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To ask friends to come back early to look after their DC?

183 replies

zazas · 21/07/2017 00:09

Friends are going to a wedding this Saturday and I'm looking after their two children. The wedding is at 12.30 and they are staying the night in their campervan. It's about 35 mins from where we live. I have a DD who is the same age as their DD which is why I was asked but she has now had to go away and won't be with us. It's just unfortunate it's this weekend as it would have been a very very rare moment with my DH and DD away and with only my teenage DS in the house to have caught up on myself but it is what it is. Anyway tonight my friend has said that on the Sunday morning they were now going to meet with friends for brunch and will be home early afternoon. I was expecting them home mid morning to be honest. If my DD was with us I could probably stretch the time out but I will have worked over 50 hours this week (because she is away) and need time to get on top of things on Sunday plus get back to my DS. I'm really not being unreasonable to ask them to be home earlier am I?

OP posts:
Sausagerollers · 22/07/2017 15:52

If they're only half hour away why don't you say "oh I'm heading in your direction anyway, so I'll drop the kids to you at 9.30 am, they can join you for your brunch, you won't have to rush, and I can get on with my day."

You know then that you'll be home just after 10 without the kids and can put your feet up.

pollymere · 22/07/2017 17:56

Their dd isn't going to want to hang around with you either. Tell them that you've got lunch plans so will need to hand over by 11:15 so you can get there.

Cookie37 · 22/07/2017 18:06

Yes, I'd do what Sausagerollers said ! Let us know what happens !

Minaktinga · 22/07/2017 18:47

Yes it's fine to say "really sorry but I expected you back by 11am, so prefer if you can pick her up by then please."

mummmy2017 · 22/07/2017 18:50

Hope you had a good day.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 22/07/2017 20:31

Good luck for the morning!

Janus · 22/07/2017 20:51

Did you reiterate the need to be out when the drop off happened? Hope they don't take the P* tomorrow.

kali110 · 22/07/2017 20:55

Bet they're not back at 1030...

PyongyangKipperbang · 22/07/2017 21:21

Anyone fancy gettting in on a sweepstake on what time they will be back and what their excuse will be?

I am going for 11.43 with they over slept.

LazyDailyMailJournos · 22/07/2017 22:03

Yep - I'm going for 1pm on the basis that they overslept and then there was traffic on the way back

OnlyRose · 22/07/2017 22:10

They'll send the OP an apologetic text at 10.30 saying they are on their way, but won't actually turn up until noon.

Allthebestnamesareused · 22/07/2017 22:22

I reckon they'll be back at the time they originally wanted to come!!

Brighteyes27 · 22/07/2017 22:44

They are really taking the piss. Gawd I would be happy to be home for 9am for a half day on the drink childfree evening and bit of a lie in.

I think if they can't commit to being back by 10am I would have to say sorry it may be better if you come home by midnight. Alternatively I need to be out at 10am prompt otherwise it may be better to make other arrangements for your DD.

kali110 · 22/07/2017 22:51

Yep, 12-30/1 witj 'unforeseen circumstances'

mogulfield · 22/07/2017 22:57

There's no chance they'll be on time tomorrow.

Jedimum1 · 22/07/2017 23:52

Take them to yours in the morning, send text tonight to parents to pick up from there. Once there, put TV on for them and do the housework you need to do whilst waiting for friends. Put your feet up and relax after they've picked up their kids. Then it won't matter what time they arrive because you'll have started your chores and once they go, you are already at home and ready to relax.

cherish123 · 22/07/2017 23:58

You could say you have plans for lunch so they have to come back. That would not be unreasonable. I would nor just say you must come back - it might sound a bit grumpy. A white lie is fine.

Jedimum1 · 23/07/2017 00:04

Sorry, just read update. Good that they are staying at yours. I don't think the 10am or 10:30 am is that much of an issue if you can do your chores around the house as planned whilst they are there.

Good on you for not asking and saying instead what you needed :)

Gemini69 · 23/07/2017 00:41

I'll wait with baited breath to see if they arrive home at 10:30am ...

I'm going to go out on a limb and suggest Not Halo

boo2410 · 23/07/2017 02:24

I've just RTFT and also reckon they won't be back at 10.30. I'm also reckoning it'll be early afternoon.

strawberrisc · 23/07/2017 05:07

Can I call 11.58?

HollyBollyBooBoo · 23/07/2017 05:30

The cheeky sods! Can't wait to hear when they actually arrive. Are you planning on your child free night when they repay this massive favour?!

Mulberryaddict · 23/07/2017 07:38

What on earth made them think that you would want to look after their kids most of Sunday as well as overnight ?? Some people are just selfish.

diddl · 23/07/2017 10:00

Still babysitting Op??

rollonthesummer · 23/07/2017 10:26

Any news?

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