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So who was wrong? Me or her? Asda aisle kerfuffle.

168 replies

user1498726699 · 16/07/2017 17:24

So standing in front of the face creams in Asda, deciding which one I wanted. I am not generally an aisle hogger and had been there all of 10 seconds, when a woman reaches in front of me to grab something, arm in face scenario.

I then say 'excuse you, if you'd just said excuse me, I would have moved out of your way. '

She then says 'oh, we all forget ourselves sometimes don't we?'

I then say 'yes, so it seems' and move off up the aisle.

She then loudly shouts at me 'stupid woman!' I reply 'and you.'

I then come across her (think she followed me) among the kale and broccoli, where she walks past me shouting down the aisle 'excuse me' giving me evils.

I say 'so, you found some manners then' and she flounces off.

I admit to be a bit hypervigilent around the store expecting my hair to be yanked or her imagined 7ft brick shit house son to accost me in the frozen section.

On relating this adrenaline fuelled event to DH back home, he said I shouldn't have said anything to her as she might have garrotted me, it was Asda after all.

So should we not correct people's bad manners for fear of violence then, so like irascible toddlers they think they can behave as they like?

OP posts:
GnoraBatty · 17/07/2017 07:07

I met someone like op in Tesco once. I picked up some wine next to a woman. Didn't put my arm in her face or anything quite as dramatic as Asda woman, but still got a sarky rude response.
Op, ywbu and you made yourself look like a right dick.

Bluntness100 · 17/07/2017 07:09

I am generally a Tesco kind of gal. Ah. So this thread was just one long stealth boast

Bwahahahaha. Best line of the morning,😂

Op. It's the fact you shouted at her over the kale "so you found some manners then" for no good reason other than to continue it and get the last word, that's the issue.

You may be banned from Tesco if they hear about your Asda fighting shenanigans....

LDN17 · 17/07/2017 07:09

I think you were both as bad as each other. And you started the silly little confrontation by having a go at her for reaching over to get something. Then it all went from there. I think the pair of you need to grow up.

iwantedanap · 17/07/2017 07:10

Well I'm not a big fan of people reaching across me without saying excuse me BUT you were rude to her several times. No excuse for her shouting at you but honestly neither of you exactly covered yourselves in glory here!!

Guitargirl · 17/07/2017 07:11

Methinks you are just on a wind-up OP.

Who the hell gets all sniffy about the class of shoppers in ASDA whilst, um, shopping in ASDA?

notaslimceagirl · 17/07/2017 07:16

I think ops on a wind up too. Playing MN bingo perhaps?

GnoraBatty · 17/07/2017 07:17

Yes, it does seem a bit too good to be true.

iwantedanap · 17/07/2017 07:19

Oh God!! Starting the day with a good laugh op. Who was being unreasonable me or her??
Mumsnet consensus.... Both of you!!

Op: are you being serious? It was her she was a rude old trout!!!

GrinGrin

HipsterHunter · 17/07/2017 07:20

You started it. And continued it. Try and be more aware of your surroundings and don't let little things like people reaching across you bother you.

What skin off your nose was it that DH reached across you anyway? You we're just thinking, not reaching.

Crumbs1 · 17/07/2017 07:20

I think I'm probably what you might deem an old trout.
The failure to observe manners lies entirely with the OP. If you are blocking the shelf someone needs to access then, of course, you apologise and move slightly.
You should never enter a shouting match/last word argument in a supermarket- even Asda - as that is incredibly ill mannered.

Ceto · 17/07/2017 07:24

You were obviously determined to get the last word right through the incident, which is frankly childish.

Coffeetasteslikeshit · 17/07/2017 07:26

I agree with pp. You started it and then you continued in a very childish manner. Combined with the snobbery and ageism on display in your posts I find I have no sympathy for you.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 17/07/2017 07:51

Boop I know what you mean about queuers breathing down your neck. You move forward so they're not so close, and they move forward too! It can be annoying but I'm not sure I'd ever say anything.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 17/07/2017 08:01

Are you lot actually serious? I should have apologised for being in her way? Ha ha ha

Yes OP! We are! I'm actually on your side too! Grin

user1495025590 · 17/07/2017 08:03

She was a bit rude to reach.you were ten times ruder to comment on it.she then kind of acknowledged she HAD been rude and you wouldn't let it lie as vic reeves would say.The rude person here wasn't her!

banchan · 17/07/2017 08:05

Both of you are absolute drama llamas

AwaywiththePixies27 · 17/07/2017 08:07

I know what you mean about queuers breathing down your neck. You move forward so they're not so close, and they move forward too!

Yes. That's why I'm on OPs side because I'm thinking this is just this. A woman with no regards fir anothers personal space.

I had this in wilkos a fortnight ago. Was buying some bits for my mum who's just had an op. (she had them but needed new ones - mop bucket etc).

This woman came so far up my arse if she got any closer she'd have been talking for me! Never mins the personal space issue she was perilously close to being accidentally walloped with the many items I was juggling whilst trying to pay by card. Slamming her stuff down on the till wasn't going to get her served any faster until I'd done!

Next shop. Pay by card again. Another woman right up my arse. I actually politely asked this one to step back so I could use the chip and pin machine (where she's not going to see me put the details in).

It's just rude.

StickThatInYourPipe · 17/07/2017 08:07

I am generally a Tesco kind of gal. Ah. So this thread was just one long stealth boast

Is Tesco a bragging supermarket now? gutted I swapped to Aldi now Grin

AwaywiththePixies27 · 17/07/2017 08:11

I then say 'yes, so it seems' and move off up the aisle.

She then loudly shouts at me 'stupid woman!' I reply 'and you.'

I then come across her (think she followed me) among the kale and broccoli, where she walks past me shouting down the aisle 'excuse me' giving me evils.

OP said she walked off from the situation. Kale woman clearly followed the OP and carried it on.

OP where on earth do you live that your Asda is open til 5am on a Sunday?

AwaywiththePixies27 · 17/07/2017 08:14

Is Tesco a bragging supermarket now?

Of course! Their red pepper quiche is business Wink

BallOrAerosol · 17/07/2017 08:14

Agree that you were right, I would have done the same thing as you, and also said "I was taught manners when I was younger, you were clearly dragged up" but for her to start it agin on the other aisle showed that she clearly had the problem. If she had only used manners in the first place. Some people don't agree but manners is very important and if it's not used what is the point in having them at all!!

Good manners would be not saying anything about this very trivial matter. To even mention it is the height of bad manners!

AwaywiththePixies27 · 17/07/2017 08:20

To even mention it is the height of bad manners!

Pulling someone up on their bad manners is bad manners? Confused

StickThatInYourPipe · 17/07/2017 08:26

AwaywiththePixies27 tbh I only nip into Tesco when I need something I cant get in Lidl or Aldi (then ruin my good money saving by forgetting lunch and popping to M&s And spending a stupid amount hahaha!)

BallOrAerosol · 17/07/2017 08:27

Pulling someone up on their bad manners is bad manners?

Yes.

notaslimceagirl · 17/07/2017 08:33

I'm hoping that op mentions naice ham or maybe even parent and child parking spaces in her next post.

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