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Vegetable delivery guy calls me to accept delivery for my neighbor

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BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 09:08

Last week, the delivery guy buzzed me. I went down (three stairs down) to the main door and asked for whom was the delivery. He said, "apartment 6". I told him I'm from apartment 3. He said, "I know, I needed you to open the main door so I could leave this box inside".

I asked him why he didn't ring apartment 3. He said he could not get through.

Today, the guy rang again. He said, "I have a delivery for apartment 6". I told him "this is apartment 3". He said "yes, I just need you to open the main door." I said I was busy and he should ring apartment 6. He rang again several times which I ignored.

Was IBU?

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 10:16

So the OP should go down three flights of stairs with baby in tow to pick up a neighbours delivery.

We are aware not everyone who lives in flats is that active aren't we? Look at the disabled man on the 11th floor of grenfell the other week. My Mum is lucky she got a ground floor flat. Then again she had the audacity to be riddled with osteoarthritis to qualify. A neighbour of hers is on the third floor and is also disabled. No lifts in the block.

On my bad days with my back I struggle to make it from A-B never mind up and down one flight of stairs not three. If that makes me unneighbourly I'll wear that title proudly.

Gerardbernie · 01/07/2017 10:16

humblesims said it best. If you are genuinely concerned about it being a burglar or someone who shouldn't be in the building it wouldn't be difficult to check. Just admit that you can't be bothered to put yourself out even slightly for your neighbour.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 10:17

I might do it as a one off if I knew my neighbour well.

Agree Fluffy once is fine. But this neighbour is obviously saying 'buzz muggins No10-she'll take it'. Otherwise they'd be using the trade option, like most trade.

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BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 10:18

Obviously don't let anyone in but OP did state she knew who it was.

He said he was the vegetable delivery. My intercom is just voice, no video, so I didn't see him this time. And even if it has a video, I just saw that guy once last week.

My neighbour didn't tell me anything about a regular vegetable delivery.

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ThatsNotMyMarmot · 01/07/2017 10:19

YANBU OP. How can it be right that because you are at home you are expected to do this. Imagine if you were in a block of many flats, you would be up and down like a bloody slinky! Time for something like the Australian method of accepting parcels and groceries with lock boxes etc.

Badcat666 · 01/07/2017 10:20

YANBU OP! My partner lived in a flat block and they were told NEVER to buzz in or answer door if person was not for them. It's standard practice in most flats. He was told this as part of his lease.

It's not like you are just next door, it's 3 flights of stairs with your baby in tow.

Are you meant to escort them to the flat as well and escort them out again? Because that's the only way to make sure they don't do anything else.

It's not your responsibility to babysit your neighbours delivery. It's up to them to make arrangements with the veg company to leave it in a safe place.

lanouvelleheloise · 01/07/2017 10:21

I take in parcels for neighbours, they do so for me. It's not that big a deal - the time it's taken you to make this thread moaning about having to help far outweighs the inconvenience of going down some stairs and opening a door!

Flyinggeese · 01/07/2017 10:21

Also OP are you in the UK? So it was 9am ish or earlier this happened today? I think that's too early to,be disturbed like this.

Or maybe I'm just grumpy because a meter reader was knocking loudly on my door at 8.30am and today was my only chance for a lie in for the foreseeable future.

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BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 10:21

It's not like you are just next door, it's 3 flights of stairs with your baby in tow.

Yeah, exactly, but apparently, this just makes me not willing to be neighbourly.

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BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 10:22

the time it's taken you to make this thread moaning about having to help far outweighs the inconvenience of going down some stairs and opening a door!

Actually not really because I did not have to go down three flights of stairs with a baby in tow to create this thread.

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Migraleve · 01/07/2017 10:22

Just voice. And if I buzz him in, he's gonna have access to all the floors

He is a vegetable delivery guy. What exactly do you think he would do given access to all floors? Hmm

I despair at this kind of thing. Justify it all you want but the bottom line is you are too self absorbed and lazy to take 30 seconds out of your day to do something for someone else.

