To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

"My newly slim friend wore a maroon knee length fitted dress to my wedding!!! Aibu to be hurt?"

Ummm

Adding my congratulations to everyone else's OP, that's a huge weight loss. But getting slightly confused - the dress is cotton and not clingy you say later but in your original post you say figure-hugging and stunning, and the one you posted as quite like the maroon one even if yours is longer seems more clubby than weddingy . Quite honestly if so I'd save the maroon dress for another time and get a beautiful elegant tea dress which will show off your figure but more discreetly.

What do people suggest the OP wears then?

Don't know why people are giving the OP a hard time. Just because she's lost weight doesn't mean she has to hide herself in a frumpy non flattering outfit. It's quite hard to hide a 6 stone weight loss. I very much doubt the attention will be taken off the bride. If I were the bride I'd be delighted for my friend losing all that weight.

Wear the dress op and have a great time celebrating your friends marriage.

Meh, I don't see how it's unfair. You lost the weight. She didn't. Make yourself feel fabulous OP. Honestly, do people really think you'll be stealing the show from the bride because of looking slim now?

I will say though, tight fitting dresses won't look right at a wedding. It's not classy but if you feel lovely in it, wear it

Is the panelling on the front similar? If yes then it looks a little too revealing for a wedding. Otherwise I think you should wear it. You have lost the weight and should be rightfully proud. All focus will be on the bride still. You will get comments from friends / family but that can't be helped and you will get them whether you wear your original dress or something else. Congratulations on the weight loss and enjoy the wedding.

One of my closest friends wore a stunning figure hugging strapless dress to my wedding. She looked gorgeous.
I was flattered that she'd made an effort.

If she'd turned up in a drab brown sack, I'd have been insulted

It's a little conceited to think you'll upstage the bride. I'd say it was more of a throwaway comment by your mum to compliment you.

BTW I hate maroon.

OP I think wearing a knee length lace dress is fine, but personally for a wedding I wouldn't go for the sheer panel around the waist. Sometimes less is more. I don't like the mesh bit on the back of the dress you showed, it looks a bit cheap imo, but a see through lace panel on the upper back or sleeves would be fine.

Can you just take a photo of the dress - it's impossible for anyone to say otherwise!!

If you're close, could you not ask your friend about the dress? Surely you've already talked about what you're wearing?

If I was your true friend I would be delighted you had lost weight and that you looked gorgeous at my wedding.

Fucking hell what a thread. Op the dress you have described is perfectly appropriate. You appear to committed a horrible crime by losing weight and being proud of it. As a PP mentioned if an overweight bride to be posted that she was unhappy a good friend had lost weight and was going to wear a form fitting dress to her wedding she would be absolutely flamed.

Don't wear it - not because of upstaging the bride, but frankly because if its anything like the dress you linked to it looks a bit tacky

Is your dress mesh/see through like the ASOS one? It doesn't look Weddingy and does scream "look at me".

It's hard to say without seeing the shoes and the hair as well tbh

But I would listen to your mum - she has seen the outfit and she knows your friend

There's no sheer anything on the dress.Just the sleeves

That photo of Kate Middleton in the grey midi dress has been photoshopped to fuck! they've given her a Kim K bum and she's the skinniest person alive!
(unhelpful. I think the dress is ugly but not inappropriate if it's knee length.)

Everyone saying that her Mum says it's inappropriate, Mums aren't always right. They have their own issues.

It's a knee length shift dress. I do not see anything wrong with that. I'm not sure what type of dress would disguise the weight loss. Boden probably have something she'd look suitably fat in.

This is pretty hard to judge without the actual dress, but OP, do YOU think your friend will be upset?

You have said My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding.. If you have any inkling that this will upset her, for one day I would probably just wear something else.

No, Don't put up the dress here.

As pp said this has got desperate daily-mail-journalists-without-integrity written all over it.

Could you wear your dress for the night do and wear something approved by your mum for the day do?
Only you will know if the bride would feel offended or upstaged as we don't know her.

Maybe the bride has enough self esteem to feel good whatever her mates wear?

Just because she's bigger doesn't mean to say she'll feel jealous /inadequate / upstaged.

'approved by your mum'

Sorry, I don't think that style of dress is well-suited to a wedding. The sheer mesh panels at the back are not classy. I would definitely raise an eyebrow (internally) and would consider it an attention-seeking outfit. Even if it is longer than the one you have linked to.
Of course you are free to wear what you want. However, it's respectful to do what you can not to upstage the bride, and particularly if you are 'unveiling' your weight loss for the first time to many of the guests who will be there, choose a less flashy dress.
I hope you enjoy the wedding and have a lovely time!

Oh, cross post. It's the mesh panels that I think are ugly, so I take that back as OP says it doesn't have them.

I wonder what pictures the Daily Mail will use for this thread? Or maybe Loose Women will pick it up for a heated debate?