To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

I think you are getting a hard time unnecessarily and that people have not read your comments properly about the length and colour. Besides the fact you have clearly said it longer asos models are about 6ft so everything looks short on them.

Well done on the weight loss, I am a stone in to my weight loss and have 4.5 left to go. I think most people who has always been slim would just wear the dress and not give it a second thought. I think you are being more considerate than the average person because you are a good friend and understand that being overweight can make you feel uncomfortable. That being said your friend knows you've lost weight and you deserve to feel comfortable and as though you look good.

Wear the dress, make a great deal out of how lovely your friend will look and just compliment her on her appearance. Equally don't make a song and dance out of your weight, in the same way if someone was pregnant/ new job/ just moved they wouldn't make a big deal out of it.

Don't let people on here make you feel rubbish. You posted with good intentions as you were concerned about your friend.

Good point, Borodin.

OP this is the dress you must wear. Rest assured no part of your body will be on display

Ah yes, that's better! And your right, it is far too look at me. Nobody is to dare even glimpse in her direction, because at weddings that is is a forbidden sin. She must fade into the distance, giving the illusion she isn't even there perhaps.
Your selected dress is much more appropriate attire!

Namechanger I never really bought the upstage the bride argument. A dress that draws a lot of attention, like any naa naa dress I saw on line, would look tacky and would draw a lot of attention. Not enough to upstage the bride, but enough to look out of place and make people think you were attempting to be in some sort of the spotlight.

The only actual example OP showed us wasn't good because it has so much flesh only covered by mesh. Even longer I'd say no. The ones you posted are moving toward classy, but a bit tight and in one case low cut, to qualify for wedding elegant imo. I suspect it's cheap fabric as they rely on tightness, not cut, to be form fitting. But they aren't screaming look at me, maybe just stating that a bit, maybe just a whisper. They wouldn't be bad.

Form fitting is fine. Like all the Kate dresses. Just not tacky. But at the end of the day it's just a dress and if you love it, it's probably ok. Any doubt ask some people you trust who can actually see you model it. Obviously stunning shouldn't be the goal, just looking nice. Stunning kind of implies trying to have a spotlight.

She probably should smile, but not grin. Wear a slight heel she is a lady but not too high. Speak clearly, but not loudly. Wear makep to look pretty but not too pretty. Remember bridezilla probably nothing of the kind will be watching her every move to disapprove as that is the Bride's important job for the day.

I love the fact Borodin actually has no idea what happened 😂 (The op's mum didn't desperately want to lose weight)!

And I just love merchant ❤️

I upstaged a bride once. I was bridesmaid she picked the dresses. Hers wasn't flattering. Ours were ivory and stunning. I was gorgeous I'll admit. Plus young and slim. She laughed that the photographer took more pics of me. I did try to steer her at other dresses but she wasn't bothered. I'm cringing as this has reminded me of it.

Op you won't upstage the bride in maroon.

I'm laughing my head off at the two men in this thread, who both sound like my (now deceased) creepy great-uncle Bernard, trying to sort it all out by telling us what women's motivations are and men really want*. PLEASE.

*here's a clue, this sort of conversation has less than zero to do with men. Even if this was a woman only event it would be just as controversial. Not everything we do centres around getting a husband/getting pregnant. Imagine that!

I think you answered your own question when you described your dress as stunning and figure hugging! I agree no reason to look plain, but you wouldn't be much of a friend knowingly up staging the bride.

Not read full thread but ffs what a bunch of mean spirited harpies! Every wedding I've ever been to there's been stunning girls in figure hugging dresses. I can honestly say I've been jealous of some of them but did not think they were doing anything wrong other than looking good. A wedding is a big expensive day for all concerned, everyone wants to look their best .
This is op's first chance to 'come out' to lots of people she knows in her new shape and size. Why should she dress down when everyone else is dressing up?
Not her fault she lost weight and the bride didnt.
As for posters saying 'mums are always right'???! Wtf???! Rose West is a mum. My mum is a mean vindictive spiteful cow and would have tried deliberately to upstage me had I invited her to my wedding.
If you like what you have bought and feel good in it then wear it. enjoy your new body and confidence. Enjoy some flirting, enjoy feeling proud of our achievement and most of all enjoy your friend's big day. Be suitably gushing and complimentary to her and about her.

700+ comments and bickering about this????
There's an awful irony to the comments I could be bothered to read. If it's not a dress then there will always be something so asinine that proves women are often their worst enemies.

Someone wrote the Daily Fail trawls looking for shut that proves we're a nest of vipers. Especially when we are castigating someone for being one in the first place.

depressing

shit not shut.

It sounds like you want to upstage the bride OP, well done on losing the weight. But I agree with the other comments, it's her day, not yours. She'll just feel like she's failed in her diet, and that you are rubbing it in. Go looking fab and sophisticated and have a great time.

I wore what I thought was a lovely dress to a girl friend's wedding years back. Little did I know everyone else thought it was stunning and that I looked amazing. So many people, friends and strangers, stopped me to say how fabulous I looked it was embarrassing. The bride took it well but did say that my dress was getting more attention than here and for that I felt awful. If she's a good friend and you know the attention will be on you then don't do it. Give her her day in the limelight.

If the bride is going to feel jealous of OPs weight loss she'll feel it no matter what she wears.... you can't disguise a 6 stone loss!! I say wear the dress, feel fabulous but make sure your friend has a wonderful day and feels fabulous too!!

"you won't upstage the bride in maroon".

Think kate middleton took a similar View when she chose her browny/pinky dress for pippa's wedding!

"you won't upstage the bride in maroon".

Never a truer work
Spoken !

Now if it was pink , red or even shock horror white !!!!!

Most people wear knee length dresses to weddings. I don't think it's classed as figure hugging, you and your mum may think so because you've not had the opportunity to wear such a dress.

The dress is absolutely fine, wear it. I'm sure you'll get loads of lovely people commenting on your weight loss. The bride won't notice, she will be wrapped up in her day to notice what guests are wearing, unless you rock up in an ivory lace gown, but that's a different story.

Ignore these negative comments, go and enjoy yourself, celebrating your friends wedding and wear your dress with pride. Xx

Well done on your weight loss. If it were me I would wear something that shows off my weight loss but figure-hugging is probably not necessary. It's the bride's day don't try to grab attention for yourself. If your mum knows the situation then her instincts are most probably correct.

Perhaps all the guests, men, women and even the groom should dress as clowns incl. facepaint. All these comments on it being the Bride's moment and everyone needing to say how perfect the bride looks. Surely it is the couple's day to share with the people whom they love?

The bride will look amazing if she has an amazing day as she will be extremely happy.

Please don't. She might already be feeling conscious and it wouldn't be fair to upstage any bride. Obviously I don't know you but I'm sure you will look lovely in anything

Wow so many mean comments on here! If anyone read what the op said about the dress it's knee length and not short like the one in the photo!

I think what the op meant is we dress is fitted, so many people jumped on the word figure hugging it's no big deal and no the op certainly shouldn't go out with in a baggy dress. I don't think she sounds like she is gloating she is simply stating what her mother said to her!

Op well done on the weigh loss enjoy being able to wear a nice dress after all your hard work!