Would you leave pretty bratty 14 yr old girl alone regularly with decent-looking young male piano teacher with no visible mention of partner?

[Evelight]

Well would you? Or is my mind screwed up by Nabakov and The Police etc etc during my impressionable years?

And this is DEFINITELY NOT the same poster with the ( ahem ) partner and thesis situation then?

This is not the angry homework ejaculator poster, no.

For the love of God, she's not casting aspersions on music teachers but is expressing concern about what her DD might do.

But why?

I am reasonably sure an adult man can defend himself against a 14 year old girl.

I'd be much more worried about him assaulting her.

It's a matter of what risks you want to take.

(And it is not about music teachers, it is about men. I would leave a child alone with a female piano teacher, no problem)

Wouldn't be much worried about grooming. Once you are aware of the risk, you'd probably be able to notice if he was grooming her.

Thanks for the clarification, Raspberry

I was a teenager in the 90s (how the fuck was that twenty years ago?!), what is the river of dreams you speak of Funnyfarmer?

WTAF

I am reasonably sure an adult man can defend himself against a 14 year old girl.

no, an adult male has no defenses what so ever against the imagination of a 14 year old girl, and I am very very surprised at the ignorance about safe guarding shown here.

Safe guarding is a much about protecting the adult as the child. The most vulnerable person is actually quite often the adult, not the child, and any adult not following the simple basics, (like not being alone with a pupil, ever,) is very very vulnerable indeed.

I am sure Vestal realises that perfectly well, yet it is to her, utterly unimportant.

If the OP is that concerned why doesn't she find a female tutor?

I don't think Sting can really be used as a credible source. He advocates walking through, lying in, and indeed shagging in fields of barley, which is hardly following the Countryside Code.

I mean, Sting's arguably the Theresa May of Polite Rock.

And to whoever suggested the doors are always left open when we work in schools, imagine if trumpet lessons took place with the doors open! There would soon be complaints. What a load of nonsense.

Whilst I agree with you completely how damaging it is to assume music teachers shouldn't work in pupils homes etc. and trumpet lessons in schools would have the door closed; every door in a school that is used for pupils should have a window, so that you can look in to the room if the door is closed. That is not nonsense.

Oh god

But why?

I don't expect we'll ever find out now. I don't think OP is coming back. The unusual use of "bratty" remains our best clue, which is slight as clues go.