Vegetable delivery guy calls me to accept delivery for my neighbor

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Last week, the delivery guy buzzed me. I went down (three stairs down) to the main door and asked for whom was the delivery. He said, "apartment 6". I told him I'm from apartment 3. He said, "I know, I needed you to open the main door so I could leave this box inside".

I asked him why he didn't ring apartment 3. He said he could not get through.

Today, the guy rang again. He said, "I have a delivery for apartment 6". I told him "this is apartment 3". He said "yes, I just need you to open the main door." I said I was busy and he should ring apartment 6. He rang again several times which I ignored.

Was IBU?

StealthPolarBear I'm not particularly disagreeing with you, but a bomb at a pop concert was unheard of until a few weeks ago. 😕

I don't think you did anything wrong, OP. If your neighbours had mentioned something that would be different.

My friend lived in a block similar to your's. A neighbour let in "an electrician". He was my friend's abusive ex-boyfriend. He started trying to smash her door in. After a while she opened the door on the chain and told him to stop and she was calling the police. He threw himself down the concrete stairs and shouted "I can't believe you pushed me!" She closed the door and called the police. Luckily there was CCTV and he had a prior list as long as my arm.

I would never let someone unexpected into the building. I hope anyone who was really put out by this would understand why when I explained.

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Just checked and there's no privacy option. Just actually a phone on the wall. Very old model, I think.

YANBU. It's not the 50s anymore.

To be fair, if someone buzzed and asked to borrow a clawhammer I would most probably do a quick mental risk assessment and not let them into my building

YANBU

We were burgled at our flat. They took everything of value including all our precious images of our babies on computers and camcorders ( not backed up)

Our upstairs neighbours ( converted house 3 floors) used to buzz all and sundry into the house even when we kept telling them that it was a security risk. The main door was always left open because they couldn't be bothered to ensure this was shut after people left.

OP, you've done nothing wrong.

I don't think you did anything wrong, OP. If your neighbours had mentioned something that would be different.

Thank you. No, they didn't mention anything, even about last week's delivery.

YANBU, have nothing to do with it.

I am sick of my neighbours, their screaming baby and worse, them doing coo coo sounds very loudly, on a Saturday morning at 8 am.

People are SO selfish.

That's because you're obviously sensible cowgirls. My Mums old neighbour? Not so much!

They made up an excuse that they'd just moved in and he fell for it hook line and sinker. I mean, it's not like the police had conducted door to door enquiries twice within the last 8 weeks and warned her neighbours to report anything suspicious. He did complain when the binmen couldn't get one very snowy winter and my mums bin was overflowing and 'unsightly' though. Arse.

Sorry for derailing OP. But basically. I dont think the OP is being one bit unreasonable for well, adhering to her tenancy agreement.

YANBU because why does he keep ringing you?

Slightly YABU too though

I actually stopped answering my door to a neighbours parcels.

My DCs go to school OOC so we have to leave early to get there. So I usually get back just as the local DCs are leaving on their school run. Neighbour kept telling her yodel/dpd/amazon/tnt/whoever bloody else was coming that day to 'drop it at Pixies- she's always in'.

YANBU , why should you walk down 3 flights of stairs ( with a baby) for someone else's parcel , particularly as it happens regularly , the recipient needs to ensure someone is in to collect the veg , it's not a surprise that it's coming . Personally I wouldn't answer the intercom unless I knew I was expecting someone / a delivery .

I can't believe some of the criticisms the OP is getting.

The issue is that you couldn't be bothered to do somebody else a small favour.

One small favour - ok - but this looks like it might well become a regular small favour - which is irksome.

I'm also struggling to understand why it's hard to carry a baby downstairs. Presumably you manage it when you are accepting your own deliveries and going out?

Just because she can do it for her own convenience doesn't mean she is at the beck and call of all of her neighbours. You can plan around your own deliveries and trips out - not for everyone else's.

Justify it all you want but the bottom line is you are too self absorbed and lazy to take 30 seconds out of your day to do something for someone else.

