To ask friends to come back early to look after their DC?
zazas · 21/07/2017 00:09
Friends are going to a wedding this Saturday and I'm looking after their two children. The wedding is at 12.30 and they are staying the night in their campervan. It's about 35 mins from where we live. I have a DD who is the same age as their DD which is why I was asked but she has now had to go away and won't be with us. It's just unfortunate it's this weekend as it would have been a very very rare moment with my DH and DD away and with only my teenage DS in the house to have caught up on myself but it is what it is. Anyway tonight my friend has said that on the Sunday morning they were now going to meet with friends for brunch and will be home early afternoon. I was expecting them home mid morning to be honest. If my DD was with us I could probably stretch the time out but I will have worked over 50 hours this week (because she is away) and need time to get on top of things on Sunday plus get back to my DS. I'm really not being unreasonable to ask them to be home earlier am I?
zazas · 21/07/2017 00:20
I agreed to the wedding as in I would expect that they would be reasonable around being away for that. It's not a close friend's wedding but a young guy who works for them and they only know one other couple going, so it's not a big catch up with friends or anything. As it is they are leaving at 11am for the 12.30 start. They know I have nothing on specifically on the Sunday... And I can't lie 🙄 My dd and theirs are 10 and the younger child is 5.
3boys3dogshelp · 21/07/2017 00:35
This is a bit weird OP! If it's not a close friend's wedding and is only half an hour away surely they could have just driven home after staying for long enough to be polite?! I'd be pretty pissed off if I was you. No need to lie - you haven't done anything wrong and you never agreed to mind their children all Sunday - just tell them you were expecting them to be home mid morning and have work to catch up with/don't want to leave your ds too long.
TheMysteriousJackelope · 21/07/2017 00:49
As they are 35 minutes away one of them could come back to collect their DD and then join the other parent and the friends for brunch afterwards.
But then the school run takes me 70 minutes there and back so it doesn't seem like much of a drive to me.
AnnieAnoniMouse · 21/07/2017 01:25
What is your DD going to go & do? I think unless it's VERY important, it's a bit off allowing her to go away when the other kids were expecting her to come to stay.
You have options
- say 'No, it's not ok for you to stay for brunch, I'm ok until x time, then I need to go home'
- drop the kids off to them early
- take the kids to yours after breakfast, put the telly on, let them bring screens. You'll barely know you've got them.
notangelinajolie · 21/07/2017 01:33
Give them a time they need to collect their DC by. Assuming Brunch is around 11 ish and they are only 35 mins away then it wouldn't be unreasonable to ask them to collect before 12.30. Tell them you are taking advantage of the fact your DC isn't at home and are going out for a special lunch together.
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.