Save the date but no invite

[Spuddington]

AIBU to think this is a bit rude?

Save the date received for wedding of an old friend. She lives up north now but we see each other as much as possible.

Wedding is creeping up and I haven't actually been invited. At all. Isn't that a little rude??

I got an STD then was only invited to the evening... think she must have changed her mind!

I got an STD then was only invited to the evening..

After giving you the clap the very least you could have expected was an invite to the whole shindig.

@squoosh

Sorry op, but this thread is hilarious.

That's so rude of her!

I thought it was bad enough when we got a save the date, along with a request to plant cottage garden flowers to be used to decorate the church, and then only got invited to the evening reception!

How rude! Were you invited on the hen?

Just contact friend, say I got the save the date but not got an invite yet. I;d give them an out, is the wedding still on, are we still invited etc.

A save the date means you are invited.

If this isn't an oversight, then please ghost her.

After asking her about the std

Did you respond to the Save the Date? Have you had squealy "how exciting" conversation about her plans?

I wonder if you just read the STD, and then she sent an invitation, and it got lost...and now she thinks you're being rude in dropping her/ignoring the wedding?

Because, just as pp (Hen?) said, this cannot be true, it's just awful.

Errr. RUDE

Maybe she thinks you just haven't replied. Although a quick text from her a few weeks ago would have resolved that, so who knows.

After giving you the clap the very least you could have expected was an invite to the whole shindig

😅😅😅

Has she responded to your text yet, OP?

Don't text. Call!

Very rude! What exactly are you saving the date for? 😂

I see so many strange wedding related threads about things I've never come accross in RL.

I must live under a rock!

That is so rude!

Beyond rude! Hopefully it was an oversight, or the invitation has gone missing.

Just ask her: "Why did you want me to save the date for a wedding I'm not invited to?"

If you chase her up you can't then come back and complain you've been invited only to the cash bar evening do, with a money tree poem included.

Good you chased up. Would provsbly be a bit of a delay breaker if she STD'd you and then didbt even have the guts to retract it apologetically

My friend has done this to someone so it does happen. Quite shocking though!

Her wedding is in 6 weeks though- so not the same bride!

I'd definately have emailed to say "oh see your off on the Hen do, looking forward to your wedding, do you need to know our food choices?"

make her squirm (or if its an oversight/lost in post, still polite so they can rectify the error)

Obviously not invited, screw up the card, and do something nice instead, and distance myself a bit from her, very rude.

very rude and upsetting for you. Look forward to hear answer if you get one.