To stay in all day because DP won't apologise

[SpaceDuck]

That's all I want. And he is refusing because he doesn't think he is in the wrong.

So, I have been with DP for 8 years and we have 1 DS who is 9 months old and has just started walking. Obviously with this comes the odd fall/bump. I'm not going to constantly follow him around, I just let him get on with it and he's really got he hang of it.

On Friday, I was looking through the contract for our new house that has just arrived, when DS came toddling over near me. DP said 'watch him, he's just there'. He kind of stumbled a bit but then righted himself so I thought he was ok. About 5 seconds later he takes another couple of steps, trips over his feet and knocks his head on the coffee table (he's pulled all the corner protectors off). He cried but was fine after a quick kiss and a cuddle. DP completely went off on one, saying it was my fault and could of been avoided if I'd just done as he'd asked and watched him. I need to be more 'pro-active' instead of 'reactive' . Ok, he had a point I wasn't watching, however, it's not what he said that is my issue. It's the way he spoke to me. Like I'm some kind of child (he works with kids) and I don't like it. I will also add that 3 days before this, the exact same thing happened when DS was stood right next to him, do you think I went off on him? No, I bloody didn't because I know these things happen.

So we haven't spoken since then, other than the usual 'so are you just not gonna speak to me' 'are you gonna be in a mood all weekend now' blah blah blah. I said when I get an apology, then we can carry on. However, he is still point blank refusing, saying that the only way I ever listen to him is if he speaks to me like that. He always says it and it infuriates me. He doesn't think he's in the wrong but I am not backing down either and think he should apologise.

He is usually very quick to apologise when he's in the wrong or spoken to me badly, but this time he is digging his heals in and I don't know why.

We're meant to be going out with friends when DS wakes up but I really don't want to now because I think it will be obvious to everyone that we have fallen out.

So am I being a baby? Should I just forget about it or hold out for an apology?

Thank you for all the responses. Very interesting to get a varied response.

To clear a few things up:

1. Yes he was playing a game on his phone. Not a phone call. Nothing important.

1. DS had walked off from him so in theory if you're all expecting me to follow him round, DP should have followed him when he started walking off from him.

1. He wasn't that far it's just I was a bit closer.

1. There aren't any other 'hazards' in the living room that he could hurt himself on and the coffee table will be going. There are stair gates on nearly every door way, and by leave him to it, I don't just let him loose with the kitchen knives

1. The corner protectors are large and not a choking hazard and are replaced whenever he pulls them off. The house is child proofed and I am in no way 'laid back' about my child's safety.

1. DS wasn't injured or maimed, he had a tiny bump on the head that left a non lasting red mark.

1. DS is very independent already and is quite happy to play on his own, he will get up and toddle around without the need for me to follow him round non stop - this is what I meant by leave him to it.

1. I have already apologised for not watching DS and told him not to speak to me like a child.

1. He doesn't expect me to do 'the wife work', he does his fair share of housework and childcare.

10. He wasn't upset that DS got hurt, he was more pissed that I didn't listen to him when he told me to watch him.

Anyway, it's all sorted now. I got my apology. We have had a lovely afternoon with friends. Time to get DS is the bath and to bed now.

If the baby was right next to me and wobbly on their feet, I'd have either stopped what I was doing to tend to him or asked my DP to keep an eye on or move him out of harms way. in my house it's entirely possible for a child to be next to me and out of reach of my DP but within eyesight and I would expect him to cross the room to catch a child who was right next to me unless I couldn't physically deal with him.

He shouldn't have spoken to you like shit, but the way to deal with that is to have a conversation not to sulk until he gives you an apology. It may be that in the course of talking about it you find some middle ground where you see his point re supervising the baby and he recognises he spoke to you poorly but either huffing or pretending it's all ok isn't going to achieve much.

Glad to hear it op.

Instead of child proof corners (rubbish!), I can recommend pipe insulation attached with gaffer tape. We've used it with two accident prone boys on our coffee table and tv stand. Works a treat as they bounce off corners & edges, & the gaffer tape stops them eating the pipe insulation. Note: both pieces of furniture will be replaced after they've grown out of head butting the table as the tape removes the varnish!

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