To not understand why so many mumsnetters are against people posting pics of children on Facebook!?

[thedavidsons]

I don't get it. Facebook is amazing for memories, everything is so easy to organise and track, I couldn't imagine not having pics of my children on there. I don't understand why so many mumsnetters are against it!?

It's a generational change. People who weren't famous used to live completely private lives and going on about yourself or your kids in any way was considered bad form.

"Photos are stolen of children online and exploited"

No doubt they are, but it doesn't put my children at risk. Are you seriously arguing that there should be no photos of children out there anywhere on the internet in case somebody wants to use the photos for nefarious ends?!

Now it's not, so I really think it's as simple as that (plus safety issues).

My children are late teens/young adults so very much not babies/young children when FB started. I have never put photos on any social media. We had a conversation about this recently - they were both very vehement about their rights to privacy and their right not to have anything on the internet without their permission...

No not arguing anything . Zoe.

They question was why do people not put photos of their dc on Facebook?

"I feel like you're the type who tick that you don't consent to the school using their photos either?"

I always refuse to consent. What's wrong with that?

Depends on your privacy settings, Never Mind. But potentially, yes. You've also given Facebook license to use and reproduce all of your photos as they see fit.

For content that is covered by intellectual property rights, like photos and videos (IP content), you specifically give us the following permission, subject to your privacy and application settings: you grant us a non-exclusive, transferable, sub-licensable, royalty-free, worldwide license to use any IP content that you post on or in connection with Facebook (IP License).

m.facebook.com/terms

Thanks cheerful we have all the strict settings, plus dh has no ther friends on his either.

Also.... If I delete all of the photos have I effectively got rid of them? Like, I'd never even put them up?

Okay, so several people have taken the time to post, explaining why they don't share photos of their children on FB. You are seemingly not bothered taking on board anything those posters have said. You're certainly not engaging with any of the posters who explained why they don't post photos of their children on FB. So why on earth did you start this thread?

MommaGee I know someone who does something similar, he BLURS the faces out of his children in images online. It's very weird, and frankly a bit creepy!

An abuser really doesn't need to do detailed detective work to find somebody to abuse

This was sort of my point, sorry if it wasn't clear. Given that most abusers aren't ransoms, but are nice Uncle Joe, you probably don't want to give your kids' messenger addresses out to them. It doesn't stop an abuser, but it did make it easier, and nice Uncle Joe might well be on those tiny sub groups people were talking about, and would know all the emotional background anyway.

Also, you can change settings so you can view tags before your friends can, I often decline them and that's that. It really isn't hard.

So you have the right to choose what photos go up of you?your child? and therefore understand that not all photos should be shown, but don't let the child, who is the subject we're discussing choose? That screams hypocrisy

NevermindtheBollocks
As long as they haven't been screenshot, or one of you has used a public computer and not logged out.

I tick the "Do not consent" box too, and that would include the local paper publishing reception kids photos, if that were a done thing here

We have choices about our children, thankfully, and I choose to exercise my right to refuse

That would remove Facebook's license, NeverMind, yes.

FWIW, Shoebox and Shutterfly are much better systems for managing photos than Facebook. Shutterfly even lets you set up sharing sites which you can control in order to let other people see your pictures

Still not sure I exactly get your point. How is sharing a photo of your child the same as granting access to a child's messenger account? If uncle Joe knows the kids well enough to know all the emotional background, and the child has their own Facebook account, then presumably it'd be easy enough for him to find them whether or not you post a photo of them having Sunday lunch one weekend? Sorry if I'm misunderstanding, I really don't get it. My kids don't have their own Facebook accounts anyway, but it seems like you are merging two totally different issues - one is about photos posted by parents and the other is about how easily your children can be messaged by people online. If you are worrying about the latter, it's probably the photos they themselves post that you need to be more concerned about :(

Great. Thanks

Also baffles me OP. And like you, I don't know a soul in real life who has an issue with pics of kids on FB. It does seem to be only people on MN.

But then there are quite a few things people claim they do on MN, that I never see people do in real life.

Do you think that the people posting on this thread are all lying? Strange.

Which ones of the reasons people have given baffles you?

Again with the 'only on MN' nonsense. Yes, yes, we're all liars who don't exist in real life . Or perhaps, Notknownatthisaddress, you could consider that there are people who aren't exactly like you and the people you know in real life.

Why on earth would you assume that people are lying? And which of the reasons that people have given for not posting photos of their children on FB 'baffle' you?

And I should have RTFT because AssassinatedBeauty had already said exactly what I just posted .

I'd say a quarter of my friends (including myself) don't post pics of our children on FB. And I don't live in the UK at the moment so it's not a "Mumsnet" thing.

I'm not on FB. DH is but has never posted pictures of the DCs on it. I know a few people who do but most don't. We're mid-40s as our most of our friendship group. I went to a tech-type conference recently and the audience was asked whether they would mind basic information about them being more freely available over the internet. I was struck that the younger audience members were indifferent (plus one older person who worked in research and wanted to get her hands on data more easily) as they felt it was all there on Facebook anyway but the people my age were not keen. Online fraud is the fasts growing type of crime. Ok, I'm sure a hacker can just break into the system of a shop or somewhere that holds me on their database but I'd rather be cautious about what I have control over.

My eldest DC will be a teenager soon. I'm very aware that when things got tough at that age, going home to your bedroom used to be a safe space and now it isn't. I don't want to risk adding to her burden. I also want her to be very aware of the potential repercussions of what she puts online, I've heard enough tales about people in sensitive jobs posting indiscreet things and getting in the shit.

My local paper does publish an edition with every kid in every class in the new school intake but there must be a permission slip involved somewhere (I can't remember), I'm sure the ones who are not allowed will just not be included in the shoot.

Some people are perturbed by thought that there could be grubby men wanking themselves senseless over pictures of their children.
Some people are perturbed by thought that their children haven't given permission.
Some people are perturbed by thought that someone may track your children and abduct them.