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Charlie Gard Case 4

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LovelyBath77 · 11/07/2017 08:15

A new thread to follow on from the others about this case

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DixieNormas · 11/07/2017 20:33

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Lexieblue · 11/07/2017 20:33

I wouldn't be surprised tinsel if all interventions at this point were delivered by two experienced staff members ie no single nurse intervention. I imagine GOSH will want to protect its staff as well as give highest standard of care to Charlie

LovelyBath77 · 11/07/2017 20:33

You don't think there may be someone (CA) who realises the plan for the funds is never going to happen and therefore there may be lots of cash about?

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redshoeblueshoe · 11/07/2017 20:33

Tinsel I said this a few threads back, but when my relative was having life saving treatment in a highly respected children's hospital, there were cameras, reporters there. This was absolutely horrendous for everyone, as we were already struggling with very difficult situations.

AlabamaShakes · 11/07/2017 20:33

Light no, I don't buy it at all. How the hell would they get your email address to sign the petition. Have you commented on any of the Charlie Guard FB groups at all? I'm not that savvy with these things but hopefully someone else might be able to come up with some kind of link. I find it odd....

Glad the see the MSM is reporting the truth about this pastor. I've seen a comment of his today saying he is heading back to America tomorrow and Catherine Glen FOster is going back on Saturday.
So much for him wanting to support Charlie's parents, he can't even stay until after the hearing on Thursday.

Clearly turning up for the photo opportunity and then fuck off before the judgment is made.

LetsGoFlyAKiteee · 11/07/2017 20:34

Wow..about Thursday

It would be great if we could get as many Doctors & Nurses & people in medical clothing joining in with the public to sing this to Chris & Connie and show support - Would love to do it in lobby of Great Ormond St - but if can't get in then outside instead & you Brits are famous for your Music Stars - maybe some of them can be there or join in - this is right up Bono's allie - U2 - where are You??

How do people think like this?! Flash mob really it's a court hearing!

Theonlytime · 11/07/2017 20:35

I have name changed for this but in brief back when I was ward nursing we had a dispute with a patient’s family about care. Family had been verbally aggressive even before the relationship with them had broke down. They went to the local paper and told their version of events, this was before everyone had camera phones and everyone on facebook, just a local paper.

For weeks afterwards staff were abused by members of the general public, one colleague even ended up with a stalker. We were send abusive letters etc. With regards to the patient we were advised by legal to only enter the room in pairs, which meant that at time there was a possibility the patients care was compromised. We all felt the extra pressure/strain.

Staff will be affected by this, they just can’t comment publicly. All this time on and I still go cold thinking about it now

TartanDMs · 11/07/2017 20:36

Ugh. Not only are the family selling merchandise but this FB page are selling baby clothes with CA slogans on them. I find that very distasteful.

Charlie Gard Case 4
Ta1kinPeace · 11/07/2017 20:36

lovelybath
The GoFundMe money is theirs. They may well have already drawn it down.

Reporting to FB : possibly mention "gina miller" when giving the hate speech reasons .....

TinselTwins · 11/07/2017 20:38

redshoeblueshoe I can imagine!

This must be awful for everyone else there, putting their children's lives in the hospitals hands. Even if they thoroughly don't believe any of the claims of murder etc it's going to make a stressful hospital visit even more stressful!

sodablackcurrant · 11/07/2017 20:38

Lovely,

Donations for Charlie are not necessary, His stay in hospital is free, as is the pro bono UK solicitor/barrister, QC

What do they need. Donations could be taken from people who are at the pin of their collars so to speak. I do not like that kind of manipulation,

I am a sceptic for a reason.

LovelyBath77 · 11/07/2017 20:39

OK. Not eve sure how to report, I know someone up thread said they had already alerted FB to it.

Surely after the first court case it may have been obvious the other courts would agree. How much of this drama has been to do with money and how much to do with saving the little boy?

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Lexieblue · 11/07/2017 20:40

Allowing a protest actually at GOSH is disgraceful and someone needs to stop it, don't they realise that aside from a very poorly Charlie Gard, There are literally hundreds of frightened, sick and vulnerable children with equally frightened parents going through potentially the worst period in their entire lives who will on top of the living hell of having a sick child, will also have to navigate around screaming mobs waving balloons and blasting loud music out?

