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Friends expecting me to look after kids, 6 week holidays.

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famtastic · 03/07/2017 08:44

I have just found out from another friend, that a couple I'm friendly with who live round the corner told her that I am having their children for them in the summer holidays. It would be 3/4 days a week 6:30am till 10:30am. So in theory we would still have the day after 10:30 to do what we want.

But I have not actually been asked by them! Or had days times mentioned to me. Literally all that was said to me back in may was "we may need the odd favour in the holidays" and I just said oh ok! They didn't elaborate on the favour and I was in the playground taking my kids to school so a bit distracted and didn't ask.

I was looking forward to the summer holidays with my own 2 children ages 3 and 8, lazy mornings and doing what we want, now I feel sick! There is only 2 weeks left and they still haven't mentioned it to me! And surely they can't get anything else sorted now?! Also my husband works 10/11 hours a day and he leaves at 6:50am he won't want anyone round while he's getting ready for a long day at work! And lastly I don't even know their oldest I've met him once for maximum 1minute, their kids are different ages to my two so I can't see how it's going to work well.

Ahh I don't want to do this but I don't know what to do! Am I being unreasonable??

OP posts:
aintnothinbutagstring · 03/07/2017 16:47

She's a cheeky fucking cow, that is all there is to say on the matter.

astoundedgoat · 03/07/2017 16:47

This is completely brilliant. I'm so pleased you stood up for yourself, fam!

IamnotaStepfordHousewife · 03/07/2017 16:47

Well done you!

whatsleep · 03/07/2017 16:47

Please don't block her, the ridiculous messages are too good to block!

famtastic · 03/07/2017 16:47

I am still coming round later you have really left us in the shit and now you won't do the Monday you agree todo!!! I don't know how you can be so blunt you are in the wrong here you have let us down then act like I am in the wrong. You will be at home anyway what is 2 more kids for a few hours??? Think yourself lucky you don't have to find child care I'm so shocked at this behaviour

Just got this. I'm not going to reply now as I'm going round in circles, and she can't anything wrong with her behaviour.

OP posts:
doodlejump1980 · 03/07/2017 16:47

This ^

Friends expecting me to look after kids, 6 week holidays.
tinytemper66 · 03/07/2017 16:47

I am so glad you stood up to her. Reading this has made me angry for you!

LindyHemming · 03/07/2017 16:48

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Anatidae · 03/07/2017 16:48

Yes agree with paxillin

Saying no is liberating. I did it at work the other day. No explaining or polite justification. Just a smile and a 'no.'

Felt amazing. Good on you OP :)

DancesWithOtters · 03/07/2017 16:49

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colonelgoldfish · 03/07/2017 16:49

Wow! I can't believe how entitled she is! Unfortunately I don't think you can get anywhere with this kind of person, she won't see anything wrong with her outrageous requests. Just ignore and move on.

Well done you!

AmysTiara · 03/07/2017 16:49

Well done. You have done very well. Cheeky cow has just got to find herself an extra day of childcare now due to her shocking attitude.

CaptainHammer · 03/07/2017 16:49

Well done OP!
She's pissed off because she thought she could walk all over you and didn't expect you to stick up for yourself. What a selfish rude bitch she is.

aintnothinbutagstring · 03/07/2017 16:49

Tell her to swivel, it's not your problem OP. Yeah what's two extra snotty nosed kids at 6.30am in the morning Hmm

justilou · 03/07/2017 16:50

OMG!!! She's going to BULLY you into it now? Is your husband home? I wouldn't answer the door! What an absolute psycho!

lalaloopyhead · 03/07/2017 16:50

Bloody hell, this has all moved on a bit since I last read!

You are totally right in not replying but I think I would struggle not to say 'Yes I will be at home, in bed asleep @ 6.30am thank you very much!' Does she really expect you not to have any plans in the summer holidays whatsoever??

Cagliostro · 03/07/2017 16:50

WOW

Fantastic assertiveness OP well done

Questioningeverything · 03/07/2017 16:51

Actually op, I mean this without sounding patronising but I'm really proud of you for standing up to the witch. For a moment way back there I thought you'd not find your backbone and be lumbered with this users kids all summer!!

Msqueen33 · 03/07/2017 16:51

My jaw has literally dropped! Who on earth speaks to another person like that!!!!!

I bet she's been allowed to get away with this for so long that's she not use to people calling her out on frankly cheeky as fuck behaviour.

SylviaPoe · 03/07/2017 16:51

Block her number. Don't let her in the house.

WhyDoIKnow · 03/07/2017 16:51

Wow. She really is barmy. Doodlejump has it Grin

lalaloopyhead · 03/07/2017 16:51

Also if one of them is 14 years old, why the heck can't they sit on their own sofa and not yours??

rollonthesummer · 03/07/2017 16:52

One more message-'your childcare= your problem. If you do come round tonight, I will call the police.'

Whatthefoxgoingon · 03/07/2017 16:52

Block this crazy woman's number. She thinks she owns you.

justilou · 03/07/2017 16:52

Tell her you have screenshots of this dialogue and you are going to share it on every one of the school's message boards to warn people of her behaviour!