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Would you leave pretty bratty 14 yr old girl alone regularly with decent-looking young male piano teacher with no visible mention of partner?

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Evelight · 26/06/2017 16:29

Well would you? Or is my mind screwed up by Nabakov and The Police etc etc during my impressionable years?

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EarlessToothlessVagabond · 26/06/2017 16:29

I'm not sure where to start with this...


Sunnymorningwithbacon · 26/06/2017 16:30

What the ??

Yes of course

Do you think people with partners aren't abusers?


Pengggwn · 26/06/2017 16:31

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PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 26/06/2017 16:31

I'm with Earless.
Are you assuming that because he is male that he is going to groom the teenager or that the teenager is going to try something on with the teacher?

What are your concerns?


Rinoachicken · 26/06/2017 16:32

Are you the 'invisible' partner??


rightwhine · 26/06/2017 16:32

I'd trust the teacher. It sounds as if you don't trust the 14 year old though.


GeillisTheWitch · 26/06/2017 16:33

Nah, obviously all menz are evil predatory types who just can't resist a young teen Hmm.


araiwa · 26/06/2017 16:34

good lord no. all men are sexual predators and paedophiles

you should be reported to ss for putting a child in such a vulnerable, dangerous situation


FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 26/06/2017 16:34

Are you serious?
Of course.

Though from your title, I can't even work out which way your 'concern' is.


Evelight · 26/06/2017 16:35

right, so I should have no concerns? I am trying not to assume anything,
(though given the cultural heritage isn't easy!) but I can't help thinking that if I dropped her off at his place and didn't stay and something went wrong, then everybody (my own family first of all) would say, well what did you expect!!

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Sunnymorningwithbacon · 26/06/2017 16:36

so if a man has a partner he's not a predator?


BandeauSally · 26/06/2017 16:36

Cultural heritage?


chickenowner · 26/06/2017 16:36

Not all teachers are abusers.

In fact, the vast majority of us are not.


Broken11Girl · 26/06/2017 16:36


BikeRunSki · 26/06/2017 16:37

I largely went to my music lessons because I had a crush on my young, single teacher. It was utterly unrequited! It made my day when I got to 6th form and I was allowed out of school and I went to get his coffee! (1980s....).

He's nice looking, potentially single young man. This doesn't make him a criminal! Is this private lessons or school lessons? Is he DBS checked? How did you come across him?


FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 26/06/2017 16:37

Can I also ask, how would he have mentioned a partner?
"Come to my piano lessons in my house that I share with my partner"


sparechange · 26/06/2017 16:37

So is the problem her being bratty, him being good looking or him having no partner?

Most bizarre thread I've seen in a while Blush


Rinoachicken · 26/06/2017 16:38

Well, have you checked his credentials? Is he DBS checked for example? References from other other pupils/parents? Assuming they are all above board then it's reasonable to expect the girl to be safe.

Doesn't mean nothing bad will happen but then she could get run over by a bus so...


OnionKnight · 26/06/2017 16:38

Nope, all men are pedophiles and they should all wear sandwich boards with NONCE in big letters on them.



TheNiffler · 26/06/2017 16:38

I think you're going to have to expand on the cultural heritage bit, and explain where you are in this situation.

But no, of course there shouldn't be anything to worry about. Guy is a teacher, he has a reputation to uphold.


endofthelinefinally · 26/06/2017 16:38

No. Because it wouldnt be fair on the piano teacher.


Rinoachicken · 26/06/2017 16:39

To clarify - if you've done the usual checks then she should be as safe in his house as at school


Sunnymorningwithbacon · 26/06/2017 16:39

I regularly leave DD in the house with a young man in his 20s who has no mention of a partner. Overnight and all.

Should I report myself to social services?

Or not be concerned because he's her brother?


FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 26/06/2017 16:39

Piano sounds a bit like paedo. Could be a clue.


AddictedToDrPepper · 26/06/2017 16:40

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