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Vegetable delivery guy calls me to accept delivery for my neighbor

202 replies

BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 09:08

Last week, the delivery guy buzzed me. I went down (three stairs down) to the main door and asked for whom was the delivery. He said, "apartment 6". I told him I'm from apartment 3. He said, "I know, I needed you to open the main door so I could leave this box inside".

I asked him why he didn't ring apartment 3. He said he could not get through.

Today, the guy rang again. He said, "I have a delivery for apartment 6". I told him "this is apartment 3". He said "yes, I just need you to open the main door." I said I was busy and he should ring apartment 6. He rang again several times which I ignored.

Was IBU?

OP posts:
Original poster
BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 11:21

But please bear in mind the favour in this instance would have taken about 30 seconds..

How will it take 30 seconds?

OP posts:
lottiegarbanzo · 01/07/2017 11:22

So, tell him to leave it outside the front door.

Then, as and when, speak to your neighbour to let them know what he's doing and suggest they clarify their delivery instructions. Maybe they'll let you know when he's expected and ask if you could buzz him in. More sensibly, given they can't rely on a neighbour always being home, they'll ask the company to deliver to the area outside the front door.

Problem solved.

Original poster
BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 11:22

And it does NOT take "only 30 seconds" to gather up the baby, go down 3 flights of stairs, open the door, then go back up again.

Exactly! I'm perplexed some think this can be done in 30 seconds though.

OP posts:
AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 11:26

It only takes 30 seconds to grab baby go downstairs three flights let vegetable man in and go back up 3 flights?

It takes me a good five minutes to get to the door sometimes! Grin

Also, vegetable neighbour should stay in to take the delivery themselves. After all, it's only going to take them 30seconds max! 😂

Orangecake123 · 01/07/2017 11:27

This just isn't being unfriendly. My old best friends first floor flat was broken into whilst she was at the cinema, because someone from her building buzzed them in from the main door.

lottiegarbanzo · 01/07/2017 11:28

Incidentally, we used to have a weekly veg box left on our front step (small wall between door and street) and round the back of the previous house.

The point with veg boxes is they have to be left, fresh, not taken back to the office like a parcel. Unlike parcels, they are (should be) visibly low value and heavy, so of limited interest to thieves.

Lots and lots of working people get veg boxes delivered to somewhere outside their home. Totally normal.

ptumbi · 01/07/2017 11:28

The issue is that you couldn't be bothered to do somebody else a small favour.

One small favour - ok - but this looks like it might well become a regular small favour - which is irksome.

More to the point - it is a favour which has not even been asked of the OP!

Taking a liberty, I call it. Nothing to do with OP not being neighbourly. Once is bad enough (esp with a tiny baby) but every week?

Those PP who would do it smilingly and helpfully, will be on here a few weeks down the line moaning that they are being taken advantage of and how to stop it?

NellieFiveBellies · 01/07/2017 11:28

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Aeroflotgirl · 01/07/2017 11:30

I agree with you op, if its happening a lot than its not acceptable, your neighbours need to be in when they have a delivery, or arrange to have it delivered at work.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 11:30

So OP. With your skills when is your first race against Usain Bolt? Grin

Borangeisthenneworange · 01/07/2017 11:35

The guy could actually leave the box outside the main door, in the short hall, where the mailbox is.

Surely this is the sensible solution? It's in the building just not behind the second door. If neighbours aren't happy with that they need to get it delivered elsewhere.

Buzzing in randoms is not a sensible solution. It just totally negates the point of having a buzzer system and risks everyone's security.

SuburbanRhonda · 01/07/2017 11:36

All this posters who think the OP should be happy to take parcels in for anyone, anytime (including whoever it was who is so traumatised by the OP that she has to go and re-read another thread to calm herself down), what do you think the neighbour should be doing differently?

Migraleve · 01/07/2017 11:36

Why is everyone getting hung up on 30 seconds. Ok so time is likely to be more like 2 minutes in total and not 30 seconds but ffs it's only 2 minutes. This is not a long time nor a hassle in any way!

I wouldn't object to opening a door once a week for a neighbours delivery. I just can't see what the issue is.

cowgirlsareforever · 01/07/2017 11:37

Ok. Maybe it will take a minute. Two even...

Slimthistime · 01/07/2017 11:41

I see the issue
I don't actually answer the buzzer unless I'm expecting someone
I will take a neighbours parcel if convenient but you need to be able to see the delivery person, I have to go down five flights of stairs to see who I'm buzzing in!
So I only take a parcel if I see the delivery person at the door, which is rare. I think most burglaries in blocks are due to people just buzzing in anyone without checking.

redladybird · 01/07/2017 11:44

Speak with the neighbour? Or call the vegetable company and tell them your dilemma!

Mammylamb · 01/07/2017 11:45

Are people actually reading why the op is saying?? She was in the middle of
Cooking and has a baby to look after so going down 3 flights of stairs to open the door isn't thy simple.
Ffs

fiorentina · 01/07/2017 11:48

I don't understand why you're getting a hard time. I feel it's the neighbours who have arranged a delivery but not arranged to be in who are in the wrong. I take deliveries for neighbours but I only have to walk across a room to the front door. Letting people into flats you don't know isn't a great idea and whilst it's nice to be helpful it doesn't seem so easy to be in this situation.

Ginslinger · 01/07/2017 11:48

DS has a buzzer marked 'trade' in the block he lives in and I remember my sister having something like that too so that no one got disturbed but it did mean that anyone could let themselves in through the trade buzzer

AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 11:49

^Are people actually reading why the op is saying?? She was in the middle of
Cooking and has a baby to look after so going down 3 flights of stairs to open the door isn't thy simple.^
Ffs

No one's reading the OPs posts. Or the rest of the thread by the sounds of it. Grin
Or they'd know its got nothing to do with the OP not being arsed.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 11:52

Several posts from myself and others, all who have been or had family members or friends flats burgled because some twat has allowed them entrance through the buzz system. Yet the OP is just being a lazy cock who can't be arsed. Hmm

cragsandmountains · 01/07/2017 11:52

YANBU. I wouldn't have done it either. It was inconvenient to you and it's not your problem.

spacewitch99 · 01/07/2017 11:55

We live in a block with buzzer entry.
Recently, new neighbours have moved in. They seem to get visitors at all times of the day and night...and they buzz random buzzers to be allowed in to the building. I always ask through the intercom who is there...often to be told 'Let me in!' - which I ignore and do not let them in.
Yesterday, our buzzer went 4 times. Not once by anyone wanting us. And our buzzer was buzzed at half midnight. We have written an email to our Factor requesting a polite reminder is posted through all doors to tell people about 'buzzer etiquette' (for want of a better phrase)
Deliveries are arranged at certain times when the 'service' buzzer can be used to avoid neighbours having to take in deliveries.
I hate folk taking my stuff in as it can be days before I get it.
I don't think you are being unreasonable OP x

Fancyacuppaluv · 01/07/2017 11:57

YANBU at all OP, and I don't know why you're getting such a hard time on this, I'd be peeved too!

Butterymuffin · 01/07/2017 11:57

Next time (because he's clearly going to buzz you again next time) say you can't let him in as you've now been told it's against security rules and he'll have to leave them in the short hallway. He can't make you come down. Switch your buzzer off or take the intercom off the hook if he keeps trying.