To feel a bit shit that nobody sponsored me?

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I signed up to do the 10,000 steps a day thing for Cancer Research. I put my fundraising page on FB, Twitter but not one person has sponsored me. I know money's tight for most of us at the moment, but to not raise even a penny makes me feel shit. AIBU to take it so personally?

You think you can decide what is worth supporting to other people. You want people to give their money to a charity you want to give to, and you complain when they won't. You don't know how much they give elsewhere. How dare you complain about them not giving to you?

Wow you're really quite angry about this, has it hit a nerve?

I sponsorship has had its day. People are sick of it.

The last time I got asked for sponsorship it was the Aspire swim challenge. You have to swim the length of the English Channel in a swimming pool but get this, you have 12 weeks to do it. So the channel is 1340 lengths of a 25m pool so that works out at just over 15 lenghts per day. I can 15 lengths in about 12 minutes and I am a crap swimmer. What is challenging about that?

It is the same as the 10,000 steps thing.

But then the people who climb Mount Kilimajaro or walk the Great Wall of China: half the sponsorship money raised goes to pay for their free holiday, so I'm not sponsoring things like that either.

An old colleague does triathlons, marathons, etc all the time but she is SUPER fit and it not really a challenge for her.

I don't sponsor anyone anymore. I'd rather give to my charities.

I've only done a charity race once several years ago. One of my colleagues told me she only gives to charities she chooses to donate to. Fine. But then the next month she did a charity race herself and sent me an email asking for sponsorship. OKAAAAAAY. Get. To. Fuck.

Crazykitten20..

I assume this was a one off where he was doing something specific..

Oh and with the Aspire challenge to swim the channel, just think how much money you would spend over 12 weeks for entry to a swimming to a swimming pool! Just take the money you would have to spend on pool entry and give it to charity is what I would do.

And I'm not sure I was 'complaining' about them not 'giving their money to me' I was just saying I felt a bit shit about it. People are absolutely free to spend their money how they want but surely I'm allowed to feel a bit disappointed that out of 200+ friends not one could spare even £1? I know it's easy for things to be overlooked on FB and that's probably what's happened but in my (undeniably messed up) head it's every single friend seeing my post and making a conscious decision to ignore it.

I'm not remotely angry, don't try and infer feelings from text on a screen. It's both inaccurate and dickish.

Ok so now we've resorted to insults? So I'm a dick for thinking you're angry about this, if it doesn't bother you why are you responding? Where have I written that I personally think you should sponsor me a million pounds and that I judge you for not doing so?
Where have I said that I think anyone should sponsor me? I'm just feeling a bit shit that nobody has, not pointing fingers at anyone in particular.

It was a one off Frasersmummy. And specific. But not sponsored. I am amazed he managed to do that many steps in 18 hours!

I agree sponsorship is reaching saturation.

OP..I think you need to divide the issues..Your MH will improve, when I did the great north swim I had to arrange for a family member to stand on the side of the lake with my DS as I am a LP so I get it is tough.

However for me the challenge was to do something for me. If I sponsored everyone on my FB who did a sponsored event it would cost me far more than I plan to spend on other people's charity. I already sponsor a child abroad and give to what cause I want.

I get lots of colour rush, bubble rush challenge come up on my FB. I would like to do them because they look fun..I don't expect anyone to pay me too do that.

Where have I said that I think anyone should sponsor me?

You've said it multiple times in different ways. Perhaps you should pay attention to your own posts if no-one elses?

Starlight2345 is correct x

@LiveLongAndProspero you're putting words in my mouth now. Which is dickish and inaccurate. Why does it apparently bother you so much?

Yes
YABVVVU to take it personally.

I never sponsor anyone. I will decide when, where and to whom I donate money. I don't care if you're a 15 yr old doing World Challenge, cycling to Vietnam or doing an easy 10k steps a day. Your sense of entitlement is very strange - why do you expect people to give you money?

I'm with LiveLong on this. And you're taking that poster's comments personally too. Chill.

TBH, I see loads of sponsorship requests on FB.

I can't donate to them all. Can't afford to.

I would usually choose an animal charity above others (personal choice, plus I have my monthly charity sponsorships every month) and above that I would sponsor things that were important to me.

I probably wouldn't sponsor someone to do a bog standard thing most people do every day I.e 10,000 steps.

Wow VVV unreasonable, I think that's a first for me. Why do you and Livelong think I'm expecting anyone to give ME money? Nobody is giving me anything. I don't think I've been entitled at all. I've said I feel disappointed I haven't been sponsored, not that I feel I have a right to be sponsored.

Agree with TQ (how you feeling today TQ?)

I don't always sponsor. But I have about £100 a month going out to CRUK, cats protection, great ormond, Labour Party, and v close to my heart local animal shelter.

People are often donating so much that they have a limit.

And I'm not sure I was 'complaining' about them

Then it's my bad. I very much got the sense you were taking it personally and were unhappy. I'm sorry.

@crazykitten20 the complete sentence was 'I'm not sure I was complaining about them not giving their money to me'. Context is everything.

My mum has just done something for Christian Aid, and no one sponsored her either (apart from me and two friends after i put it on FB) I just think people don't have the spare money any more.

I'm going to step away from this thread now, I've had a couple of glasses of wine and I'm sure it's clouded my judgement a wee bit. I don't want to get into a slanging match with anyone. For the record though I don't feel entitled to anyone's money, but even getting a total of £5 sponsorship from my combined friends would have meant the world to me and I think I'm allowed to feel a bit disappointed that I didn't manage it. But I get that most people are saturated with sponsorship requests. And I'll donate the £5 I was hoping for myself. And massive, massive thanks to the people from this thread who PM'd me and sponsored me, that genuinely wasn't why I started this thread.

Grief .... I apologised to you for my misunderstanding. And you're still having a dig? 🙄

I think often people look at these posts and intend to sponsor you later and just forget. I have done only one sponsored event in the last 20 years and it wasn't one of those 'pay for me to go and do something I want to do type things'. No one sponsored me, but I re-shared it a second time a couple of weeks later as I felt a bit miffed as I'd recently sponsored quite a large number of friends in their events, and I thought some of them would sponsor me (esp SIL who harasses us non stop to sponsor her various trips of a lifetime under the guise of charity). Second time round lots of people (but not SIL) sponsored me.
May well have just gone out of people's heads.

I agree with all those saying that the whole 'sponsorship' thing has just reached saturation point. Like so many others, I get requests to 'sponsor' people to do things on a weekly basis. I ignore them. Not because of how much or how little effort person is putting in (FWIW, 10,000 steps even one day a week would be a HUGE effort for me - BUT, it would be a huge effort that I'd make to benefit my health, both physical and mental, not something I'd expect people to divert their charitable giving to my choice of charity though). Like so many others, I have chosen the charities I support and have regular standing orders and direct debits which I can gift aid and the charities know they get regular income they can budget with. That doesn't then leave lots spare for other peoples charity choices. Yes, if you were passing round a form at a meeting or social occasion and I had a couple of quid I could chuck in I probably would, but the internet links all have a higher expectation of amounts than that, which I've committed elsewhere.

I think your family or close mates could have spared a few quid.