AIBU? Disinvited from friend's wedding

[Working24x7]

My friend moved to London a couple of years ago and is having a fab wedding in the Dorchester. We never go out / holidays since having kids so booked a room and a nanny (she said no kids) from the hotel as a rare treat.
I was so excited, booked hairdresser, new dress, and she then said kids can come too, they were looking forward to the party. She's just phoned me and bumped us from the wedding to make room for grooms extended family........ I feel a fool, had booked the hotel etc months ago.

[SouthWindsWesterly]

That's jut bloody awful. Can you get your money back for the hotel?

[Funnyface1]

That is very bold and I can understand why you are disappointed. Find a way to enjoy the time either way, whether you go and have a night out or get a refund and go somewhere else. I think if it were me I'd be backing right off from this friendship.

[McTufty]

Tacky and rude. I hope she is suitably ashamed of herself.

[ShinyGirl]

Promise us when people drop out and she begs you to go you'll say no

[Branleuse]

how rude of her. Not surprised youre upset

[LagunaBubbles]

Decent people just wouldn't do that, it's beyond rude! That would be the end of the friendship for me I'm afraid

[NorksAreMessy]

[diddl]

That is awful. Would you lose money by cancelling?

I might want to change the day/go elsewhere so that I wouldn't bump into her tbh.

[RuggerHug]

What was said by pp. When she asks you to join again tell her no. What a wagon...

[TheLegendOfBeans]

Did you

a) get an actual invite?
b) rsvp with a "yes we will be coming"
c) get invited for the whole day?

If you managed a) and b) then she's a brass-necked cheeky bastard and should be excommunicated forthwith.

[Deathraystare]

Reply with "What a shame. Still, your fiancé's distant family can pay us to take over the hotel room so at least we won't be ££££ out of pocket. I know you wouldn't want that!"


Yes, Deffo. Even if she reconsiders, gets down on bended knee, crawls through broken glass to plead with you to come, don't go. Remove her contact details. This is not a friend.

[user1492287253]

rarely do i think that something is outrageous. but this is .

[lanouvelleheloise]

That is SO rude!

Enjoy your break. And don't bother with your friend in future!

[HotelEuphoria]

What? You can't do this. If she has sent you an invite then retracted it I would send her a polite email explaining how disappointed I was and how rude Andy thoughtless her actions were and cut her off.

She sounds up her own bum.

[Hissy]

You should be able to cancel the room, the hairdresser and nanny

Guessing the dress is too late to return, and the friendship you had is looooooonng gone.

She should be ashamed

Make sure that this snippet gets out to EVERYONE!

[ChasedByBees]

That's so unbelievably rude. You've bought a new dress so will be out of pocket regardless. I assume she knows that?

[innagazing]

How upsetting for you! Very mean and thoughtless of her. As others have said, I can't see how the friendship can survive this, so you may as well go on the weekend anyway, and have a fabulous time! Tell her that as you no longer consider her a friend ,you won't be speaking to her if you happen to see her.

[MissDuke]

What a 'horrible' friend! I would definitely encourage you to go anyway, have a lovely night away in a swish hotel and a nice meal in a restaurant of your choosing. No boring speeches, no eating at a table with a bunch of randomers, no having to buy an expensive present

Go and have fun!

[Mistletoekids]

Appalling behaviour.

have a night out anyway and be glad you at least know where you stand before you give her any more of your time

Have fun! Could be the best thing that happened!

[Notthisnotthat]

How rude. I wouldn't be able to get over this.

[Artus]

I'm sure it will make the Daily Mail!

[SparklyMagpie]

I would still be using the nanny, getting my hair done etc and looking a million dollars and going out with the OH and staying over.

I wouldn't even try to change the date, i'd hope she and family would see me, she'd feel like a prize dick for it

Enjoy your time away OP, make it a good'n

[UrsulaPandress]

More front than Blackpool.

[Only1scoop]

Love Sparkly's idea
Perfect
Your 'friend' has no class Op. Be sure to enjoy your weekend.

[blueskyinmarch]

That’s awful. She is no friend. I agree that you should still go to the hotel and be VERY conspicuous as you sip your cocktails in the bar looking fabulous in your new dress.