Save the date but no invite

[Spuddington]

AIBU to think this is a bit rude?

Save the date received for wedding of an old friend. She lives up north now but we see each other as much as possible.

Wedding is creeping up and I haven't actually been invited. At all. Isn't that a little rude??

You guys need to stop writing 'STD' instead of save the date - it makes me think we're dealing with a completely Different problem!

I do like the idea of a public post on face book with the invite - why am I saving this date again?! Shame her. She's been nothing but rude to you

I would delete her from Facebook,Whatsapp and phone. Life's to short for rubbish people in your life. Oh my goodness Melting, that is unbelievably rude and crass. I gather they are not friends with the couple anymore. I woukd not take STD cards seriously, until an actual invite emerges.

Well i certainly wouldnt be seeing her again. Totally rude.

Unbelievably rude. She might get back to you if there's a drop out and say you can come but please don't!

We sent std's a year in advance and I recall it being tricky with predicting numbers for the wedding so we didn't send std's to everyone that was subsequently invited. However to send a std and then not invite....speechless

OP this happened to me recently - got the std then radio silence... when I sent a friendly email asking what had happened, I got an out of office reply saying they were on honeymoon. Then nothing... It's really hurtful but the best thing you can do is be glad the lying git is out of your life (no bitterness here!)

Shocked by these! I was friendly with a woman at work when I was planning my wedding and she was super keen. She later moved offices and we weren't so close but I still sent her invitation as we had a verbal save the date agreement of sorts. As it goes she declined a week before as she was going to a birthday party in another town.

Manners, not everyone has them!

OP pls just bite the bullet and call her, or her fiance. You're trying to avoid awkwardness but tbh she should actually do the right thing and apologise and explain, which she doesn't seem to want to do via text.
Then, for the love of god, report back.

Not quite the same as it's a significant birthday not a wedding, but I've just bombarded DP's mates with a Save The Date for next spring, as he's turning 60. I am keeping a track on everything as it would be very embarrassing if any of them turned up early or late or otherwise unexpectedly or worst of all not at all. They've all treated me with unfailing courtesy since I turned up in their school-friends' life and presented him with two daughters, why shouldn't I do the same?

On the morning of the wedding, tag her on Facebook with a photo of you all dressed up. She'll be on tenterhooks all day wondering if you are going to gate crash or not.

How did the wedding go in the end??