To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

@user1486076969 12.5 stone , 5'8 and a size 16???
At 5'8 that's not even very heavy! Are you large of bosom??

fatrascals you do not see any ripping apart?!

How about the bit where everyone said the dress (or 'all dresses a bit like that') was awful and tacky? Or the bit where everyone said OP was arrogant and probably wouldn't draw the slightest interest anyway? Or where someone suggested she was a mess of loose skin? Or that she's mean and vindictive?

If that's friendly advice in your book, I'm glad I'm not your friend!

no, now is not your time to shine, its your friends

Some of these comments are hilarious!

Sad times when you need to watch what you wear so you don't upset anyone.

Unless op is going to rock up in a wedding dress or naked then I don't see what the issue is.

Have guests not to make an effort and want to look their best at a wedding 🙄😴

Yes I think it's quite insulting to fatter people (of whom I am one) to suggest we can't cope with the reality that there are people in the world who are thinner than us. I'd find it way more upsetting if everyone came to my wedding dressed in loose baggy clothes for fear of upsetting me.

I have a friend who is the same age as me who looks younger than me and has worked hard to lose weight over the years, having been a large child and teenager, and is now much thinner than me. Good for her - she looks fabulous, if she wears something close fitting that's her affair - I want her to wear whatever she feels happy and confident wearing, she's bloody gorgeous why on earth shouldn't she dress to look good ?

And Kate Middleton upstages the bride just by turning up - not her fault, just a fact.

And why do anything that might risk the bride feeling a bit sad when the world is full of lovely non body con dresses?

I get your point, but I think the bride will be so focussed on her wedding she probably would hardly have time to think about it.

Also if OP is slim, the issue remains that she will look slim in just about any dress, unless it's a sack/Amish/Burqa/suit.

Yeah I think Kate M is like a study in modern manners. Just why would you wear a figure hugging dress to a wedding? Floaty summery dresses are usually the order of the day.

I'm struggling to understand how body-con dresses can be classy but then i love a bit of Boden frumpery

figure-hugging is generally not appropriate for a wedding

Wtf? So only baggy dresses are ok? What total, utter bullshit.

Maybe wear this instead

I'm struggling to understand how body-con dresses can be classy

Are neither of these classy?

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But pottered all those pics of Kate were her in figure-hugging dresses. I've rarely seen her wear anything that doesn't highlight her shape.

Are you mad?

Do you think figure-hugging means body-con?

Please show us the dress OP! We'll be nice!

If hypothetically, the bride had come on here saying "I don't want my slim friend to wear a bodycon dress to my wedding because it will upset me", you will all most definitely have told her to get a grip.

But now you are telling OP to not wear the dress just in case her friend does feel like that.

Oh ffs, OP, WEAR THE BLOODY DRESS. It's not your fault she's still a size 18, dress is not white, can't see the problem really.

Unless we see the actual dress nobody can really comments as a 'stunning, figure hugging dress' that is also cotton and not clingy is very vague and doesn't match.
The dress you posted (even longer, in burgundy and without lace patches) is not what I think of as wedding clothes - more pub or club.

Ooh namechanger678 those dresses are lovely espesh the 1st one! Good choice girl!
OP - wear whatever the hell you feel happy and comfortable in. Tell your mother to keep her opinions to herself - she sounds like mine - never got anything nice to say! Unless you are going in a bridal gown you will not upstage the bride. Also can i just say it takes more than a dress to look good - hair make-up jewellery accessories are all key! Its not just the dress. Not all brides look good! Btw i would totally go figure hugging or a-line as thats what suits me. Can pp please stop being so cruel to OP now? Seriously ladies back down.

Fatrascals

Exactly!!

I would if it was her wedding. yes, anything that tight I would be on the fence about - it's not a date. The fact your mum thinks it could hurt the bride's feelings would make me change my mind on a dress for a wedding. It doesn't matter what you look like, it's about the bride and groom living happily ever after (hopefully)

Wear the dress!

It's not your problem she couldn't be arsed to lose weight and stay fat.

Have fun!

I'm going to throw a spanner in the works and say wear the dress! Either way it is going to be obvious to people that you have lost weight, because let's face it, 16 stone to 10 stone is quite a dramatic change.
I wouldn't think you were upstaging the bride. I'm sure there will be other people who are a smaller size to the bride at the wedding, will they be hiding their figures? Just because you've lost weight and the bride hasn't doesn't mean you have to change what you're wearing.
Live and let live

This thread is remarkable! Wear the dress. Enjoy being thin. What a bizarre thing that only girls would worry about and shouldn't.