To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

And to hope to meet your future husband at a wedding?

Who on earth wears figure hugging clothes at a wedding anyway? How vulgar.

Yeah I get fashion isn't on the radar for loads of people, but at a wedding, generally everyone does want to look nice yes

Often when I say "every" I mean "the vast majority/everyone I know of"

And to hope to meet your future husband at a wedding? wink

Lol I've absolutely done this

All these people are nuts. Wear something that makes you feel good. If you see other people's clothing as a personal insult there's something a bit wrong with you, tbh.

Just don't turn up wearing a wedding dress and you'll be fine.

I avoided all of this by only inviting women to my wedding who were fatter than me and had less perky tits.

I love it!

This thread is priceless - for all the wrong reasons.

Oh dear God rick, your opinion isn't any more important just because you're a man, you've got no right to tell us what all women want and how to find a husband, and it's hard to take fashion advice from someone whose tone sounds like he's 500 years old.

It's not that men shouldn't be allowed on Mumsnet, but why do you guys always have to emphasise that yours is a MAN'S POINT OF VIEW and talk like you're concerned that hearing your MAN'S POINT OF VIEW might break us?

Hint: We know what men want. We know what men think. You know why? Because we never fucking stop hearing it.

Sorry to be pedantic namechangr but what I was objecting to was not his opinion per se but his bossy tone (definitely not a fascinator). It's annoying.

No, every woman at a wedding does not want to look elegant and fashionable. This one simply wants to look reasonably smart and presentable. And I certainly don't go to weddings to look for husbands.

It wasn't bossy as much as patronising and overly delicate, like he was so worried that we wouldn't be able to handle hearing something that came from - a MAN!

Dun-dun-DUUUUUUUUN!

Or that we're so simple he needs to explain very carefully to us what we want, how we can find husbands and how we should wear gloves to weddings as if that fashion hasn't been dead for 50 years, but should be VERY CAREFUL that we know what suits us because most of us are just SO SIMPLE.

I bet he says 'persons of the female persuasion' without a trace of irony.

Jeeeeeesus he never said any of that. What attitude? You people are the reason why men don't want to engage in feminism, you shoot them down anytime they have any opinion on anything woman-related.

If you are actually offended by anything he said (not sure what was offensive in the slightest), that is ridiculous.

If a woman had said any of it, you'd be fine with it! Yes most women want to look stylish at a wedding, yes a lot of people meet their future partners - what's untrue about that? he then had some fashion suggestions. So what? Get over yourselves JFC.

It's the classic MN get-the-pitchforks-out-when-a-man-appears perpetually offended brigade

Simple solution - ask your friend what she thinks of your dress!

I think the dress is fine for a wedding

Yeah - why not text your friend a pic asking for her opinion? Then you'll know for sure.

But honestly, I think it's absolutely fine. We shouldn't have to change our outfits to tiptoe around (what probably won't even be) other people's feelings.

Nothing useful to add, just that dress is made by NaaNaa and that is making me think of playground jibes

I bet the groom and his friends are not worrying about who looks best in a suit.

Can we see the dress?
Very curious... l'm sure the bride will be the centre of attention anyway no point in hiding your hard work

I don't care about men commenting on MN, but I really hate it when they make a big announcement about how they are about to give us a Male Perspective, as if those are so very hard to come by and will change the discussion dramatically, and then proceed to inform us what we want and what we should do as if we are stupid.

And unfortunately, that's what an awful lot of them do.

You've earned the right to wear the dress, so ignore everyone and go in full gorgeousness!

There seems to be an assumption here that you'll definitely be sexier and get more attention than the larger lady/bride. Strange, because every woman I've ever known only wants to be accepted for the person inside and not the outside.

I'm assuming that regardless of how big the bride is her husband to be loves and accepts her as she is - otherwise why is he marrying her?
Go, enjoy yourself and feel proud and beautiful - just don't get smashed, hike your dress up and start dirty dancing with the bride's father...

Thks Name Chgr.
You're lovely.
I was beginning to understand what it feels like to be slapped around the chops by 'feminine correctness'. I'll pass an opinion over her desk next time to avoid any mishaps.

I was beginning to understand what it feels like to be slapped around the chops by 'feminine correctness'

If you come over in real life the way you do here, I am frankly astounded that it has not happened before. Even more so than I am that a man should come in to a space that is run by and largely aimed at women, and lecture us about "feminine correctness".

Honestly, bog off and take your 500 year old fashion advice with you.

that dress is made by Naa Naa I'm finding that really funny in the circumstances

Omg people can be so negative if that's what you have chosen then wear it with pride ! I don't think your friend would want you to turn up wearing an awful outfit because you've lost weight I think that she would be made up to see how you look so one it sod anyone that says otherwise xx

Your friends's wedding is not the place to show your weight loss. Your friend's wedding is supposed to be the most special day of her life, so forgive me but you don't sound like a friend at all to not even acknowledge that you do not upstage the bride, you are there to support and celebrate with her.

I wish I could congratulate you but feel you have just done it to compete with her, which is so sad.

you people are the reason men don't want to engage with feminism

hilarious!!!

I think you'll find that plenty of men are perfectly capable of engaging with feminism.

Men who don't want to engage with feminism have their own pig-headed reasons that are actually nothing to do with real women and their opinions.

and it's hard to take fashion advice from someone whose tone sounds like he's 500 years old.

I laughed.