Would you leave pretty bratty 14 yr old girl alone regularly with decent-looking young male piano teacher with no visible mention of partner?

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Well would you? Or is my mind screwed up by Nabakov and The Police etc etc during my impressionable years?

The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie was published in the early 60s, Lolita in the 50s - how is the fact that you grew up in the 90s of any relevance at all? I can't follow your train of thought at all but you don't think much of either the 14 year old or the prospective teacher do you?

Sunnymorningwithbacon That or "decent-looking". Like a young male piano teacher.

you sound quite strange.

Describing your own child as "bratty" infering you mean it in a sexual way.

Thinking all piano teachers want sex with their underage clients if they don't have any visible signs of a partner.

Odd odd odd.

Are you getting off on this or something?

So because Sting wrote one song about an inappropriate relationship between a teacher and pupil you think all male teachers are sexual predators.....

I've a dd this age and I think you're normal that the thought passed through your head. Partner or no partner - makes no difference. Sure there's a 55 year old on here with a wife which hardly makes it less bad imo sleeping with an 18 year old he met when she was only 16 through a musical activity, so these things do happen. You'll be lynched for wondering out loud though.

Do you even know what cultural heritage means?
And all those things you listed are from the 60's and 70's anyway so not associated with the 90's anyway..

If you're concerned can you wait in the kitchen while he teaches?

I've got the solution.

OP, why not dress the child up so she looks ugly? And ask the decent-looking guy to look the other way for extra security?

How does your teen being "bratty" have any bearing on the whole pervert piano teacher situation?
Have you used the word "bratty" in place of another descriptive?

Actually reading again, I haven't got a fucking clue what you are on about.

Hahahha this thread

All music teachers are paedos.

And school teachers. And vicars. And scout leaders. And dance teachers. And football coaches. Every single one of them.

How "bratty" does the teen have to be, before it ceases to matter if this man is a potential threat?

Not a nice way to refer to your DD (I presume she's your DD) OP.

If you're that worried why don't you stay for the first lesson, and see how you, and mostly importantly, she, find him?

What's the issue?

That your bratty 14yo might deduce her piano teacher? That she might rebel against you by taking up with her piano teacher? How do you know he'd be game? What does him having no visible partner have to do with anything? What if he's a decent fellow? What if he's gay? What if he's, you know, not into 14yo girls?

If you're worried your daughter is a bit of a Lolita, you've got bigger problems on your hands than her piano teacher, pet.

The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie was published in the early 60s, Lolita in the 50s

And "Don't Stand So Close to Me" by the Police was released in 1980.

That teacher (Jeremy) who ran off to France with his student was married.

So unattractive shy girls don't get abused?

JessicaEccles Correct! Unattractive girls do not get abused. Ugly men are not abusers, and men with partners as similarly, not abusers. Why else would OP be worried?

There is really so much wrong with your post that I'm starting to wonder if you were a victim of abuse in your childhood.

I agree with trulybadly, stay for the first lesson. It will put your mind at ease.

Your reasoning (Miss Brodie, Lolita, etc) is quite weird considering that it's all fictional, but unfortunately I am one of the few who understands full well that teachers can be abusers, and priests can be abusers, and sports coaches can be abusers, and so can every other professional. It doesn't sound like you've even met the teacher yet though? Save your gut feelings for then. It will probably all be fine!

Yeah but piano teachers are notoriously letchy aren't they? Especially the good looking ones.

You could get an extendable piano stool and sit inbetween them?

I think that's reasonable given the risks.

Most pervs are old and ugly so I think you're okay THIS TIME.

Huh?! What??

Oh god, this is so sad. My very handsome 16 year old DS gives guitar lessons to girls as young as six. Op please have a word with yourself ASAP.

I grew up in the 90s and have no idea what bizarre point you are trying to get across.