This thread is so bloody depressing. Even inoring the deliberately provocative comments from borodin, there is just so much unthinking bullshit. New posters don't bother to read the discussion and just wander in with a sanctimonious, chiding chorus of 'Oh, just let her have her day, it's only fair."
What do you even mean? It's not as if the OP is proposing to do an actual definable act of rebellion, like turn up with 'I'm thinner than you' tattooed across her forehead. A choice of dress is just a choice of dress - it's all a sliding scale. One person's 'sexy' is another person's 'meh'. It's not an actual thing she's doing to upset the bride; it's anxiety about people's reactions to her body. And FFS if there is one thing we don't need, it's more angst about women's bodies and other people's fucking reactions to them.
We know that the dress, though not to everyone's tastes, is somewhere in the approximate ballpark of 'wedding attire'. It's a dress. It's not white. It doesn't have a train. It's not too short. It's fine. It's also not a pair of jeans (to refer to the hallowed example from my new friend) or anything too casual.
So why all the hand-wringing? It makes no logical sense. If you don't like the dress - so what? If you (for reasons that are unclear) suspect she (gasp) won't look stunning - so fucking what?? She likes it.
And, I'm sorry, but there seem to be some fairly obtuse posters on here. What's with the massive confusion over the word 'stunning'? It doesn't denote a style of dress. It's a completely subjective adjective. Again - one person's 'stunning' is another person's 'fine'. It's just plain weird to start lamenting 'Hmm, sorry OP, but I don't think a stunning dress sounds acceptable. Why don't you try a beautiful one instead? Or a lovely one?" It's batshit.
'Figure-hugging' is another one that's thrown people. I bet if you looked at your wedding pictures, you'd see that at least half of the women were wearing something 'figure-hugging', with some of the others wearing things that maybe fit in at the waist and then flare out. Who doesn't wear things that follow at least some of the contours of their body?? That's why we need to buy the correct size, surely. Yes, some dresses cling more than others - but... um...so? Is what's underneath so shocking?
I am so sick to death of reading about why women should do this, shouldn't do that, should wear this, shouldn't wear that. She's wearing a fairly normal dress. She's not 'showing off' or 'flaunting her new body'. Dear god, some of the responses on here are like tabloid headlines.
And now women have to take responsibility for everyone else's potential feelings every time they choose a dress? FUCK THAT.
I know it's her friend's wedding. Unless her friend is a complete tool, she won't mind her friend looking nice ( or sexy or stunning).
[Cue the usual suspects now telling me I seem upset/over-invested etc. Yup, I get upset about this shit. I have two daughters and I won't let them grown up in a world where the likes of borodin go unchallenged, or where women go round policing how much spare fabric there needs to be around your newly slim arse before you are non-offensive.]
Night all.