To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

Thank you weddingSlut, now we can start discussing your outfit! Phew

(very impressed by your choice of 2nd picture, well researched )

I was going to say as long as you feel it's wedding appropiate and you feel elegant then wear it.

Not so sure the dress on the link can be called elegant though.

Big congrats on losing weight...It's not easy!

@WeddingSlut PMSL

Weddingslut
Similar story here!
In my case, I had put on a few pounds and was feeling a bit frumpy before the wedding of a close family member (similar age) a couple of years ago.
I finally found a full length dress from Phase 8 that cinched and skimmed in what I thought were all the right places. I am size 12 and curvy with a very large bust and the dress hid the extra weight I had on my stomach and hips. It was full length and scarlet and very flattering in a 'Jessica Rabbit' sort of way.
This is COMPLETELY out of character for me as I'm normally a jeans and tshirt or floaty dress kind of person. Even my partner was a bit But I felt fabulous and decided to wear it with killer heels for the extra height.
When we got there all the other women were in pretty pastels and florals and I felt like I stuck out quite a bit and not in a good way.
I know my dress was full length and not massively revealing but it was a pretty show-offy and I totally wore it to boost my ego so overall it was really quite tacky.
The bride looked amazing and of course all of the attention was on her but I felt low level inappropriate all day and still cringe now when I think of it. Wish I had worn something a bit more fun and summery and saved the va-va- voom red dress for a more appropriate event. Or at least covered up a little with a coordinating jacket or something.
Obviously you should wear something you like and look good in but I now get why it is recommended that guests should aim for 'decorative' rather than 'look at me!'

Mcakes, I'm sure you looked fab

Anyway, everyone likes to have someone to disapprove of at a wedding... we altruistically offered up our scarlet lycra-clad breasts for the purpose. Go us.

Oh for goodness sake, this is so silly. I am a size 16 and tall and broad and I recently got married. My sister is an absolutely gorgeous size 10. She wore a pretty unique and stunning outfit to my wedding. Did I resent her for looking beautiful and me still looking bigger (and a bit ill as I had an operation 10 days beforehand) no I did not. Unless it is a version of a wedding dress, which it clearly isn't or very very revealing then it is 100% fine and your friend will be happy that you look and feel happy and confident and no doubt she will feel beautiful as it is her wedding day. If you turned up in a sack your friend would probably think, what a waste why is she not making an effort? Your Mum is just being a bit over sensitive (as my mum can be at times as she is insecure about the way she herself looks). Enjoy the wedding.

Weddingslut
Haha yes! Every wedding should have a "Scarlet Woman". At posh do's it could be the "Lady in Red."
Maybe it will become a thing and brides will start nominating someone to play the part

oh yes you could pick the one person who is sulking cos they werent asked to be bridesmaid to be the scarlet woman to include her in the wedding - doing readings is so last season darling!

When I got married I told my friends to wear their favourite evening dress and they turned up in a variety of colours and skirt lengths with cleavage and leg on display or not. Did I care? Not one bit. We had a great day, surrounded by everyone who loved us. Isn't that the point? I don;t go to the weddings of people I hardly know so I can'y possible offend them with what I might choose to wear and the lovely friends and relatives who I care about enough to go are pleased I am there, whether in sack cloth and ashes or an Elvis suit. Isn't that the way it should be?

Mcakes I think the moral of your story is to pick something you're comfortable in, isn't it? Someone else might have felt quite comfortable in that. People have individual styles.

Alternatively, I suppose the bride could issue a list of pre-approved, suitably floaty, floral numbers for the female guests. A sort of uniform, if you will. Naturally, there would need to be a separate section for 'anyone who started dieting around the same time as the bride and has been more successful'. This section would contain only baggy dresses, you understand.

Oh, and my best friend was a stunning size 8 blond at the time in figure hugging black maxi gown. I wouldn't have expected her to look any bit less than gorgeous, the girl was naturally so, still is. I didn't worry one bit about her upstaging me!

Merchant nail head hit.

The bride will be star of the show so don't worry - and all guests enjoy dressing up. I think the dress in the pic is lovely - imagining it burgundy and knee-length. You could always wear a pashmina shawl or jacket to cover up a bit for the ceremony if you feel self-conscious. Be proud of who you are, be a good guest , be there for your friend - and enjoy the day! :)

Listen to your Mum, she is right.

Well done on the weight loss.
Wear the dress and enjoy the wedding.
X

Haha asks for advise and does the opposite of what the majority & her own mother tell her.

Enjoy your special day 😂

Never upstage the bride

Let her have her day - please?
It's you who said it was stunning and figure hugging - and you who said she wanted to be slim for her wedding!
I know you want to show off your weight loss - this is the perfect forum - full of people who haven't seen you for ages and will admire you. But it's HER day - don't do that.
I think you're going to wear it anyway as you resistant to
Yjrbtidal wave of opinion as it's not what you wanted to hear. But you are being selfish and a bit mean .
Well done to a healthier you too.

F**k me - wear what the hell you like! You can't upstage a bride. I wear fitted clothes all the time - as a size 8/10 I'd look like a sack of spuds if I wore something loose.

How can a guest upstage a bride?!

Why don't you ask your friend which outfit she likes best - offer her a few if you're afraid of offending her with this outfit and see what she chooses! I wouldn't worry about it being an unveiling!

She's not a great friend to you if she can't appreciate the massive effort and perseverance it took you to lose the weight and see that you deserve to look good too - Well done you!!!!

You are clearly trying to upstage the bride! At 16 stone she will not look beautiful in most people's eyes (unless you wish to sound patronising)
Well done for losing all that weight.....but, come on, don't rub it in!

Play it safe for her day. You will be glad that you did later on.

If this is genuine, you are a selfish, thoughtless, self absorbed, inconsiderate cow. Maybe your mother should have taught you that you are not the centre of the universe, instead of pussy-footing round you. I hope my daughter would never be such a spoiled brat, but if she was, she would get slapped down pdq. I bet your friend secretly hates you... and not because of the weightloss

You have got to be joking......reported. What a bitchy comment. The old MN classic AIBU lines

"I bet your friend hates you"
"judgemental cow"
"my DD would never be like that"

congrats

I think you know deep down that it wouldn't be the kindest thing a 'friend' could do on another friend's wedding day.
You said yourself that you have lost a considerable amount of weight, whilst your friend has not. And now you want to wear a 'lovely, figure hugging dress' on the most special day of her life. We don't need to see a picture of it either - what it looks like isn't the point. The point is, people haven't seen you for a while and will notice your weight loss anyway. Try if you can, to put yourself in the brides shoes as it were, and imagine how YOU would feel if she was the slim one at your wedding and you, the bride weren't. Save your dress for another day. Please.

I avoided all of this by only inviting women to my wedding who were fatter than me and had less perky tits.

But really, wear the dress and well done you!

If this is genuine, you are a selfish, thoughtless, self absorbed, inconsiderate cow. Maybe your mother should have taught you that you are not the centre of the universe, instead of pussy-footing round you. I hope my daughter would never be such a spoiled brat, but if she was, she would get slapped down pdq. I bet your friend secretly hates you... and not because of the weightloss
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What a peach you are!!
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