Pest elderly neighbour asks me to film my child with his camcorder?

[SprogPlusPup]

Hi,

I had a good relationship with my elderly neighbours, until I stopped commuting to go on maternity leave. Ever since, they he has become a complete pest whereby I cannot leave my house, front or back without him coming out and calling to me to start a conversation. My husband works away a lot (is a cameraman) and the behaviour is definitely worse when he's away - to the point where it's verging on obsessive. He will also knock on my door two times a day and due to the layout of my house, he can see through my door glass that I'm in.

Last week he cut a whole in our garden fence - when I asked him what had happened he said he'd created a 'serving hatch' for me.

Today, upon leaving my house, he asked if he could join me for rhyme time at the library, which I reluctantly allowed to only have him later knock on our door again, camcorder in hand, asking me to film footage of my daughter crawling. I was to keep the camera and use it to capture her up to her 1st birthday. I explained my husband's job and that it wasn't necessary as we have plenty of cameras and he refused and continued to tell me how to use it.

Now is it just me, or is this strange?
Also - I can't sustain this level of his interest - what do I do? I'm becoming very fed up and not using my garden because of him.

And change in personality (possibily cause of neighbour fall outs) is an early sign of dementia

Next thing you know he will be inviting your daughter into his house when she's a bit older as he's "mummy's friend" who she trusts so much.
Ley down the rules now!
Everything about this creeps me out.

It could be dementia. Happened to my next door neighbour too.

It doesn't ring true of dementia to me, I'm a nurse.

It's all a bit too thought through.

Whether it is dementia or not (and there are different forms which can express themselves differently behaviourally) the OP needs to protect herself. The behaviour is really unreasonable so avoidance, obfuscation. having the husband around as much as possible to put him off is a good idea. And of course boarding the "hatch" up.

1. Go right out and block his spy hole today - Take a black sack out there and stick it on from your side.
2. Don't answer the door if he rings. If possible put up a curtain or sheet over the glass door so he cannot see in.
3. If he telephones just say sorry bit busy. YO uhave already given too much lea way in taking him to the baby's class with you. These people suck you in and suck you dry. My neighbour calls a lot and for ages (nearly 80) and I just stop the call when I'd have enough and I refuse her requests quite often eg she wanted to swap wheelie bins. She could not believe it when I said very calmly I am happy with my bin and I will not be swapping it! She has sucked other neighbours in more who will go over at night when she has an "emergency" (I just refuse to go). They never are emergencies. We get on okay but only because I am very firm and set limits.