To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

You've lost weight, as long as the dress isn't OTT, and suitable for a wedding YANBU.

its a dress, that you like, if you were already a size 10 then no one would bat an eye lid.

Wear what you want to this wedding. Why shouldn't you show off your figure seeing as you've worked so hard to get slim. As long as it's a respectable dress I don't see why 1) you should have to wear a sack to avoid potential hurt feelings or 2) wear something baggy when most women at weddings wear figure hugging dresses anyway. At my own wedding I had one guest who wore a very inappropriate bum skimming, low cut dress and I didn't even notice it until we got our photos back.

And surely, surely never bodycon for a wedding, anyway?

There are 100 people looking at the maroon dress on house of fraser website.......bet all of them are mn'ers.

HOF website team will be wondering why so many people are looking but not buying.

Depressing that we are 10 pages in to women talking about 'upstaging' the bride just because she is thinner. I don't think men would have to deal with this shit and have people comparing them all the time! Why can't they both be beautiful no matter what their size? Are we still so shallow?

Are you by any chance going on holiday to Maui straight after the wedding, OP?

"its a dress, that you like, if you were already a size 10 then no one would bat an eye lid."

Sigh. Yes, but she wasn't. That's the point!

Does it look anything like this one OP?

My wedding dress was figure hugging FYI. just for those saying they aren't wedding appropriate

Well done on your weight loss OP.

That being said, your mum has offered you some very sensible advice, please listen to her and do the right thing.

The fact that that most of the guests have not seen your weight loss will attract attention and will take the attention away from the bride. That means you will be making the day all about you and not her, on top of rubbing it in. Reading your post, I think you know that deep down this is the case. It's her day, she deserves to feel like a princess. You will have plenty of other opportunities to show off your weight loss and figure, but this is not the occassion for it.

I haven't read every comment on here but honestly, I'm so shocked by the amount of people saying not to wear it.

You've done amazingly well to lose weight, of course you want to look your best and wear the dresses you haven't been able to wear for all those years.

I too used to be overweight and am now size 8-10, so I know the hard work that's involved.

On my wedding day, I couldn't have cared less what anyone wore. It isn't a great reflection on your friend if she would feel down on her wedding day, simply because you look good. She should be happy for you.

It's her wedding day, the happiest day of her life. I can't believe that anyone's wedding day could be negatively affected by their friend looking nice at the wedding

The dress looks fine OP. Wear it.

Wear what you want, you have worked hard to lose weight so why not wear a nice dress that shows your figure?
What do people expect you to wear? A sack?

Wearing a bodycon dress does rather scream "Look at MEEEEE!" Don't do it.

I don't think it can be that one, spookle.

The OP is now saying it's made of cotton, which is impossible to make "figure hugging" as it's not stretchy.

It started out sounded like a dress you'd wear clubbing and ended up sounding like something Ma Walton would approve of.

takemedowntopotatocity - fully agree with your post.

crazy so the OP should wear something less flattering and something she feels less amazing in, all to please her friend?

If the OP thinks that her friend might be detrimentally affected by insecurity or lack of self esteem because of the OPs dress on her wedding day, then yes. I do think the OP should put her friend first. What's wrong with that? It's called BEING KIND 😊

Only you know whether you wearing the dress will upset the bride or not.

So you make your decision based on that.

I loved how my friends all dressed up and looked fierce at my wedding I took it as a huge compliment.

It started out sounded like a dress you'd wear clubbing and ended up sounding like something Ma Walton would approve of.

It's hard to tell, as you say the dress is a bit different. But for the record, it doesn't look very wedding-elegant, more night out with work (even if knee length). Figure hugging and wedding-elegant is a very very small (and usually expensive) trick to pull off, I think.

So I'm going to say just on the dress you posted, I don't think it sounds as elegant as you could go for (and still look great at your new weight).

Be lovely to your friend, it's her day x

OP, you are a grown up. Well done on achieving your desired weight loss. That I am sure, has come with committment and lifestyle changes.. I say, wear your dress, your question has come from your mother and perhaps prompted feelings of guilt that are not appropriate? Wear your dress, you are a grown up and make the decisions yourself! Don't give others the power to pronounce judgement! Have a lovely day, comfortable in your own skin and genuninely happy for your friend.i.e you should not be self conscious. x

Knee length dress is fine. Wear it.

I don't know what people on here think the OP should be doing, wearing a sack to disguise her weight loss?! What about the other female guests who have always been slim? Should they wear sacks too?

it's not the OP's fault that the bride hasn't managed to lose weight.

And surely, surely never bodycon for a wedding, anyway?

Agreed. I think you can go figure hugging in a structured dress, e.g. the Kate Middleton one (maybe less boring obviously) but not actual bodycon.

The bride is going to be the star of the day, whatever style of dress she wears and whatever size she is. No guest is going to take that attention away from her. Wear your new dress and wear it with pride - you've done something amazing.