AIBU? Disinvited from friend's wedding

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My friend moved to London a couple of years ago and is having a fab wedding in the Dorchester. We never go out / holidays since having kids so booked a room and a nanny (she said no kids) from the hotel as a rare treat.
I was so excited, booked hairdresser, new dress, and she then said kids can come too, they were looking forward to the party. She's just phoned me and bumped us from the wedding to make room for grooms extended family........ I feel a fool, had booked the hotel etc months ago.

Outrageous, I would be deleting her number pronto

Outrageous!

Whether the bride feels awful or not - if you can't get a refund or an exchange of dates from the hotel - it's entirely reasonable to ask her for immediate recompense.

So I must be the only one who misread and thought the wedding was in Dorchester, Dorset.

Lovely little town to visit. Don't think they've got a champagne bar. Teddy Bear Museum though.

My friend moved to London a couple of years ago and is having a fab wedding in the Dorchester.

Because she said the Dorchester I think it's the hotel.

What everyone has said. That is just outrageously rude! This person would now be a former friend I'm afraid, if it were me.

How bloody rude!! Did you explain you'd already booked your hotel etc? still go to the hotel etc and have a fun weekend you and OH xx

Why don't you take your family away for a nice weekend somewhere anyway and wear your dress etc? Don't give this 'friend' a card or wedding present and perhaps dump her? I would!!

Intolerance and knee-jerk one strike and you're out reigns supreme on Mumsnet.....
I do wonder if there is envy involved here? My guess is that the wealth of the bride raises the temperature here.

I got bumped from a wedding a few years ago. I didn't even get told personally, got told through my DH. I was pretty I didn't think it was a done thing but apparently it is!
I would do as others suggested and say it's fine but someone will need to take your room as you've already paid.

No Neutrogena, the woman was incredibly rude and should have organised the invite system better. I would be gutted if someone did that to me. It's just not a nice thing to do to anyone.

What an srsehole😡

People should just elope. Then this sort of thing wouldn't occur!

Sorry I missed the update re invitation

She sounds like a bitch.
Go away anyway-it'll be more fun that a boring wedding anyway!
Bin her off!

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Neutrogena, the woman was incredibly rude and should have organised the invite system better. I would be gutted if someone did that to me. It's just not a nice thing to do to anyone

Agreed it's v v v rude and disorganised. However, my point is still correct. No second chances to a lot of MNers. Do something you guys don't like and it's the end of the friendship. Talk about intolerance

I was asked to be a Godmother once, then had to prompt my friend 'what day is the christening?' The answer was: 'Oh, um, you are not going to be the Godmother any more.' Me: 'Why not?' Her: 'My husband says he doesn't like you any more'.

Ah Neutrogena is back again! Uninviting anyone to an event, whether it is a girls night out, a house party, a fabulous wedding, a child's birthday party or drinking cans in a ditch, is rude and not very classy at all. It was wrong no matter what way you look at it.

@Neutrogwna the bride has cost the op money. In this case the op is right. The onus is on the bride/groom to get it right.

Why would you give somebody like that a second chance. And no you're still not correct. People have different cut off points and this is the ops

"I do wonder if there is envy involved here? My guess is that the wealth of the bride raises the temperature here."

What an incredibly snide and baseless remark.

Elchupacabara - I totally agree. It was v v v rude and wrong.
What is also wrong is to destroy tee friendship over it. That reeks of intolerance.

I do wonder if there is envy involved here? My guess is that the wealth of the bride raises the temperature here."

Well then the bride can pay op can't ahe

"I do wonder if there is envy involved here? My guess is that the wealth of the bride raises the temperature here."

'What an incredibly snide and baseless remark.'

I can't help but observe that clearly the bride does not exactly have 'wealth' or else she wouldn't be rudely disinviting guests

Neutrogena , had you been subjected to a withdrawn invitation, particularly if you had gone to great lengths and possible expense, would you not re-evaluate the friendship? Personally I might not be the type of person who goes in all guns blazing but I wouldn't allow someone to make a bollocks out of me and I would certainly be taking a step back from that particular 'friendship'.

I would definitely be re-evaluating the friendship. Because the bride has shown she's not your friend. And yes, I would probably decide that there is no longer a friendship. Anyone who can allow a friend to spend that amount of money and then cancel the invitation, does not care about you. We have no way of knowing whether the open can get a refund on anything she's paid out. Often, booking early can get you a deal on price, but with a no refund condition. And depending on when clothes were bought, it may be too late to return them now.
I found out a long-standing friend had lied to me about her wedding. She told me it was going to be just her, groom and immediate families. Fine, I was genuinely happy for her. On the her night I found out that she was actually having a much bigger wedding, invited lots of her 'new'friends, but not me. I was the only one at the her do who hadn't been invited. That hurt. If she had explained it to me, I would still have been hurt, but I could have got over it. The lying was the thing I cannot get over. She is no longer my friend.

OP the wedding isn't this coming weekend by any chance is it?