So who was wrong? Me or her? Asda aisle kerfuffle.

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So standing in front of the face creams in Asda, deciding which one I wanted. I am not generally an aisle hogger and had been there all of 10 seconds, when a woman reaches in front of me to grab something, arm in face scenario.

I then say 'excuse you, if you'd just said excuse me, I would have moved out of your way. '

She then says 'oh, we all forget ourselves sometimes don't we?'

I then say 'yes, so it seems' and move off up the aisle.

She then loudly shouts at me 'stupid woman!' I reply 'and you.'

I then come across her (think she followed me) among the kale and broccoli, where she walks past me shouting down the aisle 'excuse me' giving me evils.

I say 'so, you found some manners then' and she flounces off.

I admit to be a bit hypervigilent around the store expecting my hair to be yanked or her imagined 7ft brick shit house son to accost me in the frozen section.

On relating this adrenaline fuelled event to DH back home, he said I shouldn't have said anything to her as she might have garrotted me, it was Asda after all.

So should we not correct people's bad manners for fear of violence then, so like irascible toddlers they think they can behave as they like?

Your first comment - ok.
After that,YA both BU.
As an adult not really your job to work on the manners of other adults....

Maybe the op needs spectacles? Nobody needs to stand so close to the shelf people can't reach across.

I do so while apologising outwardly and inwardly thinking "FFS stop mooching against the shop fittings!" 🇬🇧

So what is the correct thing to do? Wait until the first person there has moved? If they are not sure what to get and you know what you want, I can see havng to wait an indeterminate length of time frustrating.

You sound like a bit of a twat and like you were spoiling for a row, she sounds like a twat too so you were both in good company.

Correct thing to do:

1. Say "excuse me" and wait for them to move.
2. Say "sorry" and reach across.

Incorrect things to do:

1. Mutter something passive aggressive and humph until the person in the way reads your mind/realises you are huffing at them.
2. Push past without the obligatory sorry.
3. Cause a diplomatic incident because you have no class.

They sale kale in Asda??

I always move out of the way if I'm perusing the chocolate vegetable aisle for too long.and someone wants to reach something.

Surely if you're going to be judgemental about other people's bad manners, you should be aware that it's rude to comment it.

I don't think either of you come out well here.

Both childish.

Your Asda comment means I'm on that other woman's side a bit tbh.

"They sale kale in Asda??"

I might have tutted if she reached over me or whatever but I would not have behaved as you did. How childish.

Good for you! I would have done the same.

Both a pair of dicks tbh

Hilarious asda comments.

Fucking snobs.

You were both childish and argumentative

It really wasn't worth starting a shouty row in Asda over

You both sound like a pair of chavs to be honest. Where either of you in your pjs?

You're both as bad as each other. You call her out for bad manners but then acted extremely childishly and ill mannered yourself. You both sound rude, lacking in manners and immature.

What a snotty snobby cow you are

You could try getting yourself under control and not gobbing off at strangers. Then your day would go more smoothly.

I then say 'excuse you, if you'd just said excuse me, I would have moved out of your way. ' fair enough

She then says 'oh, we all forget ourselves sometimes don't we?' she's right we do, she was trying to diffuse

I then say 'yes, so it seems' and move off up the aisle. that was rude and uncalled for. Have a word with yourself.

She then says 'oh, we all forget ourselves sometimes don't we?'

I think she was quite polite to you. You should have left it at this.

OP you were right to pull her up on your first comment but should've been the bigger person and left it there.

Some nasty comments on this thread

I sympathised with you until the.
"It is Asda after all" comment
We can't all afford Waitrose.
If you and your dh think you're a cut above Asda. Why where you in there

She was rude initially but you were too at the broccoli aisle by bringing it up again.

I think you should have stepped back and let her get the thing she wanted. She was reaching across to signal that she knew exactly what she wanted. The polite thing for you to have done would have been to step back, she grabs the thing she wants, you continue browsing. No need for any of this. You obviously think you're a cut above the rest of the shoopers in there, I advise you stick to the local deli and organic farmers market in future.