New mum clubbing

[MrsG841]

A friend of mine has just become a first time mum and her LO is 6 days old.

She messaged a few us to organise going clubbing at weekend.

AIBU to think that she shouldnt think about this at such an early stage?

Thank you rhubarb . I'm a vey good one actually and treat all my mams with respect , dignity regardless of way they feed . I don't give a shit how you feed your baby . As I explained I have both formula fed and breastfed so was staying my own feelings on how I felt .

What so none of you have ever passed your baby to your dp and gone for a bath and a nap

Yes that's exactly the same as going to a club and getting smashed out of your face on alcohol and feeling like shit with a hangover the next day.

i don't ever pressure women to breastfeed or formula feed and support all my mams the best I can ,whatever way they choose to feed . I have done both methods of feeding so an impartial . All I care about is doing my job to the best of my ability . I'm very privelaged to be part of this special moment in a family's life and am most happy when I discharge mam over to the health visitor and she is happy , confident and enjoying motherhood (of course there are times it's not all rosy and picture perfect)

Please explain what is bollocks ???

The whole nonsense about what "nature intends" and your complete lack of knowledge about infection risks, just for starters.

"Yes that's exactly the same as going to a club and getting smashed out of your face on alcohol and feeling like shit with a hangover the next day."

You realise that getting drunk at a club is not, in fact, compulsory?

As others have said, this is totally because a woman wants to go clubbing. Inverse snobbery and cuntish judging at it's finest.

Yes that's exactly the same as going to a club and getting smashed out of your face on alcohol and feeling like shit with a hangover the next day

BUT SHE HASN'T EVEN GONE OUT YET AND GOT SHITFACED. GETTING DRUNK ISN'T COMPULSORY.

She may well only stay out a short while and go home again. Until you find her passed out on the pavement clutching a half eaten kebab let's not get ahead of ourselves

feeling like shit with a hangover the next day.

Once more - this baby does have a father as well.

It's not an issue, but it's not ideal is it? Especially as OP says she's breast feeding. But yes, it's not the end of the world parenting with a hangover (although it feels a bit like it at 6am).

OP has already said her friend will be getting hammered.

And I think you mean 'snobbery' rather than inverse snobbery.

It's not snobbish to think getting shitfaced when you have a six day old baby is as rough as arseholes. Whether that's clubbing, drinking cheap cider on a park bench or quaffing brandies at Claridges.

Getting falling down drunk when you have a week old baby is shitty parenting. And I say that as someone who did it.

I think the alcohol passes to your breast milk? Pen

I used to go out and get pissed all the time.
I still went out after. I stopped getting pissed though.

She just have up drinking for nine months clearly she can control herself.

And to remind you just like a pp did. THERE'S A DAD TOO.

I don't see what's wrong with her wanting a night out. Do you suddenly stop being a person in your own right when you become a Mum? Yes if she's breastfeeding she shouldn't be drinking, but who says she will do?

YABU

My goodness !
We've had a trained health care professional and still some of you want to argue the toss!
A fucking midwife at that!
Unbelievable.

"Until you find her passed out on the pavement clutching a half eaten kebab..."

ahhhh, happy memories

Why do so many people still think the mother is the only parent who matters?

Ok fair enough Pen I didn't know that.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties

Alcohol passes into your breastmilk the same way it passes into your bloodstream, so the amount of alcohol in a mother's body sufficient enough to have any effect on a nursing baby, would have killed the mother first.

The dangers in drinking and nursing are only insofar as being able to hold a baby without falling over and dropping it. You can drink and nurse safely.

"OP has already said her friend will be getting hammered.

And I think you mean 'snobbery' rather than inverse snobbery. "

Do I? Maybe. And as for your first point, can you or the OP give me saturday's lottery numbers please?

Thanks in advance.

Getting falling down drunk when you have a week old baby is shitty parenting.

Getting falling down drunk while you are looking after a week old baby is shitty parenting, but as has been pointed out many times, the baby has another parent who will be looking after him/her.

Is that right, Stroke? It's been 10 years since I last had a baby, and advice then was definitely to pump and dump after booze. Can I dispense with the indignity of that this time round??

"We've had a trained health care professional and still some of you want to argue the toss!
A fucking midwife at that!"

Somebody claiming to be a fucking midwife with some very dubious views on nature, mothers being stuck in the 50s and ignorant nonsense about infection.

So... yeah. Totally trustworthy.