New mum clubbing

[MrsG841]

A friend of mine has just become a first time mum and her LO is 6 days old.

She messaged a few us to organise going clubbing at weekend.

AIBU to think that she shouldnt think about this at such an early stage?

Haven't rtt.

Has their been hundreds of posters saying it's fine?

Yup. And plenty of judgy mcjuddypants saying otherwise because it's clubbing and not tea with the ladies down the rotary club, or something.

I think going to the the pub wouldn't have evoked such strong emotions.
I think it makes lots of us wince - just thinking about jumping about in a club!
Poor engouged tits and ( even a little bit of a sore fanny to boot~ sounds uncomfortable)

You can drink and nurse safely.

There not their 😳

We've had a trained health care professional and still some of you want to argue the toss!

Why would we care what someone claiming to be a midwife thinks? What difference does that make?

I'm going to assume the midwife is real, and on that basis assume she knows a little about giving birth/aftercare.

She's probably pretending to be a midwife! This is getting absurd now.

Thanks six sounds great!

Yes, enjoy your drink Somerville!

Thank you Pengwyn! 6 weeks and counting until I can enjoy a guilt free bottle glass of Barolo then - slainthe!

I have returned to work at 10 days and then again at 14 days. I doubt that it will kill you going clubbing for a few hours

Dads do it all the time, so what f she wants to go out? It's not common and I can't think of anything worse going out a week after giving birth but I'm not the one who has given birth.

I have returned to work at 10 days and then again at 14 days.

well done you. Give yourself a pat on the back.

Well it's a little ridiculous people acting like it's impossible to do. Some people might not want to do it, but why judge people who are fine with it.

ThymeLord
The thing is, all this snarky judgement; nobody really cares. By that I mean, the judgey pants bridge don't actually care about the woman or the baby in this situation. It isn't about caring, none of these types of threads are actually about caring or wanting to help or make a difference, or even just understand. Instead it's about sitting in moral judgement and pursing your lips and saying well I would never do something like X, Y or Z, aren't I just better than you. It's tedious and transparent for the most part.

Totally agree and OP you don't sound like a friend to me, more a I-know-best, with your judgey pants hoiked so high you are in danger of strangling yourself.

whatever you lot, i'd judge the pants off her. and having a baby is not the same for the dads! i'm sure many would love that () but it's just nooooottt the same, ok cool girls? if she feels up to it that's one thing but what about her baby? crappy, crappy mumming imo. v selfish.

Calling us "cool girls" makes you look like a 12 year old who asks Mummy what she should think about the argument. Bore off.

Why? Why is it crappy "mummying"? What exactly is selfish about it?

BUT SHE HASN'T EVEN GONE OUT YET AND GOT SHITFACED. GETTING DRUNK ISN'T COMPULSORY

OP said, she's never gone out and not gotten drunk.

I haven't RTFT, but from what I can gather I do disagree with most of the posters. I was big on the forth trimester with dd - when your baby has always been with you for 9 months, I do think it's too soon for you to be away from them. I wouldn't say anything, but I wouldn't agree it's best. Even if you think it's best for you, I don't believe it's best for the baby at a few days old.

What about her baby? At 6 days old none of my babies gave much of a shit about anything at all so long as they were fed, warm, and dry. Three to four hours away from mum isn't going to lead to a lifetime of attachment issues and is far, far, far from crappy mumming.

Also, mumming...?