Sleep, so I quite possibly am

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So DD 18 months has been up since 10:00 and is still not happy. She has had calpol, cuddles, banana and water and she isn't unwell. I've been up with her until now, lying on her floor, holding her in my arms etc.

I've just woken DP up so I can get a couple of hours sleep. He is pissed off. He works and I am a SAHM with two older children. I usually do all wake ups and have done with all of them but he is really good at early mornings as he is a bit of an early bird. Was I unreasonable to wake him? I think the thunder would have even if I didn't .

Sorry I think you were unreasonable. Early bird doesn't mean 2am! It means like 6.

Yeah that was really early

Couldn't you have left your daughter to sleep?

I'm sorry but yes I do think YABU.

Yes, YABU.

"Early mornings" are not a thing at 2am. That's absurd.

If your partner has to get up and go to work then waking him at 2am is out of order

Just because you are a sahm doesn't mean you can (or should have to) function with zero sleep. It is totally reasonable to ask your dp to do a share of the parenting, which includes parenting at night.

2am is nighttime, not morning! YABU

Not unreasonable at all. You need some sleep to function too.

Why are you staying up with a child who isn't unwell?! Yell her its bedtime and leave repeat until she gets the idea. Its madness that anyone is laying on her floor all night, let alone waking your DH at 2am because he's an "early bird"

Tell not yell, obvs!

YABU! You don't work, Your DP's sleep should be the priority,

Sorry but you were U. 2am is middle of the night not early morning.

2am is the middle of the night
I can't believe you would wake someone then.
I think you both need to work on sleep training your 18mo.

Why are you pandering to a 2 year old who isn't poorly?

Put her in her bed and walk out.

If she cries, go in, lay her down and walk out again.

You are rewarding her behaviour by sitting there cuddling her

2am is not mornings, but YANBU to ask for some help so that you can get some sleep. SAHM's need sleep to function too.

Why are you pandering to a 2 year old who isn't poorly?

She's not 2

Yes I would and have done this. But I am of the mind that I also needed sleep to function the next day looking after the children. Obviously if your dh's job is saving lives or something critical where a lack of sleep would have serious consequences then no, but mine doesn't so I was 50/50 from the start.

My dd used to be like this. Once awake, awake for hours. Next time, ask your dp to move to her bed so that he can sleep and you can rest. Then take her to bed or at least in the bedroom with you.

Gosh- when I had small children and worked part time- I needed more energy for the staying at home days! They were much more demanding.

4/4.30 would have been reasonable, 2am is the middle of the night.

So dd has been awake since 10pm, so for 4 hours you've been lying on her floor while she's awake? What is her sleep usually like?

I think it is fine to swap in with dh, you shouldn't have to do all night wakings, but don't kid yourself that 2am is an early morning, it is still very much night time!

It sounds like your 18mo is the boss in your house

Not a chance I'd cuddle DD for 4 hours in the middle of the night if there was nothing the matter and she just wouldn't sleep.

I think your problem is all the faffing about and laying on the floor with her. Put her back to bed. Id be annoyed if I were him, not at getting involved and helping but at all the unnecessary chaos that has enabled her to mess about for four hours! 2am is not an early start, it's night time.

Wtf people so op isn't allowed any sleep?

Op yanbu, I'm at home with our 1 yo and dh does pretty much the same amount of night wake ups as me. I still need sleep.