So who was wrong? Me or her? Asda aisle kerfuffle.

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So standing in front of the face creams in Asda, deciding which one I wanted. I am not generally an aisle hogger and had been there all of 10 seconds, when a woman reaches in front of me to grab something, arm in face scenario.

I then say 'excuse you, if you'd just said excuse me, I would have moved out of your way. '

She then says 'oh, we all forget ourselves sometimes don't we?'

I then say 'yes, so it seems' and move off up the aisle.

She then loudly shouts at me 'stupid woman!' I reply 'and you.'

I then come across her (think she followed me) among the kale and broccoli, where she walks past me shouting down the aisle 'excuse me' giving me evils.

I say 'so, you found some manners then' and she flounces off.

I admit to be a bit hypervigilent around the store expecting my hair to be yanked or her imagined 7ft brick shit house son to accost me in the frozen section.

On relating this adrenaline fuelled event to DH back home, he said I shouldn't have said anything to her as she might have garrotted me, it was Asda after all.

So should we not correct people's bad manners for fear of violence then, so like irascible toddlers they think they can behave as they like?

stickthatinyourpipe you're doing it all wrong. You need to waste your money in Waitrose

I love how because your not getting the responses you want you've decided to try make it sound worse 😂😂.

Didn't work tho sorry love- your still being unreasonable, put your big girl panties on and get over it

By that logic then no one can pull anyone up anyone on bad manners whether it be accidentally on purpose running over someone's foot with their pram, parking on a dropped kerb blocking access for wheelchairs to cross, or pointing out that someone being intentionally provocative for a knob head argument in Asda, because its uncouth to do so.

Yeah bollocks to that.

If grown ups dont want to be called out on their behaviour, they should try acting like a grown up.

You were worse.
Yes she didn't paint herself in glory but I think with your initial comment it would get most people's backs up. What she did wasn't even anything to get annoyed about in my opinion. She was just being defensive because you were being confrontational. You were rude so you should realise that if you're rude to people you get back as good as you give. Stop trying to play the poor innocent victim.

I reach around people all the time.

I didn't realise I was being so rude getting my filthy arm near their precious faces.

I think if you realise someone else is trying to look at / access the same bit of shelf as you, it's polite to move over a little bit so you can both see things. I have been the "other woman" in your post in this scenario in the past, and I didn't say excuse me because I was annoyed the woman could definitely see I wanted to get something from the shelf she was in front of, but didn't shift at all. After waiting for a bit I reached over her and took what I wanted and then she got arsey with me for not saying excuse me. But she had definitely been making me wait when there would have been space for both of us, which seemingly you didn't do OP!

If grown ups dont want to be called out on their behaviour, they should try acting like a grown up

That is fine if you want to call people out on their behaviour, but it is bad manners. It is up to you if you want to do it anyway, but the post I was originally answering was someone saying how they had been taught good manners as a child and so would have said to the other person how they had been 'dragged up'. That is not good manners and it would make them just as rude. It was the irony I was calling out.

It's a shelf in a supermarket, ffs. Most people dash around chucking the same stuff in their trolley every week. It's not like you were picking an engagement ring.

Some people would take it personally if a bird shat on their head.

eBay your ego OP; you'll feel better for it.

You were wrong - I don't understand why you made the first comment. If someone is stood infront of something I want in the supermarket I reach across. I'm not going to interuppt their shopping but also I am not going to be hanging around while someone makes a decision x

Oh dear op this kind of thing never happens in Waitrose.

As said earlier, it was the "So it seems" comment that was wrong.

I remember a while back making a sincere and lengthy apology to a mum at school after my son had got a bit rough with her son during a play tussle. She responded with a really sarcastic comment about my son which had me in tears once she'd walked off. Similar thing really.

Totally your fault OP. There was no need for your original comment in the first place.

What is wrong with the good old-fashioned sotto voce tut? YABU: no need to start a slanging match over such a minor annoyance.

You sound as bad as the other woman with regard to behaving like a silly child, and moreover (re: the Asda-sneer), lacking in class.

What is wrong with the good old-fashioned sotto voce tut? YABU: no need to start a slanging match over such a minor annoyance.

Just wait until Christmas when there's fistfights over the Brussel sprouts!

I think you over reacted to the reaching for something. I would have let that go.

OP, is this the new Asda that's reopened in Luton again?

Today was the opening day and family sent me a picture of the line to get in/huddle to enter the shop

YABVU, you pulled her up on it (which really wasn't necessary), she tried to make light of it, and you come back with a condescending 'yes, so it seems' while moving off up the aisle, I suspect with your nose in the air, so you had the last word.

Just in case you haven't got the gist of the replies on this thread, you are not special, you are not the manners police and you certainly are not any better than the other ASDA shoppers. You have a nasty, patronizing attitude which if you don't put into check will get you into trouble one day. When it does, do remember it wouldn't of happened if you hadn't started it.