To think this woman had no right to tell my son off

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So we were in the car park of a supermarket often the subject of a MN thread when DS (9) had taken the trolley back to redeem the £1.
Being a bit of a monkey he was trying to put the trolley back "handle to handle" as opposed to slotting it in. I called across to him to put it in right which he did. In the meantime I jumped in the car and drove the short distance for him to get in the car.
As I approached a woman was telling him off saying something along the lines of he shouldn't have spoken to her like that....
I asked what he'd said and she said "He was being cheeky" so I questioned again what exactly he'd said & she just repeated that he was cheeky. So I told her she had no right to tell him off, she said she wasn't and the exchange went on for several minutes with her still refusing to tell me what he'd actually said!!
I asked DS again and basically she'd told him it wasn't nice for him to put the trolley back wrong so in return he'd basically repeated back "well that isn't nice" (her telling him) at which point she had a go at him!
AIBU to think that if she had an issue that the least she could have done was spoken to me but in the grand scheme of things there was absolutely no need for her to say anything to him at all?!

Like I said before, their children will suffer the most from this. When they get to adulthood and they don't known how to interact with a person in a position of authority, or a person with more power than they have, they will be screwed

Yes I agree in some instances, and see plenty of examples IRL. I don't agree this is one of them. This is one of the most absurd reactions I've ever seen on MN, the kid tried to see if a supermarket trolley would go in back to front. Hold the front page, it's clearly a hidden sign he's going to end up down a very destructive path in no time at all! And telling a random stranger she wasn't very nice to say anything to him about it is a sure sign he's a future psychopath. Really??!

OP's name is something many posters clearly need to do themselves.

But then I've raised my children to do as they're told by their mother & they haven't needed to be told off by strangers

Aye. Most of us have raised our children not to talk to adults with zero/little respect, and to also managed to supervise them too. Such is parenthood.

so OPs ds is being bought up only to be pulled up by his parents. Good luck with that.

How do you know he's in top 5% for effort & behaviour? ?? These things aren't published.

This thread is like one massive cluster fuck of weirdness

No child is perfect. No parent is perfect. We all have moments where we want to strangle the little bastards, be it our own or someone else's but I wouldn't go round in real life telling people their kids were little shits for tampering with a shopping trolley.

If she said ' that wasn't very nice ' or ilk maybe he muttered something under his breath to Op in reaction to being shouted at from the car or maybe swore / used a rude word/ whatever. That would explain the woman not wanting to repeat it aswell. How ironic that she could've been actually defending the OP but getting an earful for it .

I agree with MissJC.

I'd add the OP is also unreasonable for being worked up about this. The entire thread and all the posters and people mentioned in the OP are unreasonable IMO

The Sun has taken an interest.
www.thesun.co.uk/living/4067680/mum-slams-stranger-telling-off-cheeky-son-supermarket-car-park/

Actual comment on the sun website:

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dog sbol-locks
6 hours ago
Should have put him in trolley then locked another one to it - future criminal gets jail.

Wtf

LMAO AT THE SUN

Hope the poor woman who you shouted at over your 'cheeky monkeys' behaviour sees this

😂

Isn't The Sun shit? .

Oh dear god, I've been quoted in The Sun. FOR SHAME!!!

Not fair, they haven't quoted me

Restless. I can see your embarrassment from here.

You NEED to learn the country ASAP.

Currently on the phone to my friend who last year moved somewhere in the Australian bush. Wait, is that remote enough?

No, it is not.

Phone Tim Peake, he's the only one who can help in this situation.

Stop picking on this woman.......can't you see so many people attacking a woman looking for support is bullying....whether you agree with her or not. This is the mean scene and you are a disgraceful.

Child's version:

Adult: Put the fucking trolley back properly you little bastard [slap]
Child: My goodness! Madam, you are being most unpleasant and I shall tell my Mummy

Actual scenario:
Adult: Put the trolleys back properly please
Child: [rolling eyes theatrically] Fuck off love or I'll tell my mum you tried to paedo me

Slight exaggeration but I work with kids and I know the drill

Holdbacktherain you have encapsulated everything I said last night on this post. So pleased some people can think for themselves. Hope OP is ok, there have been some vile posts

I think calling your son a little shit is bang out of order - I do however agree that the posters calling your son out with such a non-crofrontational comment as 'that wasn't very nice' are bang out of order too - ffs, exaggerate much?

MaryZ

When your child is rude to other people and you basically tell them to fuck off your child can do no wrong they must be a liar, you choose to ape a stereotypical jeremy kyle guest.

my opinion: This is a big part of how we are raising so many children to turn out twattish adults in the UK. No sense of social responsibility or decency to anyone else at all.

YABU.