So who was wrong? Me or her? Asda aisle kerfuffle.

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So standing in front of the face creams in Asda, deciding which one I wanted. I am not generally an aisle hogger and had been there all of 10 seconds, when a woman reaches in front of me to grab something, arm in face scenario.

I then say 'excuse you, if you'd just said excuse me, I would have moved out of your way. '

She then says 'oh, we all forget ourselves sometimes don't we?'

I then say 'yes, so it seems' and move off up the aisle.

She then loudly shouts at me 'stupid woman!' I reply 'and you.'

I then come across her (think she followed me) among the kale and broccoli, where she walks past me shouting down the aisle 'excuse me' giving me evils.

I say 'so, you found some manners then' and she flounces off.

I admit to be a bit hypervigilent around the store expecting my hair to be yanked or her imagined 7ft brick shit house son to accost me in the frozen section.

On relating this adrenaline fuelled event to DH back home, he said I shouldn't have said anything to her as she might have garrotted me, it was Asda after all.

So should we not correct people's bad manners for fear of violence then, so like irascible toddlers they think they can behave as they like?

What you said was fine. I hate impolite people.
She sounds a bit unhinged.

I think probably just let it wash over you, it seems you escalated a situation for no reason

No I would have said similar or something like "I think the words you are looking for are excuse me"

I hate when people reach across you to get something

Sounds like you love to have the last word. She sounds rude. You were both childish.

You both sound like a pair of children. But here is where you made the first error:
I then say 'yes, so it seems' and move off up the aisle.

You didn't need to make sure you had the last word here. It's not a contest, it's not a battle -- we do all sometimes forget ourselves and it's not like this other woman was being deliberately malicious OR that you were blocking the aisle on purpose.

Chill out a bit next time. Don't make everything into a war.

Depends on the tone of voice she used for her initial reply. I'm reading it as she was civil (we do all have moments!), & you gave her a snarky 'so it seems', rather than a 'yes, we do - no harm done'.

What does 'it was Asda after all mean' ?

Anyway you sound a bit up yourself so YABU.

You had already made your point with the first comment.
Just how close were you to the creams anyway?

I think you were both bad mannered to be fair. I'm not sure why you're painting yourself as the hero of the hour and the corrector of bad manners when uoh were also rude.

"oh sorry you were so rude to walk in front of my trolley" works for me.

They hear the word 'sorry' and assume you are apologising. . .
Smile and walk away. . If /when they click what you actually said you are aisles away!!

I think you started it matey.

I don't personally find it rude for someone to pick something off of a shelf I'm standing at- unless they're weird about it. I'd probably find it ruder if they said excuse me with an expectation that I should interrupt my shopping so they could do theirs TBH.

You're not bu. Does my head in when people reach across, or just nonchantly stroll in front of you when you are looking at something, without so much as an acknowledgement of your existence. I've even had people just stand in front of me ? Some people are just rude. But she sounds unhinged.

I tend to say very little to people who I feel have wronged me in public because I just don't see the point. They've made it this far in their lives behaving this way and a seconds long encounter with a stranger in the supermarket isn't going to give them any kind of epiphany to change their ways.

You both sound as bad as each other.

I say 'so, you found some manners then' and she flounces off

I mean, really, why??? 🙄

Sounds like you met your match.
You both sound like knobs

It was Asda after all?

You are the one who carried it on after the second comment and then tried to get the last word in. Are you sure you were there only 10 seconds?

You both sound childish.

You started it.

What do you mean by it's asda after all
Maybe you should stick to waitrose

You were aggressive from the get go and set the tone for the whole encounter.

You both behaved a bit like toddlers. The only thing missing was sticking your tongue out or shouting "nerrr nerrr". It sounds like an embarrassing episode, best forgotten.

I like your use of the word "Kerfuffle". I dislike your snobbery about Asda and the implication that the people shopping there are ill mannered oiks who might "garrott" you.

You sound quite posh, have you been barred from Waitrose for scuffling in the aisles correcting people's bad manners?

See, I find if someone does something a bit rude like that, it's better to look at them, or say 'oops' or something in a pleasant way, then they feel obliged to apologise. What she did was no big deal, you chose to say something, she chose to reply.

Honestly, I find most people pleasant and nice in supermarkets, car parks, on the roads, I think erring on the side of assuming people didn't mean it/were unthinking rather than actively trying to be rude to you has much better outcomes.

How did you think this was going to go down?

You were both rude. And childish.

You should both be embarrassed

Anyway you should do the British thing and give them a sour look and perhaps a tut, not have a full on shouting match on the aisles.

It was Asda after all

You sound like a dick.