MIL is demanding DS has his hair cut

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My 5 year old son requested at Christmas time he could have longer hair, it's not long long perhaps keeps it at a young mason disick length.

My MIL has said he better have had a haircut before a family party later and she sick of him looking like a girl.

He has his ends trimmed every 6 weeks, hair isn't straggy or messy.

The deal was he can have his hair long as long as he takes care of it burshing it, having it out his face or up at school.

MIL has basically said not to bother coming when I told her DS isn't due a haircut for about 4 weeks.

So I think we just won't bother going AIBU?

YANBU. I agree don't let MiL have unsupervised access or your ds will come back with a haircut. I had the opposite from a family member dd had long hair and SHE wanted it cut short like Emma Watson at the time. I agreed, told her she can have her hair any length she likes. Family member was appalled.

Yep I'd not bother going. I'd also decide on a style I'd like her to have and tell her I don't want to see her until she's got it sorted.

ElfEars - That's the way to do it!

Wowzers! My mum used to say my ds hair was long but never did anything like that. Did you actually say No? I definitely wouldn't get it cut. X

Wowzers! My mum used to say my ds hair was long but never did anything like that. Did you actually say No? I definitely wouldn't get it cut. X

Wow how controlling and odd.

If it's not her party, go anyway. Let her fuck off. Everyone will think she's an odd ball and a horrible grandma if she says anything.

If it is her party, you have an out - result!

MIL needs to mind her own business.

I'd go with what Budgiegirl said and turn up to the party with DS and his hair and see what happens. She sounds nuts.

Be very vigilant meanwhile, don't let her alone with him at any time especially if scissors are involved. It would only take a matter of seconds for her to grab his hair and cut off the lower part. She's sounds nasty enough to do something like that and I wouldn't trust her.

I honestly couldn't cut his hair because she wants me to. The only way I'd cut his hair is if he didn't look after it or asked!

It's just a retirement party for a family friend 🤷🏻‍♀️!

I wonder what she says about me behind my back my hairs bright red has been since I was 17 😂

I didn't say no I just said he wasn't due a hair cut for 4 weeks. She just said if it still looked like that we weren't welcome 🙄.

I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of a long convo about it. Make it brief. Then take DS somewhere really nice on party day. My DM is a nosey pita when its comes to my DCs so I feel your pain. We no longer speak as a result of years of her stupid interfering. She still gives DCs 'direct instructions' which are always about what they SHOULD do according to her; & a dig at me, but now more grown they can roll their eyes and laugh at her. Dont let this get out of hand OP, youre his mum not her. She's in control of neither you, nor DS. She needs to sit all the way down

I wonder what she says about me behind my back my hairs bright red has been since I was 17

"Harlot Scarlet" eh?

She sounds like a total cunt. What is your DH saying?

Actually, "Harlot Scarlet" would be quite a good username.

He's feeling really shitty because she said he looked like a girl! We aren't going, gonna have a picnic dinner & make cakes ☺️! Would just be us anyways as my husband is working late and I'm a pregnant whale anyways 😂

Actually, "Harlot Scarlet" would be quite a good username.

Well in that case, don't bother going, ever. She doesn't sound like someone he needs in his life.

What other demands is she going to make as he's growing up.

I hate people who make their 'love' conditional on what they deem acceptable.

You need to put this shrew in her place. Is the party at her house or is it being given by someone else?

Missing a retirement party? I bet that'll break his heart.

I wouldn't go and I wouldn't communicate with her about it. In fact I would turn my phone off.

What will DH say about his mother's appalling behaviour?

How come DS knows what she said? Was it said in front of him?

Ah see you've decided not to go. Good for you OP. I'm sure you'll have a much better time having a picnic and baking cakes. Sounds lovely. And no judging MIL.

DH is fuming, wants to confront her especially about voicing her opinion Infront of him as she said to him earlier he looked like a girl! Because when I asked if he wanted to go he said not really gran was mean earlier and said his hairs too long and he looks like a girl. Told him sometimes old people are just odd 😂

Non of MIL's business. Let him decide - he may well change his mind if he get's fed up of styling it all the time but at least it will be his decision and that is important. I think it is lovely that he takes pride in his appearance..

Extreme hair long or short on boys at DD's secondary school is not allowed. So if he still has long hair in the future he may have to have it cut if the school insists - but then again he is only five and fashions do change.

Sorry, haven't read all the responses, but can imagine most are (rightly) along the lines off:

MIL can fuck off.

Tell her to fuck off.

Tell MIL to fuck off and mind her own business. 3 of my brothers have long hair as does DH, it suits them and frankly looks way better than the stupid floppy fringe over his eyes, pudding basin thing DS has always insisted on.

He doesn't really have it much longer than his jaw line, pulls it into a top knot for school.

It was just the deal that if he grew his hair he'd have to look after it like I look after mines, told him it's a pain in the butt and he didn't mind.