Was my DH BU for making the neighbour wash his dog's piss off our car?

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We have a neighbour about 4 doors away who has several dogs and is often seen walking past our house taking his dogs out. He's never spoken to us since we moved here 3 years ago, never smiled back, and if we are outside when he is walking past, he looks at the pavement. He does seem to talk to some of the other neighbours

A few weeks ago both DH and I were at home during the day, when said neighbour walked one of his dogs past. We just happened to be looking out the front window (as you do when you notice someone walking past), when we saw the dog lifting his leg and pissing against one of our rear car wheels and the bottom part of the bumper . The neighbour didn't seem to make any attempt to tug at his collar, he just carried on looking at the pavement, and so the dog carried on until he was finished. The neighbour then proceeded to carry on with his walk.

DH's instant reaction was to knock on the window to stop the neighbour from walking on, and gestured to him (like a "what are you doing" kind of gesture), he then went outside while I stayed inside.

I saw them have a few words, which was DH pointing at the car and not looking very happy, the neighbour appeared to be shrugging but apologising, and then went back to the direction of his house.

DH came back in and said that he politely asked him to make sure his dog doesn't do his business on our car again and that he wants it washing off. I'm not as assertive as DH so I told him that it wasn't necesssary to get him to wash it off, as long as he tries to not let his dog do it again, but DH's view was that if he was someone that actually acknowledged us from time to time rather than ignoring our existence then he would've taken that view, but why should we when he clearly doesn't like us etc etc

The neighbour appeared about 2 mins later just with his wife now and a bucket and brush.
Whilst washing it off they didn't look up.

Ever since then, the neighbour has gone from not much acknowledging us, to now grimacing at us, staring across at our house when he walks past, and furthermore, making a point of crossing the road just before he gets to our house and then crossing back to this side once past our house.

Could I kindly just ask for the general consensus of who WBU here, should my DH not have said anything and/or not asked him to wash it off? I said to my DH that maybe he felt humiliated but DH said that it's arrogant of him to think his dog can piss where ever he likes and not accept the consequences if it's against someone else's personal property.

NDN was unreasonable to let his dog piss on the car but a 'sorry mate, won't happen again' should have been enough.

The fact your DH made him wash it off simply because NDN doesn't acknowledge him (which he is under no obligation to do) makes your DH sound VERY controlling. You can't bully people into liking you/acknowledging you and I bet (hope) this has the opposite affect because if I witnessed a neighbour making someone wash a bit of dog piss off their car I'd think they were complete fucking wankers and would be avoiding them at all costs.

Can i borrow your dh to deal my cat pest problem please.

Good for your OH! The neighbour sounds like a pretty silly and weird man. Serves him right!

I can't believe your husband humiliated the neighbours like this. Shocking.

Their dog should not have been on your drive, but an apology should have been enough.

Some people use their pets to express their contempt for the rest of us.

If you see it say it.

But if you don't what is the difference?

Many people walk their pissing dogs in the dark and no one knows what they get up to.

Dogs, pets are a pain in the rear end TBH. But I am obviously a serial killer because I said that. lol.

OP what would your DH have done if the man refused to wash the car?

Hmmm, he probably would've said something like "well then fine, but if I catch your dog doing it again I'll buy a dog specifically to piss against yours"
I told you, he's a fair person

Still sounds like a prick to me!

That response in itself has now confirmed in my mind that your dh sounds like a prick, even if he didn't before. This could be the reason the neighbour doesn't talk to him? Just a thought.

I suspect that if a thread were started by the neighbour, he may have a slightly different version of events to tell. Often is the case in these things.
^^ This. I don't believe for a second that the dog went half way up the drive to cock his leg against the car. And your DH is a complete knob for insisting the neighbour wash it off. Does he run out and insist that pigeons get the hose out when they've crapped on his car?
Oh and how thoughtless of your neighbour to walk along looking at the ground. You'd hate me, I do exactly the same. I doubt you'd consider my autism a decent reason so I hope you don't move down my road.

To be fair, you sound like a knob too OP.

"Bird poop can damage paint on a car so I assume dog pee would do the same" Nope. Bird poop is different from mammals excretions. Much more ammonia. [Misses point of thread]

I would not have insisted on the clean up, but I think your DH is a hero to do so. It's never unreasonable to ask someone to fix a problem caused by their poor conduct and standing there allowing to dog to piss on your car (as opposed to not noticing a quick spray) is incredibly disrespectful.

More to the point, he is your DH- support him.

I'm with your husband on this one. If the neighbour didn't wash it off, I would have definitely chucked a bucket of water over the wheel.
Yesterday I saw somebody let their dog wee up against a pretty flowering plant in somebody's front garden. If that front garden belonged to me, I would have gone bananas at that as I love gardening and I don't want to be smelling/touching dog piss when I'm tending to my plants.

OP: both you and your husband both sound like bullies. And as for your husband going over to speak to the man again - how dare he. He has humiliated the poor man enough.

There's a reason why these neighbours don't like you and I can see why

Yes, you're right. We are known as the village bullies. We walk up and down the street demanding people talk to us, monitoring the bladders of all of the local pets and smiling derangedly at all the neighbours, all whilst wiping our alloys with a satin cloth

Got to get rid of pets, kids, parking, hedges, fences, early starters, music in the garden, smoking outdoors, loud voices, bird feeders (rats), vacuuming, wooden floors, piano practise, noise of any sort etc.

Have I forgotten anything?

I wouldn't support DH if he acted like this I would be mortified.

Punishing the guy simply because he's not chummy with you is really quite nasty.

Some of the responses on this thread are unbelievable. To call the op & her husband a bully , controlling etc. Get a grip.
Every single day there are multiple threads on mn about neighbours wether it be parking, dog fouling, cats, noise ,kids you name it there's a complaint and when someone actually calls someone out on their behaviour they are a controlling bully.
So everyone else would be happy just to let the dog piss all over their car, yes of course they would

Ah well - if you don't like the responses don't post on an internet forum.

The truth hurts doesn't it

"I'll buy a dog specifically to piss against yours""

Yeah-that makes him sound ridiculous imo.

Foxes, we need to kill all them too, any wildlife that comes near our alloy wheels.
I am so thankful that DH is not in to crap like this.

Bim, the issue isn't the fact that he was annoyed about the dog piss - It's that he made a point to go a step further and humiliate this man because he feels the guy isn't friendly enough.

It just doesn't sit right with some people, me included.

I know yours and your DH type OP, I'm sure most of your NDN cant wait for you to move

Exactly, if the man had smiled at him, he wouldn't have stood over him while he washed his car.

What a bully.