Vegetable delivery guy calls me to accept delivery for my neighbor

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Last week, the delivery guy buzzed me. I went down (three stairs down) to the main door and asked for whom was the delivery. He said, "apartment 6". I told him I'm from apartment 3. He said, "I know, I needed you to open the main door so I could leave this box inside".

I asked him why he didn't ring apartment 3. He said he could not get through.

Today, the guy rang again. He said, "I have a delivery for apartment 6". I told him "this is apartment 3". He said "yes, I just need you to open the main door." I said I was busy and he should ring apartment 6. He rang again several times which I ignored.

Was IBU?

OP I'd go round and tell them you had to let the delivery person in twice. If they don't know this it'll keep on happening.

I agree with the OP. We lived in a second floor flat when we had a little baby, and I would have let the delivery man in the first time but not subsequent times. I would be irritated by both the inconvenience and the safety issues.

Also, veg boxes can be left by the back door of the building. We had veg delivered too and that's what we did.

Ah, just buzz him in. He didn't bomb the place last week. Unless you really think he's playing the long came and waiting for you to relax after a few weeks delivering veg to get you off his trail. You know it's Mr Veg/ Bomb now.

I can understand you not buzzing everyone in but you know who it is ffs.

Is it a more southern thing to be this uptight about neighbours?

It's not being uptight about neighbours; it's actually the opposite - it's about ensuring people who may break into properties don't have access to the buildings. Or violent ex-partners of current residents. Or fraudsters targeting the elderly.

Was this him?

PetalsOnPearls

Yeah even my parcels, I meet them downstairs. I don't blindly buzz anyone in except if I know him/her personally.

He could leave the box in the hall before the main door.

Which you didn't mention in the first post.

Geez.

Thing is flat 6 could talk to someone and arrange they buzz the delivery guy in. Less of a security risk and no one is likely to get pissed off for having to press a button as they wouldn't have to actually go down if it's prearranged.

Or you know, just leave it in the foyer like everyone else does.

OP, YANBU.

There's no evidence that there is a delivery intended for No 6, you've only got the word of a bloke with an anonymous box for that.

OP - those of us who live in flats understand. We have big notices stating that people must not buzz in anyone who rings. We've had burglaries and identity theft. Your neighbour needs to make other arrangements.

We have also had parcels stolen from the foyer.

Yanbu those saying you are do you have experience of living in communal entry flats? If so have you ever been burgled or helped your mum/best friend neighbour deal with the devastation? Tell him to leave the box where he is and make other arrangements with Flat 3. Yanbu you are being a fantastic neighbour to every flat in your block

Gees, I wouldn't have that twice about buzzing the guy in. Fuck trekking downstairs for every delivery, I've lived in flats nearly my entire adult life.

I do accept parcels for my neighbour's. But if I became part of the weekly delivery chain for their groceries I'd probably start getting pissed off too.

My dad lives in a block of flats with a buzzer entry system, it's for the over 55s and they are drilled weekly by the Manager there never to open the door if they don't know who it is. That includes deliveries, other people's visitors and whoever because they had a problem with an elderly lady just letting everyone in and two flats were burgled as people don't lock their doors inside. Residents are told to arrange deliveries when the Manager is on site (set hours) or when relatives are visiting to avoid access issues. I appreciate being neighbourly but don't think you should just let anyone into the building and your neighbours are making a huge assumption about a weekly delivery getting let in. I'd pop a laminated note by the entry system not to buzz flat 3 for deliveries other than your own.

YANBU. I lived in flats with intercom a few years ago and would never buzz someone in unless a neighbour had asked me to. Could be a burglar, abusive ex boyfriend, anyone.

Yes, exactly.

OP. I think you can safely assume he was the veg delivery man and not a bomber given that he'd made a delivery the previous week and your neighbours didn't get blown up when cooking their vegetables.

I do all sorts of favours for neighbours including taking in numerous parcels for 5 different neighbours. But I live in a house.

In OP's position I might do it once, but not twice because then it's your job for life. It's unsafe to buzz people in and I'm surprised that so many posters have so little regard for other residents safety.

I wouldn't have that twice about buzzing the guy in.

I really hope you don't live in the same block of flats as me. Seriously, I have a shithead ex partner, that door buzzer, and the fact that people respected it (mostly) gave me an extra layer of safety... And it also gave the police an extra three minutes to respond if he ever did turn up.

Thing is flat 6 could talk to someone and arrange they buzz the delivery guy in. Less of a security risk and no one is likely to get pissed off for having to press a button as they wouldn't have to actually go down if it's prearranged.

Exactly. I didn't hear anything from apartment 6 re: last week's delivery!

YANBU - the people who have the delivery should arrange to be there to accept it or they should have another plan to get their veggies that doesn't involve disrupting others

OP. I think you can safely assume he was the veg delivery man and not a bomber given that he'd made a delivery the previous week and your neighbours didn't get blown up when cooking their vegetables.

Well, actually, I can't "safely assume" as the guy who buzzed earlier just said he has vegetables for apartment 6. I didn't see his face, nor was I informed that apartment 6 was expecting vegetable delivery. It was just his voice.

I also used to live in a flat with a communal entrance area/front door. It was in the agreement that you couldn't let anyone else in.

It happened a lot where people would buzz to be let in to visit an upstairs flat...

I never let anyone in.

Someone did once. The week before Christmas. You can guess what the end of that story is. They were not pleased that someone had selflessly let a stranger in, I can tell you.

It sounds selfish to people who've never lived in a flat with a shared entrance, but it's not as simple as the OP being neighbourly or not.

I live in a fourth floor flat so I do understand. Do you have a video screen as well or is it just a voice?

I'm not fussed about buzzing in a delivery guy - the buzzer only lets you into the post room and you need a key fob for the lift/ stairs. Obviously all flats are different layouts though. What I do hate are fucking students on their walk back to halls from the clubs that think it's absolutely hilarious to buzz all the doors at 3am. One day I will be waiting for them behind the front door and scare the shit out of them.

OP - those of us who live in flats understand. We have big notices stating that people must not buzz in anyone who rings. We've had burglaries and identity theft. Your neighbour needs to make other arrangements.

Yeah, I guess it's difficult to understand how it's unsafe if you don't live in a flat. I always go down to receive parcels because if I buzz someone I don't know in, how do I know where he's gonna go or what he's gonna do? Anyone can say he's a mailman or a delivery guy or I dunno, Leonardo di Caprio.