Battery Operated Friend

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Hi All...

I am hoping for some objectionable advice regarding my "friend". I enjoy sex and my husband and I have it around 3 times a week, however, I also enjoy using my vibrator on my own. Usually its early morning after my husband has gone to work and before the kids wake up, I find that it puts me in a good mood for the day!

A couple of months ago, I came home from work and my husband asked if I had used it, instantly, I said no (I am not ashamed, but I think of this as a private thing). He called me a liar and proceeded to make me listen to a recording of me using it. He "accidentally" left his phone at home on record??!! This has happened several times since to the point where I am scared to use it.

This morning, I have tried to phone him and had no answer so popped back home and lo and behold, his phone is tucked under the mattress. Probably recording but I have no way to check as I do not have his password.

AIBU to be angry about this or is it my fault for using it?

Gosh, I hope he doesn't have a job where he needs to use a mobile. All this forgetting it at home could severely affect his work otherwise.

Just ask him why the hell hes checking up on you like this!

This has actually made my skin want to crawl off my body. Op That is a massive, MASSIVE violation . Please, have my very first ever LTB.

He sounds creepy and insecure. I think you need to have a frank discussion and tell him.hes never to do that again. I couldn't stay with someone who did that and what next? Hidden cameras?

Oh my word. How can you ever trust him on anything?

I second washing the phone with the sheets. Recording you is controlling and you need to ask him if he feels threatened by your vibrator!

Some people simply feel the need to crack on more than others- it's as well as a relationship, not instead of. Has he never cracked one out on his own during your time living together?

Tomorrow as he's downstairs search for the phone......as he opens the door to leave for work yell down to tell him he's left it behind and here it is for him.....

What kind of phone does he have, OP?

Next time you find the phone, hide it somewhere else, somewhere that he won't remotely think to look (bottom of laundry pile! no, seriously, give it to a mate so that it's gone) - and then watch him frantically hunting for it.

I would really be very seriously considering leaving my husband for doing that to me. To be honest I think I would leave if I'm honest.

It has nothing to do with you or your " battery friend" that is a red herring. You could be sitting drinking tea and the answer would be the same for me. Recording you is a disgusting invasion of your privacy, in fact in my view its abuse!

Just be careful op there has been more than one thread on here where the op has discovered that their creepy as fuck husband/partner has installed secret recording devices or cameras in the home and used them to spy on the poster, one the recording devices were actually behind the plug points so she would never have known had she not actually unscrewed the plug point and found it.

Ask him what his fucking problem is

How fucking dare he? What, is he jealous of it? I'm quite easygoing but I would be so angry if my husband tried to guilt or shame me about this.

In fact I'd be using and screaming out somebody else's name just to really piss him off. Grrrrr

I would be finding the weirdest noises possible and recording a good hours worth for him to chew over. He sounds very insecure and controlling.

I don't get why he's doing it though?

Because he doesn't agree with it?
He doesn't like you doing it?
Hearing it turns him on?

What?

He knows you know he records you and he knows it doesn't stop you so what is he hoping to achieve?

It makes no sense.

I don't know why he's doing it, I really don't. Maybe it's a control thing, I think he doesn't know but he secretly does?
I am thinking of ending it, on its own some might think it trivial but I'm starting to feel trapped... not sure if this makes sense. We have 2 children and been together for a long time but I have to admit that I am no longer happy and it's wearing me down.

He has a Samsung galaxy, I don't know the password and the home screen doesn't show anything that I can view as a recording icon.

I've thought about the whole making noises, screaming somebody else's name and hiding his phone. I just can't be doing with his anger when it hits the fan, much as I would get soooo much satisfaction from it!

Can you go and do it in another room?

Or just sort yourself out without using a vibrator so there's nothing to hear?

Or have the TV on loud, if you have one in your bedroom?

Or stick the hairdryer on whilst you're doing it to hide the vibrations?

I have come home to find him in a foul mood so can only assume the sound of me lifting the mattress has been heard.

Yet neither of you will say anything about it?

The next time you find his phone under the bed, throw it in a bag of rubbish and take it to the tip.

That is so creepy. LTB.

This is seriously fucked up! His behaviour is deeply disturbing. Huge alarms bells are ringing, honestly ltb.
In the mean time leave him something to listen to.
m.youtube.com/#/watch?list=PLqNz8FIWpVsHNDLFyOid9K6qVnjl7TVU3&params=OAFIAVgB&v=CohJksnlT1g&mode=NORMAL

Seems very sneaky and I would be looking around the house wondering what else has he done.

He's creepy and he needs to leave. Gross.

This is mad! Wtf!
His behaviour is unacceptable

I find this odd as I have been dating over the past year since getting over a LTR that ended and none of my partners have been upset to know I masterbate. Quite the opposite it turned them on.

Why is it a bad thing for you to enjoy yourself?

I could understand him maybe showing some increased interest and asking if there's anything extra he can do, but jeolousy over a vibrator seems OTT.

Is he going to take your vibrator on in a fight as it's doing a better job? 😂