Sad times.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 10:23

what a sad world we live in when people can't be trusted to be buzzed in. I'm very lax about security but I've only had my car broken in to once. I would hate not be able to trust people

It's not just about not being able to trust people. It's the psychological effect it leaves on people. My Mum does a lot for her church, so helps out at prayer meetings Tue, something else on Thursday that kind of thing. The police told her they knew exactly who it was who was breaking in to her home each time as they were watching her coming and going from a friends flat in another block!

That woman didnt sleep in her own bed for five years as she was absolutely terrified of them coming back. After all, when you've got the bloody neighbours giving them access through the buzzer what's to stop a fourth attempt!

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BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 10:23

So it was 9am ish or earlier this happened today?

Earlier. Around 8am.

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Migraleve · 01/07/2017 10:24

I'm also struggling to understand why it's hard to carry a baby downstairs. Presumably you manage it when you are accepting your own deliveries and going out?

TheRealKimmySchmidt63 · 01/07/2017 10:24

YADNBU

When flat 6 place their order they should either a. Be in to accept it or b. Speak to a neighbour to agree that they will let them in - it is not up to op to go chasing around to see if flat 6 got their delivery it is up to flat 6 to ensure their delivery arrives safely without potentially putting the other flats at risk. I live in flats and have agreements with the neighbours that we take each other's parcels in but for safety reasons we are courteous enough to mention the night or days before to be on the lookout.

And I speak of someone that was attacked and raped by someone let into my last block of flats.

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BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 10:25

you are too self absorbed and lazy to take 30 seconds out of your day to do something for someone else.

Yeah, in your eyes, maybe. But clearly those who live in flats understand where I am coming from.

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 10:25

OP. Do you have a privacy option on your intercom? I've told my Mum to do this when she's in but not expecting anyone. Press that option and basically it puts you on mute, they can buzz but you won't hear anything.

RoseTico · 01/07/2017 10:27

"Did he have vegetables?" "Oh, he did?? Couldn't possibly be a burglar then, burglars are allergic to vegetables and they certainly would never think to use props to gain access to a building!"

If this neighbour from flat 6 wants a weekly vegetable delivery, she should ensure that she's around when it's delivered. The OP could be dealing with this every week for years. Of course she needed to nip it in the bud. I found it a faff to answer the door with a baby sometimes when I lived in a house, there's no way I'd agree to running up and down three flights of stairs every week to take in someone else's delivery.

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BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 10:27

I live in flats and have agreements with the neighbours that we take each other's parcels in but for safety reasons we are courteous enough to mention the night or days before to be on the lookout.

Yes. Noone told me there's a delivery for anyone. Even for last week's delivery, which I accepted, I don't know what happened to that.

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BeyonceZ · 01/07/2017 10:29

OP. Do you have a privacy option on your intercom?

Actually not sure. I'll ask the landlord but I doubt it as it's an old intercom model.

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RoseTico · 01/07/2017 10:31

I bet he couldn't reach the neighbour at 8am because she was snoring her head off (I know I was) and had her intercom off.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 10:32

RoseTico my mums burglars didnt even have to have a prop. They brazenly knocked on the door and asked to borrow a clawhammer face to face. (She'd been burgled twice before so her flat was practically sort Knox by now and the only other way to get in was through the window).

They then used the clawhammer he lent them to break into my mums flat for a THIRD time.

But that's okay though going by some on this thread because the idiot neighbour had checked who they were. Hmm

AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 10:33

*fort Knox not sort.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 01/07/2017 10:35

OP if your intercom thing is like a phone on the wall. (thinking of how my mums is set up).

Have a look they should be a number of options, the model my mum has the privacy option is the bottom button.

FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 01/07/2017 10:37

I get a veg box and you're suppose to leave them instructions on where to leave the box, so wonder what the neighbours have asked the to do. We get ours left outside as we've usually left for work when he comes. When I come home, one of my neighbours has usually bought it inside the hall for us.