Found a positive pregnancy test in DSDs bedroom. DH will want her out. What the fuck do I do.

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I'm in actual genuine shock.

This isn't one of those "my teenage child is better behaved than your teenage child" because it isnt. She is far from perfect but She knows she can tell me anything and I will 100% support her decision on things.

Anyway- on to the topic.

DSD has been working hard all week and took DD out today as I was feeling unwell. She usually does her own laundry and ironing so I decided to do it for her today. Went to put some t shirts away in her drawers and found a positive pregnancy test. Thinking about it (and I know this sounds odd in a way) but I haven't cleaned out any sanitary products from her bathroom bin in the last 2 or 3 months. I know she has been sleeping with someone and she insisted she was taking precautions but as we all know accidents can happen. I assumed she was on the pill as my periods stopped when I was on it a couple of years ago

I was out when she came back with DD and she is now at work until half 12. I'm going to sit and have a chat with her and I know she is either going to be really upset because she doesn't know what to do or angry because she feels I have invaded her personal space- I genuinely didn't go looking for it. I opened the drawer and saw the end peaking out of a pair of slipper socks and knew straight away what it was.

DH is going to be fuming and will probably want to kick her out (can say this with 90% certainty). I will support her decision 100%.

She is 18 (just)

"But I didn't want to be pregnant more than I didn't want an abortion."

This is a good decision-making question. For anyone for whom abortion is on the list of choices.

I had my son with no support at 19 (just) and spent most of my 18th year pregnant with my now 20 year old son. He came to uni with me - slept on the floor of halls.

Love the buggar dearly and have another two- another one sadly passed away at birth.

My not so 'd' parents never helped. I did it all by myself.

wanna Hats off to you

Many, many people do not find abortion traumatic at all

Quite. Two of my friends have an abortion.

One whilst at uni - really didn't want a baby, not the right time, not the right man - best decision for her at that time.

One had an abortion last year - with a long term partner but they were going through some difficult at the time, didn't want to add a baby to the mix right then.

Neither of them feel tramatised by this. Its like "I was PG and didn;t want to have a baby, so I solved the problem"

Thank goodness dsd has you and your mum.

Hope she makes the right decision for her.

Sorry to say but your dh sounds awful.

I hope she's having a good think and I hope she is satisfied with decision she comes to.

Thanks paying. It's weird when your own children are old enough ds1 is at uni and I can't imagine either him being a parent or not helping him if he chose that path.

I have just done everything backwards.... I have never lived in a house without children or been away with friends. I am struggling a bit now they are all older.

I have nothing else to add other than what has been said but did want to repeat that you are a fantastic step mother.

Hi all. Sorry I haven't been back to post but haven't really had anything to add.

Have spoken to DSD today- I caved and sent my mum a text asking how she was and DSD called me to say she would be home tonight to talk to me and DH

Dropping DD off with my mum shortly and picking DSD up. Leaving some things there in case we do need to go back.

Thanks once again for everyone's support

You're amazing K
Really hope your DH surprises you in a good way tonight.
Good luck.

Good luck OP xx

Best of luck OP. Wishing for the best possible outcome for you and your family x

Give your DH a chance. It's going to be a massive shock for him. He maybe a bit of time to get his head round it

I have only just seen your thread OP but sounds like you are fantastic. Good luck for tonight. for you all!

Good luck hope he surprises you both

Hope the talk goes better tonight than expected.

Good luck op, your DSD is very lucky to have you. My parents would have thrown me out, no question about that. The daughter of one of their friends was thrown out pregnant, age 17 and they never met their DGS or spoke to her again - that was 39 years ago.
Fingers crossed your DH sees sense and is supportive.

Good luck. I hope your husband comes through as much as for you as his daughter.

You are a very loving, kind and strong woman

Oh K I hope it goes as well as it possibly can

Wishing you strength

Just try to look after her as best you can. Do ask her the question directly though. It may not be her test. Could she be holding it for a friend?

If she is pregnant and he throws her out, think hard about whether he's someone you want to be in a relationship with.

Good luck like others have said she is lucky to have you.

Hope it goes well tonight OP, your DSD is very lucky to have a wonderful mum like you xx

I hope the chat goes well tonight and your DH accepts the news better than you think he will.

Another one who had a baby very young. It was hard, but my parents were extremely supportive. Your DSD is lucky to have you.