'd managed not to get any with my own two pregnancies!

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 23/07/2017 23:14

I agree overit

I really really hate mealy mouthed comments about not giving to beggars

They can spend it on what they like , maybe it will help them temporarily forgot the fact that they live in dirtty sleeping bag and sleep in a doorway every night

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 23/07/2017 23:14

neverhadanymarblestolose

Wow !!! You are a a very good friend

JeffVaderneedsatray · 23/07/2017 23:23

I was driving to the supermarket in the heat a couple of weeks ago and was just turning out of our road when my eye caught a chap with a walking stick. He looked really wobbly and as I was pulling in he nearly went his length.
I stopped to see if he was ok. Turned out he has MS and the heat was causing him problems. So I offered him a lift home, took him round to his house and made sure he was safe and sound before going on.
I think if we all smiled at each other and did the little things like letting a person wiht one or two bits in front of us in a queue then the world would be a nicer place.

JaceLancs · 23/07/2017 23:31

Lent friend a some money
Bought friend b breakfast
Donated via instagiv to a colleague who is doing a fundraiser for cancer research
Gave a parking ticket to someone as it still had a couple of hours left
All today!
I work for a charity and appreciate every gift no matter how small

Midnight24 · 24/07/2017 00:38

Gave parking ticket that had time left on it and took relative on holiday

Isadora2007 · 24/07/2017 00:42

Marbles- a baby!!! I can't say any of my good deeds could top that one. What an amazing and utterly wonderful human you are!!!

LellyMcKelly · 24/07/2017 01:06

Paid for the shopping of the young woman in front of me in Lidl. She realised she'd lost her purse and was nearly in tears, and I quietly said to the cashier 'just add it to my bill'. It was only a few pounds. Someone did this for me once when I was a student in the same situation, and I've never forgotten their generosity.

Winniethepooer · 24/07/2017 01:25

I buy my elderly neighbour the daily paper. She hasn't left her house for 14 years.

salsmum · 24/07/2017 01:49

I came into work early last night to help a fellow Carer who was new to the client and needed help

NameChangeFamousFolk · 24/07/2017 01:53

Recipient here. I had a wobbly turn as I got off the tube the other day. I sat down on the bench immediately outside the doors, and one of the guards from the office came towards me within seconds with a jug and glass of cold, lovely water.

He'd spotted me on the CCTV and thought I might need some help. Busy London tube, weekday morning, couldn't believe it. He was amazing.

Bodeccia · 24/07/2017 13:29

I was at a petrol station, when I noticed the woman in the car next to me was pacing backwards and forwards and speaking on the phone. The woman at the till was writing down details of the car. It turns out that she had left her purse at home. I saw how much it was on the pump, it was £20. I just paid for it, and told her to calm down and go home.

She wanted my details off me to give me the money back, I just said: pay it forward. If you're in the position to help someone or show kindness, please do so.

Made me feel connected with the world :)

JetBoyJetGirl · 24/07/2017 14:32

Met someone socially a couple of months ago who has autism and a mild learning disability.

They have had difficulties engaging with agencies over the past couple of years due to communication difficulties and understanding and have a couple of very sad stories to tell as a result.

I offered to act as their advocate and am now liaising with agencies and getting things sorted with them.

Is that a 'good deed'? I don't know. I think it's just about being a person and being able to offer something you have to give to someone who needs it. Why wouldn't you do that?

JetBoyJetGirl · 24/07/2017 14:53

Sorry, borderline learning disability rather than mild. I forgot the term. Their IQ is about 80.

magicstar1 · 24/07/2017 15:06

I was on the bus and a woman had no credit left on her card, and no cash so the driver told her to get off. I paid for her.

I was in a Subway and an old woman was confused by the menu. She just wanted tea and toast, so I took her around the corner to a cafe, sat her at a table and paid for her tea and toast.

Last week a woman put out a call for help on a FB group I'm on. She'd locked herself out of her apartment but left the balcony door open. She was 8 months pregnant with a one year old and totally stuck. I got DH to put his ladder on the car and we went up and got the door open for her (got in through the balcony)

FooFighter99 · 24/07/2017 15:59

The other weekend I gave a lady my car park ticket, we were on a 2hr max stay car park and had nipped to Clarks for new trainers for DD, we'd only been in the shopping centre for about 15-20 minutes so it had a good 1hr 40mins left on it. I always do that when leaving a car park if my ticket has got time left on it Smile

I once did it to a lady who happened to by my DD's Head teacher! She was very grateful

Orangebird69 · 24/07/2017 16:04

Was going to a Tom Jones concert at Sherwood Forest. I was driving to the grounds. There were a few people walking there from the nearest town. It's a fairly long walk so we stopped and asked a couple walking if they'd like a lift. They accepted gratefully! We also asked someone who was walking back in the dark with a young ish child if they wanted a lift somewhere (the road is unlit and has no pavement) but they were being picked up. Very very nice though and thanked us for asking. It felt good.

HappyEverIftar · 24/07/2017 16:58

Did a large food bank shop last week which I like to do every couple of months. I checked Facebook a few days ago and when they posted their updated shopping list, they referenced said shop and said thank you Smile. That's not why I do it, I'm just glad I managed to tick off the items on their list. I also gave my pre-paid parking ticket to a family as I had an hour left on it.

Ladymadness · 24/07/2017 17:12

I saved a squirrel from my cat yesterday 😁 poor thing hadn't noticed the cat so I called out the window "leave him alone" squirrel noticed and ran off whilst I shouted run my squirrel run 🤣 bet my neighbours think I'm weird 😂

I also helped a lady who had depression once. I noticed her comment something along the lines of "I feel like my dh is plotting to kill me and I'm hearing things that are not there" no-one had replied to her so I sent her an inbox explaining that this could be depression as she had a new born and sent her some links (I can't remember what it was called now) her and her dh went to the doc with this info and he agreed that she had that type of depression. She got the help she needed and I always feel happy about messaging her that day x

MrsHathaway · 24/07/2017 18:04

Lady that sounds like PPP which can be fatal. Well done.