Not something I am proud of but would like truths from other mums...

[yourcarisnotadiscovery]

I have been a single mum for 3 years and have a DS6. We have a very good relationship but sometimes, he doesn't do as he is told. He knows that 3rd time is when I will get cross and he knows I am never cross for long; (I let him know "the crossness is going" etc) then we have a chat about what happened. I warn as we get to 1st and 2nd warnings but sometimes by the 3rd, I have been known to say "for f**ks sake, I have asked you to stop"... not proud parenting moment. Has anyone else done this? I then apologise for swearing. feel bad. I have never just shouted or ever ever lashed out physically.

I didn't think I swore that much till one day in in the car, DS yells use your fucking indicators.
My dd did something similar in sainsbury's car park a car drove in the one way the wrong way and dd, then 5 yo, shouted out the window "fucking idiot" I immediately said dd don't say that you know your not allowed to use that word and she reply what " idiot" or "fucking" took all my energy not to laugh and I sternly answered " both" lol as they say shit happens. she has never said it again since and she is now almost 7.

I obviously try not to swear at my DD16 but have to admit I called her a dick the other day. In my defence, she was being a dick!!

I swear in front of my two a lot. The eldest knows not to swear and she doesn't even though I do, often.

The youngest doesn't talk yet.

I don't see anything wrong with swearing as long as it isn't directed at the child.

All the time. Mostly because of the situation not because of the children and if I find them repeating my expletives then I might make more of a conscious effort to stop.

It's a bit sad. Maybe try not to swear at all when you are not around the child. And that may help you when you aren't really thinking? You would be horrified if he started repeating it. I think shouting is better than swearing.

The pan boiled over for the hundredth time when I'd just cleaned the hob. I was in my kitchen at the front of our house and shouted 'FUCK!!' And dh shhhed me because next doors dcs were in their back garden. He really annoys me because it's just a word. I was sworn at and called a bitch from the age of 10, so I know how it feels. Yelling swear words into the air to describe a situation is a healthy way to express intense feelings.

I think swearing in front of ones own children OR other peoples is a really bad thing to do. As an adult you should be able to have some kind of self control - and if not - ask yourself why you are letting it get to this point. We all lose our rag, but being sworn at by your parents? That's just terrible. And they will grow up thinking its acceptable. And continue the cycle.

I'm generally really anti swearing, and that's something that sticks out in my neighbourhood where for most people (children included) it sounds like every other word is F.
BUT one day I had pmt, my chronic health condition was playing up and I lost my rag with the ds's (15 and 10) about them not pulling their weight at home or picking up after themselves. The fact that I had actually used the F word (although I'm not proud of it) made them sit up, take notice, and a lasting difference!
Be kind to yourself, you're only human.

The pan boiled over for the hundredth time when I'd just cleaned the hob. I was in my kitchen at the front of our house and shouted 'FUCK!!' And dh shhhed me because next doors dcs were in their back garden. He really annoys me because it's just a word. I was sworn at and called a bitch from the age of 10, so I know how it feels. Yelling swear words into the air to describe a situation is a healthy way to express intense feelings.

I know it's not your AIBU but I'm with your husband on that one. It may be just a word to you (as it is to me as well) but it's hardly annoying that the next door neighbours children (and/or their parents) are hearing someone effing and blinding at the top of their lings.

I hit a bollard in our lovely new-to-us car when parking in supermarket the other day and shouted SHIT, SHIT, SHIIIT!!!! 5yo and 2yo heard. Soon realised windows were down so most of Waitrose car park had heard. I also hissed JESUS CHRIST at bath time the other night because 2 yo kept running off and I had belly ache and a migraine and DH not due home till 10pm. These things do happen. I'm sure if you are ordinarily loving and kind your ds will be fine!

I don't see the issue aroundswearing at all. If it isn't directed at the childas in calling them a bitch or saying "fuck off" then it's really ok.

I've done it.
I always apologise for the swearing too and explain they are adult works etc.

often said for fuck sake when dd was younger out of sheer frustration when she was pushing the boundaries ( boy did she push em ) and generally being an obnoxious little toad, ( not proud of it ) i tried to stop when she began trying to copy me, i used to tell people she was saying "a fat snake!"