Who on earth would think that is an appropriate way to behave? And this from people who profess to care

LovelyBath77 · 11/07/2017 20:40

So there is no kind of rule Go Fund Me money actually has to be used for the purpose stated?

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LovelyBath77 · 11/07/2017 20:41

What about a protest about people who make money from a dying child..

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LovelyBath77 · 11/07/2017 20:42

A previous poster mentioned her (very ill) child had been upset by such a protest on the way to the hospital. It was the last thing they needed.

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sodablackcurrant · 11/07/2017 20:42

Could I just ask if the CG's parents have any kind of empathy with others who may have dying kids on their wards?

I will just leave it there.

BoreOfWhabylon · 11/07/2017 20:43

I think the most likely explanation for the fake petitioners is that this very shady organisation has bought a list of email addresses from somewhere.

I believe this can happen when organisations get hacked - no doubt someone on here will have more knowledge and be able to explain better than I can.

MissTify · 11/07/2017 20:44

I have been following this case closely. It has to be one of the most heartbreaking cases I have ever come across. For me, it seems quite clear though. Little Charlie is suffering from an extremely rare and terminal condition and is extremely poorly. According to GOSH, one of the best children's hospitals in the world, who have been caring for Charlie, day in day out, he has suffered catastrophic brain damage, cannot see, cannot hear, cannot move, cannot swallow, cannot cry. I have looked at recent photos and the poor little boy looks so poorly, so swollen. Even if permission were granted for him to receive this experimental treatment in the US and even if it did provide some improvement to Charlie's condition, I cannot see how that would leave him with any reasonable quality of life, given the damage that is poor little body has already sustained. In my opinion, I think that the kindest option would be for Charlie's treatment to be withdrawn and for him to die peacefully and with dignity.

Trampire · 11/07/2017 20:44

I've reported certain posts from CA to FB (they font seem to realise any member of the public can see what they're writing?).
I've heard nothing from FB yet.

I reported the "Attack GOSH with bazookas!" To the Met today via tweet with screenshot. Apart from a few replies from similar horrified people I've heard nothing yet.

People are busy though so I'll wait.

I have donated to GOSH today, and sent a supportive message. I received a lovely message back saying how they would pass on the message to all staff.

muckypup73 · 11/07/2017 20:44

sodablackcurrant, yup, this.

reallyanotherone · 11/07/2017 20:44

as for the money i dont donate to anyone direct regardless to cover myself i always use a lgitmate page like justgiving etc

They may be "legitimate pages", but except for the fact that they take a %, there is no difference between donating through such a page or straight into a bank account.

There is no requirement, afaik, for the money to be spent in a specific way. The fundraisers don't answer to anyone, the money ends up in their personal accounts.

Afaik, i don't think anyone has ever been asked to prove they spent the money on what they said they would, or challenged on cases where money has been raised for "treatment in america", but never been needed. I think they just get to keep it.

Rachel0Greep · 11/07/2017 20:45

..enjoying being part of something and seem to compete about who is closest to connie (e.g. her pregnancy group who keep reminding everyone that they supported C first )

Yes, I agree.
Not to mention the 'ooh I got my key ring' type posts. Hmm

Ta1kinPeace · 11/07/2017 20:46

Lovelybath
Quotes from the GoFundMe Terms and conditions
www.gofundme.com/terms

"We do not and cannot verify the information that Campaign Organisers supply, nor do we guarantee that the Donations will be used in accordance with any fundraising purpose prescribed by a Campaign Organiser or Charity. We assume no responsibility to verify whether the Donations are used in accordance with any applicable laws; such responsibility rests solely with the Campaign Organiser or Charity, as applicable. While we have no obligation to verify that the use of any funds raised is in accordance with applicable law and these Terms of Service, we take possible fraudulent activity and the misuse of funds raised very seriously. You can learn more about our Fraud Policy at uk.gofundme.com/safety. If you have reason to believe that a Campaign Organiser or Charity is not raising or using the funds for their stated purpose, please use the "Report" button on the Campaign or Charity to alert our team of this potential issue and we will investigate. If you are a donor, you may also be covered by the GoFundMe Guarantee. Policy details are located at uk.gofundme.com/guarantee-refund-policy.

or to put it another way .... Caveat Emptor

LovelyBath77 · 11/07/2017 20:47

There's lots of stuff about attacking GOSH with bazookas over on the US CA group as well. I guess they are in US though so less likely to attack. Confused ?!?

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