New mum clubbing

[MrsG841]

A friend of mine has just become a first time mum and her LO is 6 days old.

She messaged a few us to organise going clubbing at weekend.

AIBU to think that she shouldnt think about this at such an early stage?

Shock horror people mix feed.

People who are terrible at "mummying" didn't even bother with breastfeeding. Just stick a bottle in the moses basket and fly out the door is my advice.

thyme first thing I did after birth was have a bath and a cup of tea. Dds were with their dad asleep.

I'm guessing now I should have just sat in sweat and blood naked and gazed to their shuteyes for hours

mercury I was expressing from day 2 as my son wouldn't latch. Had to try and feed him every 2 hours, give a bottle of ebm then express every 3 though so a night on the tiles was very far from my mind.

She could probably express a bit, formula feed a bit and take a pump out with her for comfort? I'm sure she's thought about it.

I'm guessing now I should have just sat in sweat and blood naked and gazed to their eyes for hours

Well of course. Unless you want to be bad at "mummying" too. You can't possibly want that?!

emboo

I didnt say that you did say she was a bad mum

Mix feeding at six days old is just a recipe for making breastfeeding harder.

@thyme

Best to set the standards early I think

Do you think some of these people will write a book

Entitled "when being away from your baby isn't really being away from your baby"

A guide to help new mums with explanations as to why your boob isn't in their babies mouth. Volume 1.

And maybe she isn't bothered.

Thats allowed.

Formula is not poison

Sounds like she hasn't taken to motherhood yet and is in denial.

Sounds like she hasn't taken to motherhood yet and is in denial

How the actual fuck does it sound like that? I mean really, where do you draw that ridiculous conclusion from?

Giles

Chapter 1
'Successful Mummying'

Chapter 2: Martyrdom and Motherhood- how to achieve both.

I am nearly a decade in and still partying and clubbing. Maybe I am still in denial.

and selfish and bad at mummying Waybalooloo. Shame on you.

Good for her if she's getting it established early that she gets to have a life, too.

You can 'have a life' without leaving your 6 day old behind to go clubbing. 😂

ThymeLord

The 'actual fuck' is that if you have a six day old baby it is healthy to want to be with and nurture that baby and not go out clubbing. Say what you like but I'm sure the vast majority of new mums would rather be with their newborn.

Waybalooloo

Did you actually go clubbing when your baby was less than a week old though?

why not its normal for dads to 'wet the babys head'. Why can't mums have a little time out.

I saw the title of this thread and thought "new mum clubbing" was something akin to seal clubbing. Having seen some of the responses, maybe that would be a safer alternative.

I can't see how shed be physically ready but I can see why she'd want to do it to feel like a 'normal ' person that she was before. It's her choice and no one else's .

I was on a train to look at Anthony Gormley sculptures around the Thames on day 3. I had massive adrenalin rushes after all three babies which lasted about 6 months. This is her equivalent.

I do feel quite strongly that new mothers shouldn't be seal clubbing 6 days post partum. I'd judge her then.

That would make her an even worse person than the sort of twat who makes shit up about bonding and the like to try and shame someone for doing something they wouldn't have fancied doing themselves.