To feel a bit shit that nobody sponsored me?

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I signed up to do the 10,000 steps a day thing for Cancer Research. I put my fundraising page on FB, Twitter but not one person has sponsored me. I know money's tight for most of us at the moment, but to not raise even a penny makes me feel shit. AIBU to take it so personally?

If it's for a well known charity, there's no real incentive if someone doesn't do anything special

Tosh. Like many others I have monthly standing orders to the charities I support. No one needs to do anything special for the charities to get my money (far less something as uninspiring as walking 10,000 steps -for any one without a disability it really isn't anything special )

I am completely fed up of "please sponsor me" or the charity which my workplace supports and which it expects me to support also.

being asked to sponsor people's every minor daily task is annoying. sorry, no thanks.

Recent things I've sponsored:

2500 KM bike ride
26 mile walk
(Both raising for causes close to their heart)
Someone raising money for a charity related to the cause of death of someone I went to school with who died very young.

10,000 steps is the average number of steps you do a day, it would be akin to sponsoring an 7 hour sleep surely.

I made the decision last year not to sponsor anything. I get a lot of requests and it adds up so fast, and I am not going to be drawn into figuring out which tasks or charities are more worthy than others so it's a flat no. If I'm better off financially someday then I may change that. :)

Also my pet hate is people posting links to their Just Giving and they've not even bothered to edit the generic blurb.

I have at least 20 people on my social media asking me/others to sponser them and I just can't afford to sponsor them all.
You aren't doing anything that really pushes you and cancer research charity is a little broad with no immediate results. Most (or a lot) give to cancer research monthly anyway or do the big Race for Life sponsored runs. I'm more likely to sponsor someone who is climbing a mountain to raise money to buy their child a wheelchair or for someone who needs specific cancer treatment. That way, I follow the sponsorship page and get to see exactly how I've contributed.

Well done for taking the initiative to do it though. Still do the steps for your own benefit and make your own personal donation

Op I think Starlight post is lovely. Focus on the positive here rather than negative posters.

It can understand why it would be hurtful fir not a single person to sponsor you from your friends and family. They could have made an effort on this occasion.
Good luck with it

Please excuse my above spelling of 'sponsor,' my excuse is that I'm multitasking
When is mumsent going to allow us to edit posts!?

I don't think that walking a bit more, growing a moustache, having a "dry" month are really worthy of sponsorship.

• walking a bit more is just being marginally more active
• most men can grow a moustache
• if going alcohol free for a month is a challenge then it's not fundraising it's a sign of an alcohol problem

Like other posters for me to sponsor somebody it needs to be a reasonable challenge.

Not read the full thread.

As been said, people tend to Sponsor events where the person is doing something quite challenging and walking 10'000 is just a normal day for a lot of people. If however you have a health problem or disability that makes 10'000 steps a huge achievement for you then good for you!!!

I can see why you'd be hurt though.

I totally see your point about if everyone donated £1 but I think a lot of people would feel embarrassed to be seen to donate 'just' that amount so choose not to instead.

Chin up though - what cause are you raising money for?

I have a few criteria for giving

1. It's a cause close to my heart or very personal to that person, i.e. Their mum died of the disease.
2. They are doing something really challenging.
3. They are a very close friend.

Dh and DD have done sponsored events in past few years. DD had to raise just over £100 in a short space of time and some people were really generous. I had to ask in person though - I asked good friends. DH did something more unusual and also was well-sponsored but it was about 7 years ago before 'fatigue' set in! I actually gave money for a friend's son's sponsored walk yesterday as it fit my first criteria.

Op Fwiw I also think 10k a day is an achievement. I have a tracker and don't always manage it.

op bloody well done for getting up and out and trying to make some positive changes! Well done you!!

As a lone parent I'm guessing you are juggling a few extra balls than everyone else. YANBU at all

TBH, it's not the task performed which necessarily makes me want to sponsor someone, but the cause. I will always sponsor or give to Cancer charities as I've lost people close to me to this disease, and also animal charities as I love and care about animals.

"I have at least 20 people on my social media asking me/others to sponser them and I just can't afford to sponsor them all. "

This is pretty much what the OP has been saying for 8 pages- she's dissapointed NONE of her friends prioritised her. She's sad that
1/ people who she's sponsored in the past haven't returned the favour
2/ people who know her (and would know exactly how difficult this challenge may be for her) haven't shown any support.

It doesn't cost anything to send a supportive message/comment explaining you can't make a monetary donation but well done you for trying, OP.

I've just completed the race for life and just put £50 of my own money in. I didn't get sponsors as just didn't have the time and also recognise that people are a bit charity fatigued these days.

10K steps equals to dry whatever month. I see no reason to sponsor something normal. If that person were just out of wheelchair after a serious accident or illness, that would be a totally different situation.

I do agree with PP that most of these sponsorship events are quite self indulgent. Why would I want to sponsor you for trying to become more healthy and active? Lots of people do that and don't expect me to donate money in their name.

If you want to be sponsored, I think you need to have a real driver behind the cause. A few years ago, a local, very popular guy died of a brain tumour. Some of his friends raised several £1000s through different sponsorship events in his name because people loved this guy and wanted to support the charities that had helped him in his last days. I didn't know the guy, but I ended up donating because the love and enthusiasm around his story was infectious and worthwhile.

A blanket 'I'm going to do X challenge to raise money for big, well advertised charity' isn't inspiring and is rather lacklustre. I'd rather just pick my own charity to donate to than sponsor someone in that scenario.

I have a friend who has a dry January thing every year - it's so boring.
Nothing should be that hard unless you have issues

On a side point my friend who was organising his second paid holiday charity trip abroad has had to cancel as no one sponsored him this time around.
Going on an big holiday does not 'raise awareness' for your big charity - sorry

I wouldn't sponsor that. First, it's only walking, and second, it's not a remotely impressive amount of walking.

If you did, say, an hour's picking up litter every day then I'd be much more inclined to cough up.

I never sponsor anyone for anything (well except for dcs, because we won't allow them to ask other people) if you wish to do a run, walk or whatever go for it, if you want to help a charity stick your hand in your own pocket. We do regularly give to carefully selected charities....but I won't be pressured to give to other people's projects.

Please don't take it personally op. People are sponsored out. Well done for doing something challenging for yourself.
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co incidentally I switched on my FB this am and there was a sponsor request from someone for a relative of someone I know , and another request from someone I would call a FB friend more than a friend so thats 2 requests I have ignored this morning. It isn't personnel. I just don't want to give every time someone does something.

Thank you to the people who have RTFT rather than STILL commenting that 10K steps per day isn't a worthwhile challenge.