To be horrified by people in changing rooms?

[Smarshian]

I went on a lovely spa day today with a friend as my first day away from my 6 month old dd.
While getting changed for lunch a woman came out of the showers and stood around for about 5 minutes having a chat/getting in my way - right next to me completely starkers! I was getting changed under a towel and my locker was there and the bench the other side of me so I couldn't move without being really awkward as I was obviously using that space.
I wouldn't mind her just getting changed but she didn't, she had a towel round her head and her full bush and boobs out, she wasn't even facing the lockers, it was like she was just parading in my face.
I've no issue with nakedness in changing rooms while getting changed but don't just stand around naked making me feel awkward!
Aibu?

Well said notknown. I don't want to see this either or if you do strip do it discretely.

Or you could just try not looking if you don't like it.

I applaud you notknown 👏🏼

I don't WANT to see other people's boobs etc but then I just don't look. Just like I don't think anyone is staring at me when I change.I'm just not bothered.

Equally, women feeding their baby in public isn't some "look at me with my tits out" statement. It's I need to feed my baby.

Why does anything other than women feeling ashamed of their bodies have to be a statement of how awesome they think they are? Why can't it just be the more accurate "my body is my body and I guess I'm quite content & comfortable with its ordinariness"?

I don't want to see this either or if you do strip do it discretely

Why do people have such a problem with people being shy around nudity? Why does it offend you so? Or do just not like it when people don't agree with you?!
I think you are slightly confused over who has the problem.
I don't care that you find it uncomfortable if I am naked. I am not offended, it is entirely your problem.
Yes I even breastfed my babies wherever they needed it. I didn't care then if people thought I was flaunting my boobs - I wasn't, I was feeding my babies.
When I am in the changing room, I'm getting changed, not cartwheeling around the changing room.
I will continue changing a way that is comfortable to me. I'm not the one asking anyone else to change what they are doing. If you feel more comfortable changing under a towel with your eyes closed - go for it.

Today 22:32 Notknownatthisaddress

Please tell me people are joking about the changing rooms they go to having a hair dryer for fannies?

I mean, what the actual fuck? 😂😂😂😂😂*

I am firmly in the 'I don't wanna see your minge, arse, and tits hanging in front of me, and you're not gonna see mine' brigade, and fuck what anyone thinks about it. I agree with the posters who said that people who do it seem to be wanting to prove a point. 'Oooooh look how right-on I am, I am so comfortable with my body; what a shame you're not.' They remind me of the obsessive breastfeeding brigade who breastfeed in the middle of the shopping centre, in rows of 20, just to prove a point.🙄🙄🙄

As for the comment someone came out with about someone saying 'your bits must be special if you're hiding them' so they dropped their towel and got on with it. I'd have said 'I actually have a cock and don't want you getting jealous.' Hell would freeze over before some bolshy cow would me feel bad for not wanting to show my fanny and tits off in front of a crowd of women.

I am also royally fucked off with reading on this thread about how they do it in Scandinavia and Iceland. WHO.. FUCKING.. CARES?! angry We are not living there are we? So who gives a wank what they fucking do there?!

Why do people have such a problem with people being shy around nudity? Why does it offend you so? Or do just not like it when people don't agree with you?! hmm

That is an awesome post. You rock!

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Yep I bloody hate it too. The new gym I joined is full of them . They seem to move around in a circle and then proceed to moisturise up agai st me. I always bag one of the 2 cubicles and escape the harlots!!

YANBU. Yes, it's great she's comfortable with her body, but there's a point where it becomes needlessly exhibitionist and inconsiderate. She was in your personal space, that's bad enough but she was completely naked doing it, giving you no choice in her being there and unable to move yourself, with everything out, essentially in your face.

Just because someone is comfortable doing something, doesn't mean they should subject everyone else to it.

@woodhill

Well said notknown. I don't want to see this either or if you do strip do it discretely.

@nina2b

That is an awesome post. You rock!

@sidesplittinglol

I applaud you notknown👏🏼

Awww, thanks guys.

Women are harlots because they are naked in a women's changing room? Really?

This is internalized mysogyny. Look it up.

Isn't it funny how often naked people parade. Very rare that a dressed person parades, just those in the buff

A nonchalant 'sorry can I just get passed you' would have taken seconds and your discomfort would have been over in quickly.
As for overbearing naked lady, who knows why she likes to trap people while she's naked? Maybe she thinks she has an intimidating fanny and likes to wield it?

past

Was that correction for me nina?

Isn't it funny how often naked people parade. Very rare that a dressed person parades, just those in the buff

I rather hope there's some naked people just getting out of their old clothes, showering & drying off then getting dressed

Treating nudity as unremarkable and normal is the best way of handling it I should think and it's a shame that there is so much angst about it from either approach

All of the outrage, horror and disgust at the harlots parading naked is completely futile.

I and many others will continue to change in the way that is comfortable to us. If that causes other people distress, you're going to have to find your own way of dealing with it. I'm not going to change what I do.

In fact, I'm thinking about doing a quick jog around the changing room after my shower, just to make sure that everyone gets an eyeful of my nakedness - after all, that's what really matters to me

That's fine and I will continue to change under a towel.

Plan for next trip to gym changing room in order to do this "parading " thing properly:

• Vogue out of shower, whirling towel over head periodically as a "gaze hither" signal
• Stop voguing dramatically at locker, don nipple tassels (poss. also attach Christmas tree lights to breasts? Not sure what constitutes full "flaunt"?)
• Pause to remind myself that I clearly think my ordinary mid-40s body is amazing and I want to make everyone jealous/uncomfortable/ill.
• Spray glitter on undercarriage, backcomb pubes
• Summon marching band, drum majorettes, etc. into dressing room, commence strutting around (Note: book lessons for opposite-direction nipple tassel twirling)
• Once I have ensured that everyone has seen every inch of me, get dressed to the accompaniment of ever-louder fanfares

I'm art of gym that also has a spa on site so lots of white robes around... We call days like these ...'fanny days!' becsuse everyone's got Thiers out while enjoying new nails and checking out Thier skin radiance!

Just be a little more discrete ... Don't hide under s towel but get dressed ! Don't fanny about with your fanny out!

Vin you need to start making signs and get them put up in every changing room

Just be a little more discrete
No thanks, I prefer @leedy's approach
I'm going to flaunt my fanny with pride because you have never seen a fanny as amazing as mine.

I won't notice or care how you choose to get changed.

But what stops a halfway house - at least putting on some pants whilst you faff around?

I've been to Japanese bath houses (a million eyes trained on you washing yourself sitting on a tiny stool) and Icelandic thermal pools. It doesn't mean I sit around naked faffing around, knowing it's culturally less comfortable for Brits - it's just common courtesy.