To not understand why so many mumsnetters are against people posting pics of children on Facebook!?

[thedavidsons]

I don't get it. Facebook is amazing for memories, everything is so easy to organise and track, I couldn't imagine not having pics of my children on there. I don't understand why so many mumsnetters are against it!?

Do yo ever feel embarrassed when your mum brings out the album of photos from when you were growing up?

Never and I can honestly say that... There are pictures of me on my mums Facebook of when I was about 10+ and have no issue. I don't get it, I really don't.

I think it depends on the photos. I do wonder if DS El demand I delete them all when he's 10. I hope he'll understand that there were alot of people following his story who had never met him and that FB was the easiest way to do it

I'm against it because the children have not given permission.

I think this is also all very new. We have no idea what effect it will have on that generation to have been raised with so much about them online. Looking at the mental health reports of teens currently it doesn't look good.

I try and think about how much i hated my parents showing my baby photos to friends or having them around the house and this isnt just a few good pictures, it's many, online, forever.

I don't post any pictures of DS online due to security reasons, and I fully understand why others don't post pictures of their children online, especially Facebook.

Like I say, my mum put photos of me on Facebook from about 10+ and it hasn't bothered me at all and the same for all my friends.

I like to have control over what is posted about me and so I'd like to afford my children the same privilege. You say you'd have been fine with it but I absolutely would not have. I don't have a single photo of me on FB or any other social network.

Don't bring privacy settings into this, we really have no idea where these photos will end up, and we don't know what the online world will look like when our children come of age.

Plenty of good photo software available with which you can use to organise your photos, that is a very weak excuse.

@AngelaTwerkel I don't mean general organisation, it's all on a timeline and I like that. I've never seen anyone in RL who have an issue with it either, it's very much a mumsnet thing.

I look at my baby and childhood photos now, at 32, and love them. Such great memories.

But at 12? 15? 18 even? Most were okay, some were slightly embarrassing, some property morto. So glad they weren't online when I was that age.

Thats your perception. The bulk of my friends don't post pictures of their kids online either and most of them aren't on MN. They just respect their children's privacy.

I have actually found im in the minority on mn with a dislike for dc pics on facebook when the topic comes up.

I don't like the fact that you are denying them any future anonymity, I use social media alot as part of my job and I keep my private life separate from that. I would also like to teach her that chosing not to share her life online is a valid and perfectly normal thing to decide, too many teens are becoming depressed and hurting themselves over what happens on social media sites, its another thing they can use to take a sledgehammer to their self esteem.

I feel like you're the type who tick that you don't consent to the school using their photos either?

No, it's not, and the people who use this forum also exist in the actual world, you know. You're simply extrapolating from your own life experience. Several of my friends don't post pictures of their children on social media, for reasons of security or privacy. My five year old has never appeared on FB. Surely it's not that hard to understand?

I've never seen anyone in RL who have an issue with it either, it's very much a mumsnet thing.

You do realise Mumsnet is just made up of people, with opinions about real life? Of course its not just a 'mumsnet thing'

I think it's more a safety thing.

If I knew someone was posting photos of me online now, without me knowing or asking me about it, I'd be livid. It doesn't matter if that was from when i was 2 or 20, I want the agency to be able to chose for myself what the world sees.

Xpost with peck

My children's school doesn't use photos of the kids on their website, but this is the way it works where I live. I guess it's different in the UK. Why would you not respect someone who made that choice for their children?

Yep, don't post any pics of the children online and also don't agree to nursery/school using pictures online.

They can't consent to it, and it's not necessary so I don't do it. Once images are out there you can't control them. There are plenty of other ways to share photos with family rather than FB.

I never understand the 'I don't see it in real life, it's just a Mumsnet thing' argument. You know that all the people posting on MN actually exist in real life? We're not all internet sprites who exist only on the boards of MN.

As to why some people don't post photos of their children on FB? Some just don't want to. Some are mindful of the fact that photos on the internet are around forever, and that their children might not want their baby/childhood photos online (great that you aren't bothered about your Mum posted photos of you online, that's grand, but some people are bothered by It, as is their perogative. Surely you can understand that other people feel differently to you about some things?) Finally, some people can't post photos of their children for security reasons - perhaps they have an abusive ex or family member, or they have an adopted child who is at risk from their birth family.

I do get it but I do post pictures of DD. However, those photos are all only permitted to be seen by the 15 people (mostly family) who are in my 'close friends' group. It's also the reason my instagram account is private. I don't have a particular reason other than I don't feel comfortable with it.

I've had emails in the past warning about posting things about your children and their photos being used as "targets"

I feel like you're the type who tick that you don't consent to the school using their photos either?

So what if any pp is 'the type' (rude way to refer to anyone, by the way). How exactly does it affect you?

"The type who tick we don't consent to school photos either"

No, I'm fine with that, just not fine with my kid being plastered over fb which I don't use and can't standis that ok with you?

it's ok with me if you want to upload your kids life story in photos on the internet, I choose not to as I'd rather protect their privacy until they are old enough to consent. Why is this an issue for you? Strange

I appear to have found my people..