Or you could turn it on its head and say that the neigbour is "too self-absorbed and lazy" to arrange a delivery for when they are in - or even to be up in time to take their own delivery.

the time it's taken you to make this thread moaning about having to help far outweighs the inconvenience of going down some stairs and opening a door!

That's just plain silly - it's much quicker to type a paragraph and hit post than it is to pick up your baby, traipse down three sets of stairs (or 6 depending on the set-up), open the door to let the guy in, go back up three (or 6)flights of stairs.

I get it OP - and I don't live in a flat.

What a lot of completely bonkers people are posting today Mumsnet is so random, you could post this another day, OP, and get everyone saying "of course YANBU, you have to set boundaries, your neighbours are taking the piss expecting you to run up and down stairs letting in delivery guys".

I've never lived in a flat but even I can see that you don't let in random "deliveries". That's just basic security, He probably is legit, but it's up to your neighbours to either let him in themselves, or risk their box of vegetables being left in a slightly less secure place. (Presumbaly once he's in the building he's just leaving the box outside their front door anyway?)

All the people who are so pious about being "good neighbours" and "trusting" people, would you REALLY either go down 3 flights of stairs while you're taking care of your baby, or buzz in a stranger?

"how are they any less safe than a house unless you have a shite landlord who doesn't put in a proper front door, which they can do in a house, too?"

Depends on the layout of the block, but I would guess the lower security is more to do with the fact that, once inside, any burglars can hide what they're doing to people walking past the block in a way that they couldn't if they were smashing in the front door of a house on the street.

Surely the issue here (and I've only read page 1 so far), is the person ordering the vegetable boxes? Why in God's name do they arrange deliveries at times they won't be in?! They must be a bit gormless.

I can understand why OP doesn't want to just buzz the person in (unless the intercom has a camera and she was able to identify that it was the veggie man (whom she's seen before so she would have an identified, known person that she was letting in, thus not breaking any rules in terms of the lease)).

If there is a camera on the intercom and she didn't buzz the guy in then I'd say yes, BU.

However, what I would suggest if there is no camera and therefore no ability to be sure it is the veggie man, then I'd got to the people in the other flat and say hey, btw, I let your veggie man in the other day but I won't be able to keep doing it - I'm don't let people in unless I know for sure they should be allowed in, I've got a young baby and am not willing to come down three flights of stairs for this. Can you please arrange your deliveries to come at a time when you are in. Sorted.

All the people who are so pious about being "good neighbours" and "trusting" people, would you REALLY either go down 3 flights of stairs while you're taking care of your baby, or buzz in a stranger?

Yes.

I'm off to re-read the thread I mentioned earlier, about the Mumsnetter who drove the other Mumsnetter who had an operation, back home. It's heartening to hear about acts of kindness.

Pollyanna the OP has said there's no camera on the intercom. It's just voice.

Quite easily. I once lost my keys when out. Like a total twat my spare ones were helpfully inside the kitchen drawer.

Late in the evening and I didn't have the £ for locksmiths. Long story short but a friend helped me prize the window open without breaking it to get to said spare keys. Before putting it back and securing it etc.

Not one or the neighbours raised an eyebrow at our very obvious shenanigans.

I'm off to re-read the thread I mentioned earlier, about the Mumsnetter who drove the other Mumsnetter who had an operation, back home. It's heartening to hear about acts of kindness.

Are you aware that a one-off lift is a very different proposition to being given a regular job in your own home by someone who never even asked you?

I too think you're getting a hard time. I always take me neighbours parceks in, but it's easy, they know on my four, I open it and they hand me the parcel. Id be very peed off if this happened at 8 am in a Saturday morning though!

And it does NOT take "only 30 seconds" to gather up the baby, go down 3 flights of stairs, open the door, then go back up again.

You have done it once but the neighbours need to organise themselves better!

Yes, RoseTico I do understand the difference. But please bear in mind the favour in this instance would have taken about 30 seconds...

Well said Rose

Yanbu. A one-off delivery, yes. Your neighbors regular food delivery...NO! They've not been considerate when placing the order if they know, they're NOT going to be in to receive it. As I say, a one-off is different. And why should you have the dilemma of keaving your child for their vegetable shopping?

Excuse typos!! I'm on a train!