Battery Operated Friend

[slightlyinsanesam]

Hi All...

I am hoping for some objectionable advice regarding my "friend". I enjoy sex and my husband and I have it around 3 times a week, however, I also enjoy using my vibrator on my own. Usually its early morning after my husband has gone to work and before the kids wake up, I find that it puts me in a good mood for the day!

A couple of months ago, I came home from work and my husband asked if I had used it, instantly, I said no (I am not ashamed, but I think of this as a private thing). He called me a liar and proceeded to make me listen to a recording of me using it. He "accidentally" left his phone at home on record??!! This has happened several times since to the point where I am scared to use it.

This morning, I have tried to phone him and had no answer so popped back home and lo and behold, his phone is tucked under the mattress. Probably recording but I have no way to check as I do not have his password.

AIBU to be angry about this or is it my fault for using it?

What phone does he have?

Really disturbing behaviour, this is not normal. Don't let him try to laugh it off or excuse it, there's nothing lighthearted about it. Very controlling and total invasion of trust and privacy. if he's capable of this I fear he's capable of other unpleasant things.

Why on earth would he want to do something to make you feel humiliated and uncomfortable?

I've just tried to picture doing this to my partner... I'm pretty sure he would feel really embarrassed and awkward- which immediately makes me feel like this is something I would never want to do! Who gets a kick from putting their partner in a vulnerable position like this?!

Eurgh, the more I think about it, I think I'm going to have to throw out my first ever LBT! You say there are other things too... don't let him work you down and chip away at your confidence.

I feel really sorry for you that he has done this. Really, really horrible.

Omg what a creep he sounds . He is sick

Turn his phone off and hide it.

Another one saying I'd be very very cautious and if you can push for him to live elsewhere for a while at least

He can go to the doctors himself. Don't go with him. He needs to leave, take responsibility for his actions, and maybe if he can show you he's done that (counselling, CBT, paid the debts) you might consider having him back.

But HE has to make the effort - by himself.

can't imagine what the doctor will do op?
are you suggesting ante depressants? counselling?

Points to remember - you and your body is yours alone. No one has the right to tell you how to enjoy your body.

No one has the right to spy on you.

No one has the right to stop you from enjoying your home.

So he either settles with this fact or he leaves.