Found a positive pregnancy test in DSDs bedroom. DH will want her out. What the fuck do I do.

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I'm in actual genuine shock.

This isn't one of those "my teenage child is better behaved than your teenage child" because it isnt. She is far from perfect but She knows she can tell me anything and I will 100% support her decision on things.

Anyway- on to the topic.

DSD has been working hard all week and took DD out today as I was feeling unwell. She usually does her own laundry and ironing so I decided to do it for her today. Went to put some t shirts away in her drawers and found a positive pregnancy test. Thinking about it (and I know this sounds odd in a way) but I haven't cleaned out any sanitary products from her bathroom bin in the last 2 or 3 months. I know she has been sleeping with someone and she insisted she was taking precautions but as we all know accidents can happen. I assumed she was on the pill as my periods stopped when I was on it a couple of years ago

I was out when she came back with DD and she is now at work until half 12. I'm going to sit and have a chat with her and I know she is either going to be really upset because she doesn't know what to do or angry because she feels I have invaded her personal space- I genuinely didn't go looking for it. I opened the drawer and saw the end peaking out of a pair of slipper socks and knew straight away what it was.

DH is going to be fuming and will probably want to kick her out (can say this with 90% certainty). I will support her decision 100%.

She is 18 (just)

Hope your both ok OP

Hope things went well last night op?

I always thought my dad would go nuts if I ever came home pregnant.

He didn't and we have a much stronger relationship than ever now! (7 years later)

My mum on the other hand (who I assumed would support me) didn't speak to me for 6 months of my pregnancy until she saw me with my bump. But it was tough without her.

Hope all goes OK, OP.

My parents kicked me out of home aged 16 and pregnant. That was 42 years ago, I didn't know people still did this!

Kick him out!!!!!!
how is his attitude even palatable to you ??

Hope your all feeling a little more settled this morning and with 2 Strong women ( you and your mum) on her side your SD feels more supported. Would she be able to stay at your mums for a while to keep her dad out of the way with his terrible old fashioned ideas.
Sending you all hugs xx

How are things op?

You sound lovely, OP. Your DSD is very lucky to have you.

If she is pregnant, I sincerely hope your DH doesn't react like you think he will. THat would be unforgiveable, imo. I would have him leaving, not your DSD. I certainly wouldn't want another child of my own with him if that's how he treats them. That isn't loving them for who they are, mistakes and all. That is conditional love ... not the kind of love you're supposed to have for your children.

I hope it went well.
Dh might surprise you. My uncle is the gruff, northern type and my cousins was terrified of telling him when she found out she was pregnant at 18. She now has three beautiful children aged 15-6 and her dad is the most amazing, patient and involved grandfather I know.
He is especially close to the eldest and the children have been the making of him. He has really softened and would do anything for them.
Hope it all turns out well op.

How did things go op? She's lucky to have you understanding. 18 isn't really THAT young to be pregnant. She's not 15, she's an adult and your DH needs to understand that. Hope she's feeling more positive and knows that she has lots of options now.

Thinking of you and DSD OP.

I read this post a little differently. I didn't think OP was asking for an OH bashing, more whether/how she should let her (step) daughter know that she had found a positive pregnancy test in her drawer.
FWIW Im not sure that some of the replies have been very helpful.

Hopefully DH will change his attitude and be supportive.

Popping on to wish you the best, OP.

Hope all went ok op. You really do sound like the worlds best step mum - your dsd is very lucky to have someone like you in her life.

Well done for supporting her OP, and to your DM too.

I really hope everything works out for her and you.

WTF Neutrogena?

Hope all is well OP? X

She's so lucky to have you OP, hope it all went well and your DH takes it better than you hope

I am glad she has you OP, not surprised she hasn't told anyone sounds a very scary place to be.

OP you sound lovely and your DSD will be so grateful of that

You sound wonderful OP (and your mum sounds pretty fab too, must be hereditary!)

Hope you and your DSD are both ok

How did it go Op?

As I read it, they are meeting at noon today.