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So who was wrong? Me or her? Asda aisle kerfuffle.

168 replies

user1498726699 · 16/07/2017 17:24

So standing in front of the face creams in Asda, deciding which one I wanted. I am not generally an aisle hogger and had been there all of 10 seconds, when a woman reaches in front of me to grab something, arm in face scenario.

I then say 'excuse you, if you'd just said excuse me, I would have moved out of your way. '

She then says 'oh, we all forget ourselves sometimes don't we?'

I then say 'yes, so it seems' and move off up the aisle.

She then loudly shouts at me 'stupid woman!' I reply 'and you.'

I then come across her (think she followed me) among the kale and broccoli, where she walks past me shouting down the aisle 'excuse me' giving me evils.

I say 'so, you found some manners then' and she flounces off.

I admit to be a bit hypervigilent around the store expecting my hair to be yanked or her imagined 7ft brick shit house son to accost me in the frozen section.

On relating this adrenaline fuelled event to DH back home, he said I shouldn't have said anything to her as she might have garrotted me, it was Asda after all.

So should we not correct people's bad manners for fear of violence then, so like irascible toddlers they think they can behave as they like?

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RhubardGin · 16/07/2017 19:33

You both sound like twats!

thebigbluedustbin · 16/07/2017 19:34

YABU and arrogant.

It's fine to reach and grab something from a shelf someone else is looking at. The other woman was going about her business getting her shopping done, you and your feelings won't even have registered in her mind when she grabbed the face cream she wanted. Maybe she was a little close to you, but she didn't do anything wrong. You maybe we're OK with the first comment, but everything else was your rudeness

AwaywiththePixies27 · 16/07/2017 19:37

I've always said sorry or excuse me before reaching in front of someone to get something off a shelf.

Thought it was good manners

LoveDeathPrizes · 16/07/2017 19:38

This is weird. It's a shop. There's no queues when standing at shelves and there's presumably enough distance between you and the product that she can grab what she wants. I think it's more aggressive to say excuse me in that scenario.

ThymeLord · 16/07/2017 19:40

Love the faux innocent "They sell kale in asda"?

No love, just pot noodles and rizlas.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 16/07/2017 19:42

No love, just pot noodles and rizlas.

Oi! My DCs love the pot noodles! Grin

treehugs · 16/07/2017 19:49

This happened to me once. I was heavily pregnant and hungry. In Tesco sandwich fridge bit and I am in a world of my own and I need to access a sandwich that is shielded by a couple.

I lean over and said "sorry" and smiled and grabbed sandwich.

The bloke then pipes up - "you could have said excuse me that is such bad manners. You leant across my gf"

I was so shocked and said "well I did say sorry as I reached over"

to which he said "so rude aren't you?"

I said "I think you are rude starting on me over reaching over to get a sandwich"

I was actually upset about it! So I think you should have not said anything - it's not the end of the world really. Worse things have happened !

MissionItsPossible · 16/07/2017 19:52

Who's going to play you in the movie?

Eolian · 16/07/2017 19:52

Reaching across you at a posh dinner party might be a terrible faux pas, but in a supermarket aisle I really don't think it's a big deal. Whereas picking a stranger up on their manners over such a minor thing is very rude.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 16/07/2017 20:06

A man did once get quite irate with my dh at the checkout. He accused dh of "coughing into the back of his neck" and was really quite aggrieved about it. Shock

It didn't escalate though. We just backed away a little.

EarlessToothlessVagabond · 16/07/2017 20:09

I just love you for the use of the word 'kerfuffle' alone tbh.

Ropsleybunny · 16/07/2017 20:09

I'd have said something like:

"sorry, am I in your way? they need to make the shop bigger" and laughed....

Life is too short to have a row in Asda, a shop which is perfectly fine BTW.

Ropsleybunny · 16/07/2017 20:11

Love the faux innocent "They sell kale in asda"?

No love, just pot noodles and rizlas.

Thank you, best laugh I've had all day Grin Grin Grin

AntiopeofThemyscira · 16/07/2017 20:17

How pathetic. I've had a few supermarket bundles but couldn't get worked up about this. Maybe she didn't want you to feel you had to move so just quickly grabbed what she knew she wanted. I'd say this was more you than her and I bet you made sure you got a good look before you can commented to ensure she was someone you weren't worried about Taking On.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 16/07/2017 20:18

Asda also sell unicorn gummies that are the bees knees.

may have once inhaled/nicked a bag intended for DD (NB not a total monster I did replace them).

ThymeLord · 16/07/2017 20:20

I love a pot noodle. Clearly I'm a typical asda shopper if I'm buying rizlas in there too Wink

EllaHen · 16/07/2017 20:20

Is this a reverse? Wink

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notaslimceagirl · 16/07/2017 22:48

Nice ageism there op.

Deux · 16/07/2017 22:55

Oh my this made me properly laugh out loud as soon as I read it.

It takes a lot to make me laugh out loud, Frasier excepted.

In fact the Asda/garrotting might have come straight from Niles' mouth. Smile

paxillin · 16/07/2017 22:58

You sound like Vicky Pollard.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 16/07/2017 23:11

It was full arm in face You're so indignant, that's verging on assault Grin I love the way you've ramped up the account OP.

Probably best to forget it now and follow the Asda customer etiquette: apologise for anything that's not your fault to avoid confrontation and don't speak to other customers where possible.
Or stick to Tesco's.

BooopBooop · 17/07/2017 06:42

A man did once get quite irate with my dh at the checkout. He accused dh of "coughing into the back of his neck" and was really quite aggrieved about it.

Your DH isn't one of those dreadful people who queues with no respect for personal space is he? One of my pet supermarket peeves is those shoppers who shuffle as close as possible behind you in the queue. At least buy me a drink first FFS. Hmm

OP YABU

BadLad · 17/07/2017 06:58

I am generally a Tesco kind of gal

Ah. So this thread was just one long stealth boast.

eatabagofdicks · 17/07/2017 07:03

'Tit deep in the kale.'

😂😂😂😂😂😂