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To tell my neighbours their bonkers?

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Sparklyshoes16 · 04/07/2017 18:27

We've bought a house and absolutely love it and spending a lot of time and effort doing it up on the inside...as the weather is good we've decided to turn our attention to the garden and start clearing the jungle of overgrown bushes etc...as soon as we bought it we spoke to the neighbours and made it clear that we would be putting new fences up (matching the existing ones as our neighbour had taken out some panels) and getting the tree chopped back...the tree root is near the boundary but on their side...we had some people come round to give us a quote on how much to get the tree chopped back and to clear the garden etc our neighbour decided to come out and give them what for telling them it's a friendship tree and no one will be touching it as she hangs xmas tree lights up on it (there was non this Xmas just gone). I didn't actually know what to say so just smiled and said erm well no we discussed this and you agreed to have it chopped back and cut down a little and then ushered the garden people away from the mad woman...we know we have no legal standing on her cutting some of it down but according to her we can't make her cut it back either? We've checked the deeds over incased we'd missed something (we had already done that before we purchased) AIBU to tell her she's bonkers and to mind her own business? We've had no problems so far and always gone round to apologise for any builders noise but she has completely flipped on this...any advice?

To tell my neighbours their bonkers?
To tell my neighbours their bonkers?
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Sparklyshoes16 · 27/08/2017 11:05

Athomedadglos yeah will be doing it this afternoon and will just keep pruning it over time.

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WhatchaMaCalllit · 27/08/2017 17:09

Brilliant update - on all fronts!

PrimalLass · 01/09/2017 07:30

That looks much better! Good job.

Nessalina · 01/09/2017 07:41

Ooh well done OP! Looks great! Enjoy your well earned privacy!

Spadequeen · 01/09/2017 07:48

What an ugly tree and stupid neighbour! Glad you're happy with the end result.

Wonder what she'll come up with next, these people are never happy!

mummmy2017 · 01/09/2017 08:18

Happy you got it all done.

Pearlsaringer · 01/09/2017 08:51

Well done OP, you've handled this admirably. You've established your territory and let bonkers NDN see you are amenable but no pushover. Now let's see what happens come Christmas when she tries to decorate your side of the tree...

Gwilt160981 · 01/09/2017 08:57

That tree looks nice with snow on it.

Motoko · 01/09/2017 09:04

Thanks for the update. It's nice to see a conclusion on a thread.

Doesn't look like too much of the tree was taken off. Hope your neighbour doesn't give you too much trouble from now on.

CaptainHammer · 01/09/2017 15:48

That looks much better OP, thanks for the update

SurferRona · 01/09/2017 16:32

Do people really think that looks better? Confused

Trb17 · 01/09/2017 16:51

Looks really great now OP. Gardeners have done a good job and even better they took none of her nonsense. Much tidier and privacy restored.

We gave up a few inches of land to put in a tall fence to protect our garden from the rickety lean-to the previous neighbours had built right up to the boundary. I love our new fence Grin

akkakk · 01/09/2017 16:58

I would suggest photographing your new setup from every direction as confirmation of your boundary - otherwise, nothing to stop her removing her fence and then claiming your fence as hers in the future and stealing more land - keep your fence receipts and hopefully you have photos of you & friends putting it in - file it all...

Trb17 · 01/09/2017 17:05

Good advice akkakk. We have before and after photos of ours too and the building process. Just in case.

PrimalLass · 01/09/2017 17:52

Do people really think that looks better?

Than having a big gap, half a tree and someone else's small wire fence? Yes. They just need to trim the overhanging bit of tree.

PrimalLass · 01/09/2017 17:53

And put back flowers or whatever.

Sparklyshoes16 · 06/09/2017 17:04

Thanks all we love our new fence...it's so nice to be out doing our thing and not having someone stood walking across the gap and being nosey...it's to prune the tree back so pretty much a winner all round...SurferRona we certainly think it looks good Grin I'm 99% sure if your neighbour appeared every time you were doing something in your garden and tried telling u what to do and where to put stuff you'd be putting a fence up in no time!

Akkakk we took pictures and a video on our phones of the gardeners doing it they advised us to as they come across this stuff more often than not...they said if anything ever comes back you've got proof that you took everything into consideration printed pics off this weekend and filed it along with the stamped receipt for the fence so if we ever sell it there should be no issues with ownership.

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bouhoo · 06/09/2017 17:34

What a great resolution!

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