I typed for ages and lost it :(
philoSlothical17, I think it was a nice present, though. You probably only have a limited number of songs as a couple, any attempt to match that list would have been "meh". You live in different houses. It shows he loved your present and what it says means lots to him. He wanted you to have the same feeling, to be able to look at the pic and think of him, as they are your songs as a couple, not just his songs. He didn't photocopy it, he looked up a proper place and took it to frame. Idk, I see that the effort was different but he couldn't really match that list by content or design, it was always going to be a poor attempt and he probably thinks that list is perfect. My DH got me a canvas print of a picture from our wedding. We already had a picture up, but I thought it was really thoughtful and sweet, as it cherishes that special moment.
OP He probably really thought he was getting a nice present. It's not just a piece of paper, it's paying for the whole thing, I get? He's seen you preparing and researching the day out, he knows you value and cherish days out with the family as presents, he didn't realise you actually weren't excited about going yourself but that you were excited for your toddler. That's a misunderstanding in my opinion. Make it clear that although you love days out, that one was for your toddler and you considered it a present for her, not you. That said, some people get overwhelmed at preparing / researching this kind of things, some are also bad at it. He probably thought he was playing it safe but choosing something you liked... Only that you didn't! I think it's not that incredibly bad, however. If it were a thing, instead of a Day out, it wouldn't have looked as bad: if you had been researching prams for ages, and he got you the one you had settled on, would you feel the same way? I think it's the fact that you didn't consider it a fun day for you, more than the voucher itself. it's still thoughtful to try and pay for something you like (or so he thought)? Both my DH and I have paid for events as bday presents (shows, concerts, comedy...). Even though we were to go together, and many times we had the discussion beforehand, so no surprise: A: I'd like to go to [insert event]. B: Shall I get it for your birthday?
DH used to be hit and miss at first, I have an Amazon wishlist with hundreds of things, which I shared with him. He actually doesn't use it anymore but I think seeing the kind of thing I would like for my birthday means he actually understands better the kind of present I like and he now chooses himself stuff without relying on the list. Just put so many things in the list that it will always be a surprise what he actually got!